- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’ve been friends with Shannon since we were 10. She always thought she would be the first one to get married, until her much older highschool sweetheart dumped her in grade 11. She has a new boyfriend now who is her first really truly serious one since the guy when we were in high school.
I live almost half a country away. A relative of hers bought her a plane ticket to come visit me a couple of years ago a a suprise, and she cried and vomitted until they returned the ticket, saying that she is too afraid to fly on a plane (she has never been on one). Needless to say I go there to visit her even though we still text most days, she is very important to me.
She says that as long as this new boyfriend of hers come with her on the plane to my wedding she will try flying. But she’s also nagging me about not wanting to sit at the head table, dance with one of our groomsmen during wedding party dances, or spend the night in the suite I rented the night before the wedding for the bridal party, all because they would be “leaving her boyfriend alone”. I have other bridesmaids who are married and completely fine with this and are looking forward to it. Now she is mad that we are going to be taking over an hour for wedding party photos – she said they shoud be 30 minutes tops.
Now she is telling me she doesn’t have the money to pay me for the bridesmaid dress I ordered. She has a young daughter and is a single mom so I get that. I would pay for it if not help her pay for it but I just don’t want to pay for a dress if she never ends up coming because said boyfriend dumps her before the wedding.
I’ve given her an out a couple of times, saying if it’s too expensive or if she’s too nervous to do it then I totally understand and love her anyways. She said absolutely not she wants to be a part of it. *sigh* Her sister just got married and its the first wedding she has ever really been to so now she is comparing my plans to her sisters.
Did anyone have any bridesmaids that were so different from the rest, and not as interested in your wedding as you had always hoped?