Post # 1
We both drank more than we had planned don’t remember as much from the reception as we’d like to. It’s been days now but it’s just starting to bother me more that I A) don’t remember me entire reception and B) dont think I did a good job about making rounds and socializing with everyone.
We haven’t heard any horror stories about us being sloppy drunk and from what we remember and have been told the majority of our guests also drank a lot. I’m just starting to worry that I didn’t make enough time for my husbands family, I mostly remember talking to my own family and friends, some of which I hadn’t seen in a really long time.
Everyone I’ve talked to has said they had a ton of fun, but we haven’t really heard from the older crowd which makes sense because we don’t talk to them regularly anyways, except my mom and she hasn’t said anything but she also left early and probably wouldn’t say anything negative to me anyways.
I remember packing up stuff and leaving but most of the night was a blur and I’m feeling so guilty/ashamed/embarassed.
Anyone else have this happen?
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
Me!!! Omg I made a complete fool of myself by the end of the night and was utterly embarrased the next morning. It’s been over a year and i still regret it. Why did i drink so much?? I did not plan to.
Post # 3
I drank way more than I planned to. I think part of the problem was that I never really had a drink (other than at dinner) – everyone just kept handing me their drinks and getting me drinks when we were on the dance floor. I’d drink a bit and hand it back/put it down and then another drink would appear. It was hard to keep track of how much I drank and I didn’t realize it until the end of the night.
Luckily when I brought it up to a few of my friends they laughed and said they didn’t even notice because they were also really drunk. And most of the older crowd left earlier in the evening.
For a couple of weeks it was all I could think about when I thought of the wedding, but I really don’t think about it much a few months later. Over time and after you’ve seen/talked to the people you think you’ve embarassed yourself in front of, you won’t think about it as much.
Post # 4
Oh gosh bee don’t even worry about it!
How many guests did you have? I’m sure your husbands family didn’t even notice as they were socializing amongst themselves. It’s a tall order to talk to each and every guest anyway. It’s difficult to do and people understand this!
Also if everyone said they had a blast then I’m sure they were just happy you did too. I went to a wedding that had the bride sullen and withdrawn. It definitely would have changed my experience if she was drinking and out on the dance floor having fun!
Most weddings I’ve been to the couple is a little tipsy. No reason to feel guilty or ashamed OK? Just own it and be happy you had fun.
Post # 5
Peachytalk : Thanks bee, we had about 80 people and the music was going and people were chatting away and dancing, so it’s not like anyone was sitting in a corner alone. I know I’m probably over reacting, I just cringe when I think about the fact that I don;t remember much from my own wedding and that “what if I did something shitty that I don’t remember” feeling that comes with drinking too much.
Post # 6
I went to a wedding where by the end of the night, the bride was outside with her brother in law with her head in the trash. She was so drunk that her brother in law had to carry her to the car in front of all of her guests. Her brand new husband? At the bar taking shots.
As long as you were upright at the end of the night you are fine.
Post # 7
Me! I mean nothing terribly sloppy too early, but we definitely tied one on. I think if it’s quite a ‘party’ wedding it’s pretty common for the bride and groom to be on board. I really wouldn’t worry too much about it!
Post # 8
anonbee123123 : yep! Couldn’t remember cutting the cake, dragged my friends to the bar for shots (racked up a huge additional bar tab), forced bottles of wine on guests to take back to their rooms (which were on site – even more $$). Went on a garden swing and hit my head, and got carried back to my room through the rainforest by my two best gay male friends. Dress was covered in green palm fronds and couldn’t be salvaged. Woke up next day and puked in the sink. It happens to the best of us. My friend is a wedding photographer and he sees it ALL the time. I think I just wanted to night to never end after all my hard work. Be kind to yourself x
Post # 9
it’s your day bee. as long as you had fun and the guests too. i mean, your husband’s family must also been socializing amongst themselves, so don’t feel too guilty over it 😉
Post # 10
Sounds like a good night! I wouldn’t worry about it.
I definitely plan on getting drunk at my wedding! Haha…
Post # 11
I wouldn’t worry about it. I haven’t been a bride, but I’ve been to plenty of weddings where we know the bride and groom in particular have overindulged at the reception, and no one cares. It’s their day, they’re having fun. If they were getting into massive fights or otherwise went wayyy off the rails, that might be a different story, but getting a little sloppy on your wedding day is completely unremarkable.
Post # 12
Don’t worry about it! I haven’t had my wedding yet but I have been to plenty of weddings where the bride and groom have indulged maybe a little too much but honestly, it’s an amazing party and after all your hard work…who cares?! It sounds like you didn’t get too out of control so I wouldn’t think twice about it 🙂
Post # 13
Oh also, I promised myself that wouldn’t drink red wine because it gets me sloppy too quickly and gives me terrible hangovers, but is also my favourite drink. But the next day when I looked at some of the ‘party’ photos (around 10pm and later, party went til 4am 😬) I realized that I’m holding not just a glass of red wine in most photos, but a BOTTLE. Apparently wine glasses interfered with my dance moves.