Post # 1
I’m getting married Sept 21 and I’m starting to really feel the pressure…and it’s a year away!!! I’m just starting to feel like I want EVERYTHING to change…well everything short of my wedding colors. When I first started planning I wanted it to be kind of a tea party kind of thing…but then I wanted kind of a wine and cheese type thing, but I still like the whole tea party type thing. Then I have to think about things like cost. My family has talked about cooking the food (specifically out of my late grandfathers cookbook that he used for Christmas and Thanksgiving…he always made tons of candies and other finger foods). I honestly do not think that my Future Mother-In-Law likes the idea. She said “we’ll just call around and see how much it costs to cater things.” I just told her yeah….I’m trying to save money. I’m just not enitrely sure what to do. There are even things like I don’t even want to invite the number of people we have on the list; however, since most of them are family (aunts/uncles/first cousins) and we can’t exactly take them off of the list because we are both EXTREMELY close to our families. One of my aunts and uncles were my foster parents, and all of my cousins are like my sibilings. I really wanted to have some kind of alcohol, but even now, IDK if I should. It can cost a lot of money. I guess I’m looking for some advice. Some support. Some ideas. Maybe some advice on keeping the price down (I have a VERY small budget) or what to do about food…Please read and help! You don’t have to be getting married during this month! Anything is helpful!
Post # 3
@ihavethemusicinme: I feel your pain! We are under a budget as my fiance’ and I are paying for everything ourselves. I have looked at craigslist alot and alot of the resale websites as they have great items on there at an affordable price. As far as food if you can have someone else besides family that will be in the pictures to handle it than that would be a great price reduction. Unfortunately we do not and have to have a caterer. We have even thought of having a caterer bring just the meats and we would handle the sides and drinks. We are also cutting costs by getting married at the park here it is so gorgeous and it is free. We do have a backup as our church also has a chapel in case it decides to rain. I have also changed my mind about how I want the wedding to look but the more I think about it the more I am like at this point I just need to book venue, church, officiant, caterer, and transportation if needed and photographer. After that I will be more relaxed. I am also planning an engagement party on top of things, but it has distracted me from the wedding somewhat. Just remember to relax and know it will all be a ok.
Post # 4
Well, we’re getting married at his moms. I just feel like it’s already turning into a what everyone else wants and thinks thing…However, I feel bad if I say no, especially to his mom since it’s at her house…Luckily I also have a bff who’s a graphics designer and for my wedding gift she’s designing the invites. (Yay for automatically cutting the bill at least $150! ) I’m just worried about the food more than anything. My cousin’s dad grilled out for hers but idk if my Future Mother-In-Law would be down with that (even though my FSFIL looooves to grill)…I haven’t mentioned it to her yet, so we’ll see. I know my family would be fine with that…but they’d be down with pretty much anything lol
Thanks for just saying it’ll be okay! In the end as long as we both have rings and a marriage certificate, it’ll work right haha
Post # 5
YES. This is ridiculous. We are scheduling a tasting for this Friday. We have a Saturday on hold, and even though we said we were looking at 100 people (not expecting that many), they didn’t tell us that Saturdays require 120 minimum. We didn’t find out until they sent us the contract.
Then we’re trying to plan this tasting, and I thought it’d be nice to invite Future Mother-In-Law and her Boyfriend or Best Friend. Suddenly she wants the number to the venue so she can call and ask if they can do it on a Sunday.
I said no. We’re not holding the tasting for her, I just thought it would be nice to invite her. If I try to have any more accommodating a wedding, I’m going to have to have a mini-wedding at the house of every single person I’d want to invite. I know it is “our” wedding, but I am not putting up with any whining, I’ve done it for far too long.
Oh crap, yesterday was the wedding… >.> Oops.