Post # 1
Hi everyone, wondering whether it’s just me who has an overbearing mother!
I love my mum but this wedding planning has made me remember why we didn’t get on when I lived at home! I’m loving every minute of my wedding planning until my mum asks about it, proceeds to pull faces and have negative comments for all of my plans! First it was the colour scheme, then the food, then the gift list (I’m not comfortable with people spending a lot of money on us just cos we’re getting married) and now it’s Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. We can’t seem to see eye to eye on anyting but I feel obligated to do as she says as she’s contributing financially0it’s a nightmare!
So anyone else having this problem?
Post # 3
@EllieL: I’m pretty sure everybody has this problem on wedding bee. There are dozens of momzillas out there (just check out the emotional page!) but there is no real solution. Especially when they are paying. I empathize with you though. Perhaps use this wonderful wedding experience to not be a momzilla at your kids wedding (should you choose to have any). That’s what I would do.
Weddings are yet another place that mothers should not try to “correct” life circumstances aka their own weddings.
Post # 4
My parents were very straight forward with the idea that they are gifting us the money and we should do what we want with it. That being said, of course my mom had some ideas for the wedding. I found it easiest to just pick my battles. If I really felt strongly about something (like a small guest list) I fought her on it, and if it didn’t matter as much to me (like the shape of sugar cookies for our favors), I did what she wanted. All of her ideas that I used ended up being beautiful, even if they weren’t what I would have done, so I’m glad I listened to her.