Post # 1
Feeling kinda silly about this one and I’m wondering if I’m alone in feeling this way../
I’ve always felt weird & kinda akward while at weddings whenever it was time for the groom would do the garter removal. I’m not a super-conservative person at all & am always the one joking around, but I always felt strange when the groom would dance sexy towards the bride while everyone, including the bride/groom’s parents & grandparents and aunts & uncles were watching. I know it’s tradition and I jokingly brought up to my fiance while we were around friends that I’d rather leave it out, but they all gave me a hard time saying it was such a fun part of the wedding and it’s tradition, so to just have fun with it. It’s almost like you’re giving your elders a little glance into the things you two do behind closed doors… Lol. Maybe I should just suck it up and be a sport, but I’d almost rather just keep the garter on my arm and let take it off of there with his teeth, if he wants to… Lol
Are all you bees doing the garter removal? Does anyone else feel akward about it?
Thanks & have a good day!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
I think the whole thing is a bit awkward, personally. We’re not doing the traditional removal and toss, but I know lots of people like it and think it’s fun!
Post # 4
Honestly I was a bit embarrassed about doing the garter toss…but it turned out to be a lot of fun and definitely got quite a few laughs.
Post # 5
Definitely not doing it!!! It’s always been awkward to me, too, as a guest. I can’t imagine how awkward i’d feel if my fiance did it while his grandmother that I’ve never met was there!
Post # 6
If it makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it. It’s an odd tradition–and not all traditions are worth keeping, especially if it makes you uncomfortable.
(FWIW and this might be regional but I can’t think of a single wedding I’ve ever been to where there was a garter removal…)
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
Yes, I get so embarassed for the couple and the single men/women who are forced to participate. Skip it- we did and I don’t regret it.
Post # 8
It is a little awkward I think if he puts his head up your dress! Ours was boring–he simply reached up and grabbed it. I had it nestled right above my kneecap though, not too high up. We were cracking up because the DJ decided to play very “bow chicka bow wow” music and it was really quite funny
Post # 9
I was kinda nervous about ours… I made my guy promise not to do anything embarrassing.. and I slid it most of the way down for him. BUT, while “Lets get it on” was playing.. and my groom was pulling the garter off, my 4 yr old neice/flowergirl ran over and threw her arms around me and tried to get in my lap! Everyone laughed and it was cute, but I was bright red!!!!
Post # 10
I’m not sure if this helps but we just did our DJ worksheet and we choose the Indiana Jones Theme song for the garter removal. I think it will make it more funny and less awkward.
Post # 11
Yeah, we didn’t do it. 🙂
If you don’t want to do it, but your Fi and his buddies do, you could do some variation on the garter toss. I think it would be hilarious to have all the groomsmen and the groom put garters on their legs. Then you (the bride) could be blindfolded and have to take the garter off whichever guy you think is your Fi.
Or, one time on tv I saw a garter removal where they blindfolded the groom and then switched the bride with the best man right before he took off he garter. The groom was caressing and kissing the best man’s feet, which was hilarious! When he finally got the garter off and removed his blindfold to see the best m,an sitting there instead of the bride, his face was priceless!
I think a non-traditional twist on the garter toss would make it less awkward and more fun.
Post # 12
That’s a great idea!! I might have to steal that one… THANKS!!
Post # 13
We skipped it too… We didn’t want to call out our single friends or toss my garter (handmade by very good friend) or have my parents watching us do this!
Post # 14
I think it can by fun, but my husband was not really interested in doing it, especially since we did have a few conservative family members there. I wore a garter the whole day though and let him take it off once we were alone which he enjoyed 🙂
Post # 15
When my husband went to grab the garter, I crossed with my arms so he couldn’t grab my leg or the garter. It definitely got a few laughs, but it was even funnier of course when he finally got to it and took it off with his teeth…haha.
Post # 16
We’re doing it, but we’re making it funny – Fiance is going to decommission a mouse trap and I’ll sneak it up there before the garter toss. So he’s going to come out with a mousetrap on his fingers to get everyone laughing! Then he’ll go after the garter. Frankly, married people are supposed to have sex, so him putting his arm up my dress to get something off my thigh doesn’t bother me. If you’re uncomfortable, there are a ton of other ways to do a garter toss, like the bees above suggested.