Post # 16
writersblock: Not a problem. I also forgot to mention that I had a friend who just got a simple little band to be a placeholder until she found the right one. Don’t feel pressured to decide on a ring right away. Take your time, the right one will come, it just takes time.
Where have you been looking for ideas?
Post # 17
Sparkly_Pear: everywhere and anywhere! LOL. I love antique jewellery generally so I’ve been in numerous antique shops and tried rings on. Many of these were outside of what I’d select normally. None did anything for me. I went into three standard jewellers where most people buy from in our town too and tried on a bunch. Didn’t care for much there either, though I did like the sparkle. My SO and I stop and look in practically every jeweller’s window, so that’s probably gone into the dozens by now. Oh, and there is a custom jeweller where I live and I booked an appointment with him and go to play around with the stones and settings. I quite liked the round halos he had, and the blue diamonds, but it stil just felt like “I like this jewellery” rather than OMG the one, if that makes sense?
i seem to go through phases of fixation too, but then they pass. The blue diamond round halos. Then I found a yellow sapphire with yellow diamond halo (cushion cut) which I obsessed over. Then that faded. Then it was Art Deco bullet rings, which I still adore but I’m not sure if I’d want to wear one all the time. Currently I’m fixating on a black diamond solitaire (I usually hate solitaires) but I have a lot of reservations about it too.
Post # 18
I was in the same boat. I liked them and thought they were pretty and didn’t really have an idea of what I wanted. I can tell you thought that my fi and I had very different styles. He was a more traditional, liked gold, and certain other details I personally am not a fan of. Then, I was looking at pinterest aND fell in love with a ring. My ring isn’t exact but it’s pretty close and I love it. Look on pinterest for ideas!
Post # 19
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
The easiest way is to try rings on. I went in with a completely different idea in mind. But as soon as my ring went on my finger everybody knew. Darling Husband tells me now that my face lit up the instant I saw it. He simply kept shop to appease me. You will know when you find the ring. There are so many styles and varieties don’t be afraid to look at everything.
Post # 20
Tip: Don’t look at just engagement rings. Go to the section with birth month rings, fashion rings, promise rings, etc. You can change the stones, or get a custom ring based off of one you like. I didn’t like any of the engagement rings in any of the stores I went to, but the other sections were a lot more interesting and helped me figure out what I wanted in a custom design. Take pictures of the rings on your finger, so you can look back and figure out what you did or didn’t like about the ring.
Post # 21
Excellent advice to look at the gemstones sections as opposed to staying in the bridal section. Some of the halo styles (we called them princess rings “back in the old days”) for the gemstones are so much better a frame for the center stones than can be found at the bridal counter.
I still stand by my stackers, writersblock:, and kinda wonder if you want to consider one for your e-ring. It could be traditional to suit your groom’s tastes. All clear diamonds? You could ask for stackers in other gemstones for a w-band or anniversary or whatever life event you want to mark with a sparkly. You’d be able to collect the black diamonds or blue diamonds or yellows sapphires or whatever your heart desires, over time. (Full disclosure: that’s what I’m doing.)
Post # 22
You are not alone. I pinned for hours a night, I went to every Jewlery store I could find, it got obsessive. In the end, I found something that was nothing like what I thought I wanted. I kept going back to it, so I knew it was the one.
Post # 23
writersblock: You have looked in a lot of places. I have a coworker who has a black diamond solitaire and it’s so pretty and different.
It does sound like you like colored stones, so I would say lean more towards that. I think that if we weren’t given a diamond that I would have leaned that way too. Anyway, if you do like the colored stones, I would them maybe decide what shape you like. That might help you narrow your choice down a bit.
Also, don’t forget that there are bands, gaurds and ring enhancers like the ones below that you can get to help you change it up.
Post # 25
Sparkly_Pear: I have no idea what happened to my last reply! LOL. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks, you’ve been really helpful. I think I will end up with something colourful, it’s just a matter of what. My preference changes on my mood, it seems. I wish I could find a black diamond to view in person but they are SO uncommon here that I have never come across one. I am worried it will look exactly like onyx and I want it to have something extra to make it look pretty.
I think in the end I will just give my SO my list of rings I do like and he can choose one.
Post # 26
I think if your taste changes when your mood changes, that’s actually not bad. In the end an engagement ring is materialistic. A thing will never be able to give you the same satisfaction as for example the love to your partner. So just pick something that you like right now. It can be scary that you are supposed to pick something that you wear for the rest of your life like a tattoo. Do you have a tattoo? I have only one and I am not sure if I would pick the same one today but I still like it because it represends what I felt and liked when I got it many years ago and I like the memory. It’s the same with my engagement ring I think. I picked a split shank double halo with a yellow center diamond. “Super trendy” and maybe datable in a couple of decades. But I think I won’t care because it will remind me of the wonderful time when I got it, the moment I got engaged to my favourite person in the world.