(Closed) anyone else feeling like a bridebot?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

god, I feel that way and we’re not even getting married till 8/09!

 We went on a date last night, no wedding talk and no talk of the 6 month move to england.  It really helped, because it took the things we were most stressed about away from the table and allowed us to enjoy being just us.  So, find a night to spare (sooner than later) and reconnect about all those great things that make the two of you the two of you.

Step away from the glue!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I just got married in October and i felt that way!! People kept asking if everything was ok. Some of my friends even hoped I would go back to my normal self after the wedding but I compeltley understand it like you are a zombie disconnected from the real world. I felt as if I were going through the motions but that I was not really there…it is definitely a weird feeling.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I know what you mean, and our day is still 7 months away!  I have been in hard-core wedding mode for 3 weeks, and already my professional and personal life is suffering.  (I’m a big DIYer, so I’ve been researching potential projects and figuring out what I want to hire vendors to do vs. do myself.)

I’ve told myself that I can stay wedding obsessed until the end of this week, and then I will start scheduling specific "wedding planning" time on my calender.  It’s sad that it’s come to that, but I need to stop looking at wedding sites at work and boring my male coworkers with all my wedding talk!  🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods

Take a couple days off of everything wedding-related to focus on the other person and your engaged bliss and to regroup.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Wow, I totally know what you mean. My mom and sister (MOH) are not nearby, and they are going through their own stuff…not to mention they are not girly girly types to begin with. So I feel alone and stressed because everything is on my shoulders. At some point I just realized that I have to prioritize…cake tastings are fun, yes, but perhaps I should use that day for something like booking hotel room blocks and just go with a cake baker who has a good reputation. Sad I know, but I have become very practical, very producitivty oriented. I have a full-time job and a great relationship and also enjoy hanging with friends, entertaining, and working out…I am just not readty to completely lose myself in wedding planning. 🙁

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

yah, I was visiting with a friend, and he said…"is anything going on in your life BESIDES the wedding?"  OUCH!  Honestly, that’s about all I want to talk about!  I have a lot of other things going on in my life, but they aren’t as fun (work, school, moving, bleh).

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I go through times like this, and then I try to pull myself away and have some quality time with my fiance.  Luckily we have had a long engagement, because getting that initial vision of what we wanted took me a lot of online time and months where there was nothing else in my life!  We still have 8 months, so I’m hoping that we can just slowly get things done.  But in reality I know there will be more months ahead like this as it gets to be crunch time.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I felt like this a lot in the time leading up to my wedding. You sound like you need a wedding time-out, because I think you’re overdosing on weddings. You might be reading weddingbee too much too (I know I did as well as I got closer to the wedding…it was like an addiction that I couldn’t fight and didn’t even enjoy on many levels). Even if you aren’t DIYing that much, dial it down a knotch by asking friends and family to help or by jettisonning extra projects. This singular focus is what is driving you nuts and sapping your sense of personhood.

Take this weekend and declare a wedding moratorium. Do not discuss, work on, or otherwise think of anything related to the wedding (unless you have like, a vendor appointment you can’t miss). No checking weddingbee!!! Spend time reconnecting with your husband outside of the wedding. It will strengthen your relationship, which is the whole point of getting married anyway. Also, start reading a book (not related to weddings) and make time to read it for at least half an hour a day. The point is to otherwise engage your mind a little each day so you don’t feel so unidimensional.

When wedding planning takes over your life and makes you miserable, it’s time to let it go and focus on you and your sweetie. My husband and I did this a few times during our planning and it helped immensely.

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