(Closed) Anyone else getting this reaction?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think most people assume that you’ll ask for help if you want it or need it.  Otherwise, they feel that you’ve taken on these projects because you enjoy doing them and can handle it yourself.  

Post # 4
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6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think people say “you don’t have to” no matter where your wedding is. If you need help, ask for it- don’t wait for people to offer.

Post # 6
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1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I had the same thing when I planned my wedding as well. I only had help from my FI at the time. Do what you want because I brough t a bunch of stuff in the ” Wedding suitecase ” and it made the wedding that much better, gives it a bit of your personal touch.

Post # 7
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Will you be able to fly on the plane with all of it?

Post # 9
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8122 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Olive27:  What bothers me is that they think it’s stupid and unnecessary.

Unhonestly unless you are planning a wedding the average person will think it is stupid and uncessary especially if it seems to be stressing you out. I can kind of see where they are coming from- for a lot of people it is hassle enough to DIY for a local wedding so packing it all up and carting it to an international destination would to a lot of people be a lot more hassle than it is worth.

If you are happy to do it then that is the end of the discussion.

Post # 10
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m getting a similar reaction… I think some of my DIY stuff is probably unnecessary, but I still want the day to be so special! I’ve found just sharing that interest (I’m so excited, so grateful and I really want to do anything i can to make this day special for me, FI and our guests) puts a stop to the judgement… everybody can relate to wanting your wedding to be special!

Post # 11
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No one has offered to work on my DIY projects. I wouldn’t expect them to, they’re things I’m choosing to do. I’d ask if I needed help.

If the lack of offers to help are the only reason you think they are judging your DIY choices, I wouldn’t worry about it a single second longer. Are they making comments that make you feel judged?

Also, some people just aren’t crafty and don’t find enjoyment in it. So they wouldn’t be able to relate to the choice. It’s just like some people hire having their house painted, some people love painting themsleves. Some people buy off-the-rack clothes, some love sewing their own clothes. Do what makes you happy and don’t worry about anyone else.

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