(Closed) Anyone else get uncomfortable during the garter removal?

posted 12 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
1557 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally the idea of the garter toss makes ME uncomfortable, my Fi however thinks it’s all good fun [but what groom doesn’t like the idea of getting under their bride’s skirts?].

I honestly don’t think we’re going to do the garter removal/toss just because I am a little conservative with who gets to see above my knees, and my grandmother is NOT on that list.

I have however seen quite a few garter tosses that were light-hearted and fun[ny] — I just don’t think it’s my thing. If it makes you uncomfortable I’d say just skip it.

If you feel like something’s missing maybe try coming up with an alternative of your own to replace the garter toss.  🙂

Post # 33
1241 posts
Bumble bee

We did it, but I was careful not to make it raunchy. I warned Mr. Joe that he can only use his hands– no teeth allowed! I also had it right above my knee so I just hiked the dress up to about knee level (which is within my personal comfort level, maybe not others) and hubby just slid it off. There was no “sexy dance” or crawling up through my dress to find it. I had absolutely no problem with what anyone saw, including the grandma and 2 year olds :p

Post # 34
1751 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

The only time i liked the tradition was at the wedding I just attended – they are hilarious, open, and had fun with it.  Plus, no DJ was pesting any single people etc. which is always the most awkward part.  Otherwise, I hate watching it, never participate, and think that it hoses up the dance floor for 15 minutes of precious dancing time!  I usually use this time to go to the bathroom or refresh my drink.  It probably comes as no surprise that we’re skipping that tradition 😉

Post # 35
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’ve never liked it, and we are among the last of our friends to get married, so there won’t be any single people to toss it or the bouquet too!  I may still get a garter for later though!

Post # 36
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’ve been thinking of avoiding the traditions all together, making a wedding cake pinata and filling it with ring pops – and two ring pops that lights up that would be the ‘winning’ items.

It makes me uncomfy too!

Post # 37
2492 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve only ever seen one in person and I wasn’t bothered by it. The majority of weddings I have attended have skipped it and no one missed it. However I hate every single one that I’ve seen on Youtube, and those are uncomfortable to watch.

Post # 38
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

we’re not doing it either, i agree, it’s like having an audience during you and your new husband’s ‘after party’ :)))

Post # 39
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not really done in the UK! But I have seen a friend of mine who married an american do it but they were a bit uncomfortable with the whole burrowing under the dress thing too – so they decided to make it funny – she just had it on her arm, and he chased he her round the dance floor jokeily to “keep on running” by the Spencer Davis group! It was a bit odd and his English family found it very strange but very funny!!

Post # 40
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was super nervous about doing it, I thought it would feel really pervy especially since DH and I never even kissed in front of our parents or anything in the bizillion years that we were together before the wedding. But actually, it was quick and painless. I thought I would feel really awkward and it was a part of the night I was dreading, but I’m actually glad we did it. It got everyone laughing and I wasn’t worried at the time about parents or grandparents. Plus he had issues tossing the garter, so that was pretty entertaining 🙂

Post # 41
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Skipping that tradition…..I really don’t want to show off my sexy lil legs to the whole room, full of southern baptists and devout pentecostals, lol.

Post # 42
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i think the garter toss is awkward, i am not having one, nor am i having a bouquet toss

Post # 43
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had one at my first wedding.  It was totally awkward, with the guys ducking to avoid catching the garter.  At my second wedding, each of us had a bouquet and a garter, but none of them got tossed.

Post # 44
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think Fiance would want to do the garter toss, and I KNOW I don’t. I might still wear a garter though, just for fun!

Post # 45
2 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

This part of the reception was the most fun for us. I didn’t want to do what everybody else had done, so it gave us the chance to be creative and have fun with it.

Post # 46
3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m skipping it. My wedding is going to be super small anyway, so the only single guys there would be my FBILs, Future Father-In-Law, and brothers… most of whom will also be under 18. Way too awkward for my taste. If we were having a bigger wedding, I might consider a tastefully done one. 

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