(Closed) ANYONE else going or thinking about going celibate until the Wedding??

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: I will not be having sex until the wedding night or after the wedding.
    Hell No! I'd die if I waited that long! : (87 votes)
    45 %
    Yes, I want to release the dragon on our first night! : (70 votes)
    36 %
    I am a virgin saving it for marriage! Yay me! : (38 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    lol I was watching my DVR episodes of Oprah last night with the one with the nuns on it and how they don’t have sex. I turned to Fiance and said we shouldn’t have sex until our wedding night and I swear his head was about to explode. We are kind of far out, so maybe we will try at the 6 month mark?

    *I voted for yes because I want to unleash the dragon! mwhahaha!*

    Post # 4
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Unless someone is saving it for marriage, this seems pretty contrived to me.  Not to mention, there’s enough stress leading up to the wedding – no way would I want to add to it!

    Post # 5
    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Ya, none of that for us.  3 years of long-distance relationship, thats enough celibacy for a life-time so no, we are done with that silliness.

    Post # 6
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yeah not that important for me to stop before the wedding or having sex the night of the wedding either.  I didn’t really see how the day of the wedding is so special for sex.  As for virgins, I think they should possibly not even have sex on the wedding night because the first time is better if you aren’t rushing and have time to prepare and lead up to it.

    Post # 7
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I like the idea, but I think I’d need to stick to a more realistic goal. Maybe we’ll stop at the one month mark. I think I could handle that. 😉

    Post # 10
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would not have the willpower–no way no how. One of my friends did, though, for a couple months before the wedding, and she claims the wedding night was the best ever.

    Post # 11
    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @lwilliams107 just to clairify, I didn’t mean the idea of celibacy before the wedding as silly.  I meant our situation of being apart for 3 years as silly.

    Post # 12
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Um, we decided not to have sex for 13 months before the wedding. We were long distance and he was deployed for 8 of those months and i just got it into my head that it was a good idea (thanks WB). I don’t know why I did it–it seems so pointless looking back and I don’t see how it really changed the wedding night! But wow–i was freakin tired as hell. I’ve never been so exhausted in all my life, yet we made it happen. I think i idealized it in my head basically

    Post # 13
    3 posts
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Well my Fiance and I have been waiting until our wedding night to have sex. It’s more for religious reasons than “releasing the dragon” (however that’s DEFINITELY, DEFINITELY, DEFINITELY a perk and the dragon WILL be released) Anyhoo, it’s been since April of 2010 and we’re getting married in February. He was a virgin when we met (in High School) and I’m the only woman he’s been with six years later (overshare?)… I kinda regret deflowering him… Can you “deflower” a man… Ehhh well, I did :/


    Anyway, it’ll be AWESOME and totally possible (yet hard seeing as though you cohabitate) go for it!

    Post # 14
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

    I really don’t understand people who choose celibacy before their wedding. This isn’t meant to be rude at all, I mean I literally don’t understand it. I mean, if you’ve all ready had sex, is not doing it for a few months going to make a difference? Like, why would your wedding night be any different from any other night that you do it?

    Granted, I’m a virgin so I’m pretty sure that’s why I don’t get it ;-).

    I guess what confuses me is that like I know some people will be choose celibacy for a month beforehand, 2 weeks, or even six months. Is it basically just an anticipation thing? Like, you want your night to be special because it’s your wedding night, so you want to look forward to it more?

    Post # 15
    3521 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We didn’t even consider waiting and our wedding night was still amazing.

    Post # 16
    429 posts
    Helper bee

    YES! :'( and it’s killing us. I feel so tempted sometimes but i think twice. 

    As for him if i don’t say stop or your going to far he would not stop ! grr


    Thats physical attraction for ya ! 🙂 

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