Post # 1
We got engaged two months ago tomorrow and I began executing/really planning about 2 weeks later. I had done a bunch of research on several different vendors, but we booked our venue and coordinator (through the venue) first about a month ago. Then came the photographer, DJ, and my dress this past weekend. The caterer is not yet secured, but we have a tasting the first week in June and will sign the contract after that as long as everything is to the liking of my Fiance and mom. I’m waiting to hear back from the make-up artist I like to book and am waiting on hair until later on because I’m not really sure what I want to do. I have an idea of the style and a few options for bridesmaids dresses, but haven’t narrowed it down completely- My sisters have all been asked along with one friend and I have about the same amount of girls left to ask.
I’ve been speaking with florists and that’s probably the thing I’ve been the most out of my realm on. Meaning, I know nothing about florals and so it’s taking me a bit longer to decide/I haven’t found anyone I love yet. I have yet to address invitations, etc., an officiant, guest lodging, rehearsal dinner space, tuxedo options, and specific decor. Cake is priced, but I am in no rush to schedule a tasting until later on.
Okay, so all this to say, I just sort of realized that it’s only been two months and my wedding isn’t until October 2020. I haven’t been rushing or stressing or anything. I’ve just been cruising along knocking things off. When people ask me how things are going and I tell them something to the extent of, “Oh, yes, we have XYZ done” they keep telling me how fast I am doing it all. My thought is it’s better to get it done now when there’s no pressure. I suffer from debilitating anxiety and I know that if I put things off I will have an even harder time than the average person dealing with the stress.
Anyone else like me and got a lot done right after getting engaged? I love to research and plan, so I am really in my element!
Post # 2
We just did everything straight away, pretty much. We didn’t start looking for venues until 2/3 months after getting engaged as were were getting married in my home country and that was the next time we could visit. As soon as we picked the venue we booked the photographer, caterer, florist and band within a week or two. We knew what we liked and just pulled the trigger fairly quickly rather than researching for the sake of researching. Imo you can turn wedding planning into a chore rather than a fun experience if you drag out too many of the elements.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2019 - Cortland, NY
We got engaged in October 2017 and I had all the important vendors booked by January 2018 XD I’m not getting married until next month lolol
No shame. I’m definitely a planner at heart 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
cq123 : By 6 months into being engaged I had basically every major vendor booked, engagement party done, bridesmaids and groomsmen asked, etc etc.
I got a TON done very early on and I am so glad I did. Once all the big htings were done, I did nto realize how many other moving pieces there are. A day of timeline, DIY projects, wedding bands, bridal shower, bachelorette, music, processional order and music, etc etc etc. The list is never ending.
It’s definitely good to get all the large scale things out of the way so you have tiem to focus on the smalelr things. For example, I booked my DJ fairly early, but I am still currently working on my songs list, my Future Mother-In-Law is still deciding on her mother son dance song, and I haven’t chosen a song for our bridal party entrence yet.
Just like you I have a ton of anxiety that can shut me down when everything is too much – so getting all the major thigns done first is a HUGE help and definitely totally normal! 🙂
Post # 5
zzar45 : That’s how I am! When I know, I know. I have been pretty decisive albeit not without a good deal of research prior to, but it’s easy for me to eliminate when something doesn’t fit whatever piece of my criteria. It’s definitely not for everyone and there have been moments where I’ve felt like, oh crap this is overwhelming, but I also have been really enjoying a lot of it.
megm1099 : I bet that felt so good! I want to also be able to enjoy my engagement without unnecessary stress! The only thing I worry about is things dragging out because our engagement is about 19 months total. I’m sure it will fly by in retrospect.
gunnabamissus : It’s nice to hear your perspective given where you are in your timeline and that you experience anxiety as well! That’s kind of what I figured- there are so many details and things I can’t focus on/picture right now because the big pieces aren’t all locked in yet. The design aspect of things is something I really want to be fully focused on. And the song list! I want plenty of time to hear a song and make note of it over the next year+ and not have to think of every song ever on my own if that makes sense? That’s a huge task!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
My entire wedding was planned and everything was purchased about 3-3.5 months after I got engaged. Like…EVERYTHING. Centerpieces, my dress, signage, etc. We even had our food tastings done, lol. I really wanted the summer leading up to the wedding to be stress free, so I’m glad I front-loaded so much work. No reason to sit around if you know what you want.
Post # 7
Ha yes. We already knew where we wanted to get married so that was booked 2 weeks after our engagement. I used a lot of the same vendors as my sister who got married the year before us. I could’ve planned a wedding in 2 months easily
Post # 8
We’ve got pretty much everything planned, we got engaged in February. Our menu tasting is on Saturday and then we just have to finish paying off our venue (one more payment!). Our wedding is in July, so we had to act fast lol.
Post # 9
Unless you are having a super long engagement I think it makes sense to book everything quickly. In my area, most popular venues and vendors are booked up more than a year in advance for summer and fall weekend weddings. So once you have your venue/date chosen and put the deposit down, you kind of need to get going on everything else ASAP or you would wind up without a good photographer/florist/makeup artist etc. Dresses from bridal boutiques can take nine months to come in. Unless the people who are making comments have planned a wedding recently I don’t think most people understand this! We had an 18 month engagement and had our date set/ put our venue deposit down like 3 weeks after getting engaged.
Post # 10
Yes! Wedding planning has been super easy for me.
We have had extra things to sort out too, as we are having two weddings (Western and Indian) on two separate days, and the Western wedding is going to be in a backyard, so it requires tons of additional things to be rented and sorted out from a logistical standpoint.
Everyone kept trying to tell me how stressful wedding planning is, but honestly, it has been completely stress-free and easy. I really only care about marrying the love of my life – everything else is just details.
Post # 11
cq123 : I frontloaded all of my wedding too based on the bees helping me realize I had a lot more work to do for the wedding than what I thought I would have to. Everyone in my circle thought I was planning way far ahead but I’m glad I got a lot done early because I can relax and do things slowly now and I don’t get stressed when stuff comes up at the last minute that takes time away from wedding planning.
Post # 12
Yeah, we had a short engagement (about 8mos) so I had the whole wedding planned 3 mos in. Centerpieces, etc. were all done as well. It made it a lot easier!
Post # 13
Oh yeah, we had to jump straight into planning. Hubby proposed in January 2015, and we had our wedding in October 2015. Since I was teaching at a community college, I had literally one Saturday that coincided with my fall break and would make it easy for me to take off part of the week for our honeymoon. So yeah, we had our venue, catering, photographer, and big must-haves booked within the first week. The rest fell into place pretty quickly after that!
Post # 14
sapphire27 : Yea! My dress won’t be in until early December and they just ordered it Monday! Now that I’m thinking about it, most people who have made comments have been married for a while or a long time. People who are engaged now and note how quickly I’ve gotten things done are more so saying it because they’d like to be further along with their own planning.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2020 - City, State
Hello, I was logging on this morning to post almost the exact same post!
We got engaged on new year. We started planning after a month or so to give my FH time to get over the shock that he had actually done it!
We now have everything major, vendor wise booked for our August 2020 wedding. I have enjoyed the process, and as I too suffer with generalised anxiety disorder I knew it would be best for my sanity to get things booked early so I can totally relate to your experience!
The question I wanted to ask however is what to do now!! I have enjoyed planning so much that I am now constantly on the look out for other things I can be planning or doing, whilst also trying to spread it out so I can enjoy the process for longer!!!
I still have dress shopping for me and my girls and our DIY elements but I think that is it!