(Closed) Anyone else get uncomfortable during the garter removal?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s awkward for all involved, I think. We are skipping it.

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We skipped the garter and bouquet toss and didn’t miss either of them.  No one at our wedding asked about either activity.  Frankly, what I’ve read about the history of the garter toss offends me, so I knew we’d skip it even before our planning began. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

I was recently at a wedding that did not have it and all of the guests were bummed.  Although the wedding is about you two, I think having fun tradations (or new ones!) are great idea. If you’re uncomfortable with the garter, find another fun event (such as the dollar dance) that all the guests look forward to.  Keeping the party fun is what its all about.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I’ve never actually seen it done in person. None of our friends have done it!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i agree.. i/FI ALWAYS feel awkward watching the garter “retrieving” at weddings. we’re skipping it, just not my thing i guess.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

I think this is awkward and kind of embarassing for all involved.  We didn’t do this at our wedding.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i’m against having any sort of attention on me, and i’m definetly against having my husband up my skirt with my grandma watching. it weirds me out. we’re skipping a lot of traditions, and that was one of the first to go.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It is awkward and kind of embarrassing but it also can be funny and exciting. It really depends on your audience. My family loves this kind of stuff so they would enjoy it especially if a certain song is played to ease the tension… I didn’t want to do it but we actually will.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My fiance thinks it’s awkward and from the start didn’t want to do it, and I didn’t feel strongly about it either way, so we’re skipping it. We are doing the bouquet toss though, since I’m the first in my group of friends to get married and I have a feeling they are looking forward a bouquet toss.

Do what works best for you – if you really feel that it’s going to make you uncomfortable, skip it or do something else.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’re definitely skipping it. It always made me uncomfortable as a guest and as the bride I think I’d about die 😛

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re totally skipping it.  The thought of my brand new husband going under my dress, pulling something off and throwing it at single guys.  Very awkward.  I’m still going to have a garter and a bouquet toss.  However, there will also not be the new tradition of putting the garter on the girl who catches the bouquet. 

I highly doubt that any wedding reception has or will be ruined by skipping this part.  Plus, it’s your time to do what you actually want.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Nope, not doing it. I think it’s kinda tacky anyway.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We aren’t doing the garter removal/toss OR the bouquet toss. We both feel they are pretty silly and not “US” but it’s just our preference.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We were at FI’s cousin’s wedding a few weeks ago where they did the garter toss.  Groom was blindfolded and danced to his new wife.  Unfortunately they switched the bride for one of the older male guests and it was too funny. 

Needless to say, we’re planning on doing the garter toss.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Totally skipping it – so we can really enjoy him removing it in our honeymoon suite alone Wink however, I am throwing the bouquet on the way out – but nothing like a huge scene. I am wearing a garter – b/c it’s cute but not the whole show – seriously think it can be awkward.

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