Post # 1
The wedding date is coming up quick and I can’t help but feel overwhelmed!!! I have good times where I am happy and excited then I will get really overwhelmed and start crying so hard! It’s like I have 100 things to do and I don’t know what all of them are and don’t know what to do! People have offered to help, but I don’t know what to tell them to do. Then I worry that I am annoying a couple of my friends b/c I feel like I am always complaining or venting. Sometimes I feel really lonely too. Like no one understands what I am going through. My one friend who got married last year said planning was super fun and she wishes she could do it every year. I can’t help but feel like there is something wrong with me!!
Post # 3
It’ll be okay!!! And you’re not alone! I felt the same way for about a month before my wedding. Things would be going great and I’d be excited and then one thing might go wrong or someone would say something or maybe nothing would happen and I would be sooo upset and just flat-out bawling or sobbing. But it will all come together, I promise! It will be okay. I even had a breakdown ON MY wedding day, and even after that, it was all okay. Just get done what you can, and whatever doesn’t get done wasn’t meant to be.
Enjoy your marriage! That is the most important part. The rest is just details!
Post # 4
good to know I’m not alone:)
Post # 5
We all have days of panic! Maybe sit down with a pen and paper and go through the entire day in your head from start to finish and all the things you need for it, and the progression of it All, write down the unfinished items. This always helps me remember things I’ve forgotten in all my scattered thoughts, something like this:
Ceremony starts at 5, so n so walks down the aisle with so n so, then so and so walks, then so and so, oh I need to ask them to walk my grandmother (write that down). Ok then the groom, then me. Decorations will be this this and this and oh I need to finish cutting and gluingmy programs (write that down) etc…
Then delegate the questions, final projects, errands, etc! If people offer to help they really want to! And DON’T FORGET TO HAVE FUN!!! 🙂
Post # 6
I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed. No cold feet…I’m excited beyond words to marry the love of my life. I had fun doing the planning last summer but in the last coupleIOC weeks I’ve just become super stressed and anxious. Like strange wedding related dreams, waking up multiple times at night, and getting horrid stomach cramps/pains after eating even a small meal. It doesn’t help that my beloved grandmother was recently diagnosed with the most aggressive type of stomach cancer and is deteriorating fairly rapidly.
Like I said, I cant wait to marry my Fiance so I don’t know why this is causing me so much stress. we have wonderful wedding coordinators who are handling everything from here on out. (our wedding is on July 1st). I guess I’m just ready for the ceremony, reception, and our 2 week Hawaiian honeymoon. I’m sure I’ll be able to relax once we get to our amazing resort to hang out by the pool and get massages.
Post # 7
Ohhh yours is so soon!!! It’s good to know I’m not alone with stressing out! A sick gramdma can defiantly add to the stress. If I were you I would keep saying Hawaii over and over when you are getting stressed!
Post # 8
I am glad I found this site and to know that I am not alone with stressing out. did any of you bees have help from your fiance? I am feeling alone in the planning….
Post # 9
I am getting married 1 day before you OP, and I go through the same array of emotions. It depends on the day. Some days I am really excited and others I get really stressed. it all depends on what I have left to do. 11 dyas from the wedding I don’t have anything now except for confirming, but I have noticed the days going by slow which euals more time to think if everything will work together.
On the other hand I am forcing myself to relax more (taking walks, separating from technology for a while each night). It has been helping me keep my stress level under control so I don’t break out between now and the wedding.
@crystal27: I didn’t have help, so I gave my Fiance the list from theknot.com of all the things left to do. Ever since then he has been helping with DIY projects and has handled the musicians, which has been his preferred task. I just asked him to pick one thing and take care of it. I sill had to follow up but at last he did something. 🙂
Post # 10
I feel the same! I had my first meltdown last night. And, it’s not because I have cold feet or I can’t handle the wedding planning. It is because the Fiance made me out to look like bridezilla which I am not. He gave me an incomplete guestlist with names missing and with nicknames. i.e. “Uncle Bobby and Jena Q.” <- Not cool. // *sigh* I’m tired.
Post # 11
I feel this way too! We’re trying to set a date and with our work schedules/ insurance issues, it’s tough! And the expenses are crazy! Also- I’m getting married in the Cleveland area, although I don’t live there anymore!