(Closed) Anyone else find this tacky?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds like fun! I’d love to try people’s favorite selections, and share my own, it’d a blast. Please ignore stuffy boring people telling you to be stuffy and boring. 😉 If a bride hosted wine, that would be one thing, fine, normal, but I’d actually find it MORE interesting to share wines that other people brought. It would be an interesting topic of coversation and a way to bond. 

Post # 48
1699 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@futuremrsstraight:  tacky, most definitely.  Guests at a a hosted formal event should not be directed to bring beverages to share with other guests!  Informing guests in advance as to what beverages one is serving and being accomodating “ie you’re welcome to bring something else if you prefer” is far different than being instructed to bring a bottle of wine.

Weddings are not potluck affairs. The hosts are expected to provide for their own guests. Guests will already be bringing a gift in addition to the gift of their presence.

The wine “exchange” sounds like a great idea for a more casual get together.

Post # 49
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - SLS Las Vegas

Definitely depends on the formailty of the wedding. If it is a formal wedding this is absolutely not ok. Not to mention the legality of it. With corkage fees, pouring fees, and union contracts. 

Post # 50
1616 posts
Bumble bee

@aspasia475:  That is exactly how I was thinking about it! I want to bring it to celebrate and start some conversations!

ETA: Your name must be Greek 🙂 

Post # 51
1517 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think the phrasing is just too agressive. Suggesting that people bring a bottle of wine as a gift- sure whatever, I’m ok with that. But the way she says it makes it sound like everyone must bring a bottle of wine (in addition to stuff from the registry, since it wasn’t stated otherwise) and it comes off as rude. 


Post # 52
370 posts
Helper bee

(I haven’t read the other responses so I’m sorry if I’m echoing someone)

Actually, I think that’s kind of nice. It would be even more awesome if they were providing the vino themselves, but think about two other ways it could have gone down:

Cash bar (~$5-7 per glass)

Dry reception (not that there’s anything wrong with it, but wouldn’t it be better to just grab a couple bottles of $5 wine from Trader J’s?)

Post # 53
164 posts
Blushing bee

I think its a ripper idea! keeps costs down and guest get to show off their wine tastes – opens up communication.

Ive never heard of it before and combined with having it at a private residence (obviously a different wedding and sounds more dinner partyish than formal) makes it unique.

I wouldnt be offended in the slightest. Id probably bring 2 though, one as a gift and one for my table!

Post # 54
7534 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@abbie017:  +1.

Your party you pay. A B&G are under no obligation to provide alcohol. Host what you can afford.

And in this situation it would only be “fun” for those that drink wine. What about the rest of the guests?

Post # 55
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d find it odd and a bit tacky…especially if it’s a formal event. Providing drinks (of any sort–doesn’t have to be alcohol) is part of being a good hostess. 

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