Post # 1
So…it seems like everyone you come across has a story about how they knew exactly what sort of e-ring they wanted in advance. Only…I don’t. I’ve been looking for months now, trying to narrow down my choices. I mostly know what I don’t like, but I’ve not come across anything that screams “the one”. Don’t get me wrong, I have some amazing rings bookmarked, and I’d be happy to be given any of them, but when I’m the one who has to narrow down some choices, I have a hard time doing so. My partner wants the final say, but he wants to get it right so he wants me to give him some specific choices. Only I am finding it so tough. I keep thinking I will be wearing this ring every day for the rest of my life so do I get something a bit more classical and tame that I will hopefully still love at eighty? Or do I throw caution to the wind?
On my bookmarked list so far there seems to be a few patterns: halos (either diamond on diamond, gemstone centre diamond halo, or diamond centre gemstone halo), three stone rings, pears, or Art Deco style. Colour wise, I get drawn to yellows, peaches and pinks, some blues, or emerald. Then there is the odd curveball like the black dialmonds, which personality wise seem SO me. Yet I keep being drawn back to the bling and romantic looking rings too – the ones that look like engagement rings.
So help me, bees. Please say I’m not the only one. How did you get around this? Did you ever find “the one” or did you learn to love your ring?
Post # 2
writersblock: I’d say the key is to go try things on! You’d be surprised what ends up “looking good” on. Do you have stores near your location that you can visit?
Post # 3
I went with a solitaire, I kind of asked for a nice center stone and I plan to wear this for awhile, or forever and have different bands. You could have bands with colored saphires, or the colors you like and different styles. I’m also thinking that one day I could reset my solitaire to a different style, maybe an anniversary.
Post # 4
you HAVE to go to the stores and try some on! I thought I wanted a princess cut diamond at first til I went in to the store, tried one on and realized it looked bad on my finger. It’s good to have somewhat of an idea before hand but you’ll def need to see some in person and try them on 😀 my Fiance knew I had found the one when he saw my face after I put it on. My eyes lit up!
Post # 5
ive been to about five different stores. Can’t say it made it any easier beyond giving me an idea of finger coverage and metal. :/
Post # 6
I am in the same boat. We are getting married in February and I’ve still not identified the exact ring I want. I’ve looked in Jareds, Kay’s, Ben Bridge, online, etc and though I’ve seen some beauties none have felt like “the one” yet. Just give me a plain band for now and I’m good lol. This part, the ring, has been very stressful for me for a few reasons. I’m so over it.
Post # 7
I would suggest finding a local jeweler who is willing to do custom work, that also has a large selection of things to try on. I went in with a decision on what I definitely wanted, got a CAD done and hated it. Then earlier this week, we went in and I told the designer things I liked from a lot of different things, pictures I had saved on my phone, things I tried on in the store, and we put together a sketch of something I looked at and for the first time said yes, I like that. Its been about 3 months of looking, trying on, traveling to different jewelers and confusion until I got to this point. Chances are I will change a thing or two when the new CAD comes in, but I enjoy the jeweler I am working with and I trust her to help me make decisions when that point comes. Since you haven’t found anything “you” yet, I would suggest this would be your best option.
Post # 8
You’re not the only one. I switch up my marital bling all. the. time.
I’m a staker girl and have been since before engagement, so, I told him I wanted an a-band for an e-ring (lower profile, easier stacking). We still ended up having to change it (double row to a single row). Also, my e-ring isn’t always at the “top spot” as one would typically expect, so, one might argue that I still haven’t decided on a forever ring for that position on my finger.
Keep shopping but I would encourage you not to worry if you never have some hallelujah moment about an e-ring.
Just my $0.02.
Post # 10
writersblock: Don’t worry you are not alone. I inherited a pear cut diamond from my late grandmother. Never in my wildest day did I think I would want a pear shaped ering but my Fiance and I thought it would be wisest to use it and save the money that a different diamond would cost.
Anyway, Knowing the shape of the stone I started looking for pictures of settings and other pear shape rings. I fell in love with the idea of a pear halo but all of the ones I found on pinterst, google and instagram all had something wrong with them. Then one night I found what I wanted in a picture, it took my breath away and I couldn’t get it out of my head. I screen shot it and sent it to my parents to keep with the diamond.
When my Fiance went to my parents to ask he was given the photo and the diamond. He went to a local store and they were able to custom make something based on the picture. My ring looks just like it and I couldn’t be happier. Also, I never tried any rings on before this one.
Funny thing is, that I have since tried to find the picture of that ring so many times since that night and I never have been able to find it.
So, I guess what I’m saying is, you’ll find the right one. I feel like when you know you know.
Post # 11
I think people put way too much weight on the ring. I told Fiance that I didn’t want anything too high set and I wanted white gold. That was it. He picked it, he gave it to me, and I’ve been wearing it since. It’s not about the metal and the stone it’s about the promise behind it. IMO, the ring doesn’t really matter at all..
Post # 12
NFLwidow: thanks, that’s good advice. Maybe it’s more common than I think. 🙂
Sparkly_Pear: I hope you’re right. I keep changing my mind which is my favourite at the moment, lol
thank you everyone for the advice
Post # 13
My advice, don’t settle just for something you “like” , try on rings that maybe you wouldn’t normally think is your style. When you find the one you will just know 🙂 not sure how good my advice is, but it worked for me. Good luck!
Post # 14
I ended up having 3 rings: a princess cut solitaire; my ering from HB, a halo round and a round solitaire. My princess cut is a diamond and the rest of two round rings are cz and I paid for $40. A funny thing is I dont even wear any of those ring everyday but I like having them.
Post # 15
After googling a thousand rings I was convinced I would get a round centre stone with sidestones. When I actually tried it on I didn’t like it and was a bit shocked.
I would just echo the above posters to keep trying things on, especially things outside your standard. For me, I tried on an oval halo just because it came out in the tray of rounds and the assistant kind of said “oh try this just to rule out ovals” and wham! it was my style. Who knew.
My biggest tip is to try on cheapie CZ rings of different colours and styles. It’s a lot easier to get a wide range of cheap rings to try on, then when you narrow down your style / colour you can focus your energy on finding a supplier of the style rather than hunting high and low to find a jeweller who stocks a massive range of coloured gems and unusual styles.