(Closed) Anyone else hate bars/nightclubs (and going out in general sometimes)?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Do you hate bars/nightclubs?



    I am 50/50. Sometimes I enjoy it, sometimes I don't.

  • Post # 62
    2959 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I absolutely hate them. However it is because I am unable to drink any type of alcohol (it’s a genetic thing). And no offense, but most drunk people are really obnoxious and get on my nerves.

    Post # 64
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m convinced that I’m really 70 years old but I look great for my age. I’m 22, soon to be 23, and I HATE going out, especially to bars and night clubs. FH is also a homebody, so us going out means going to the grocery store, out to eat or for a movie. 

    I will go to night clubs and bars with friends from school though sometimes because they like it and we can make it work, like a movie one weekend and a bar the next kind of things. 

    I would much rather sit at home, read, play video games or just hang out. 

    Post # 65
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am 25 but even through ages 21-present I never had an interest in going out to bars or clubs. I did go a few times with girlfriends just to get out on the town and have a girl’s night out, but to be honest; I never really had that much fun. It’s just not my scene.


    Unfortunately that’s a lot of people’s scene when they are in our age group, and that did account for quite the drop in social invitations for me, but I’ve just tried to surround myself with people who enjoy the same things I do and I’ve also spent some time learning to enjoy quite nights in or going out and doing something I consider fun with like-minded people.


    The bottom line that I came to realize is that I felt that because of my age I NEEDED to be out drinking, dancing, partying with friends, etc…And when I would do those things and not enjoy it, I wondered if something was wrong with me. I had to totally change my way of thinking and realize it’s just not something I enjoy.

    Post # 66
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @bretonvirgniia:  In my univeristy days I loved going out partying, even though I’ve never really been a drinker. But I think it was just a phase because after a couple years it just wasn’t fun. The whole scene just seems so shallow and fake, and I can never take people seriously at clubs. They all seem phony especially the guys who would hit on me when I’d go out. I avoid it like the plague now for the most part but I’m much more of a homebody in general now anyways. Fiance isn’t a dancer or drinker so when we’re together we always find something to do that’s more our speed.

    Post # 67
    8684 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am 50/50. I do live right outside of NYC and I enjoy getting dressed up, bottle service, etc. I cant make it out on Friday nights bc I always work late and Im tired! I hate dive bars and sports bars. They are yuck to me. I dont think it makes someone an “old lady” if they dont like bars or clubs. Who cares? There are plenty of other things you can do. I think people assume that just bc they are in their 20s they need to party. That is not the case.

    Post # 68
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m 21 and I can honestly take it or leave it. Most of the time though I don’t want to go out dressed up with some majorly short dress on… Plus there is always the hassle of finding an outfit*rolls eyes*  maybe it’s because I live in England and it is freezing here about 90% of the time… And when it is warm it seems to rain…. So you do your hair for it to get wet and frizzy again…. What a waist of time… I’d rather go out somewhere casual and have dinner any day

    Post # 69
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @bretonvirgniia:  It sounds to me more like you are going to the wrong places.

    I don’t like the kind of places you have described noisy and full of drunk idiots hoping to get lucky. But I’d also be bored out of my mind if I sat at home every night in front of the tv.

    I just do different things, one of my friends does wine wednsday, gets a group of people together, a few bottles of wine, different types of cheeses and it’s always fun! I often have friends over for dinner and a movie. I also love going to the cinema.

    I guess I’m lucky to live in Rome where even a stroll around the city and a gelato makes for a fun night. Also everything is slower here, going to dinner can take hours, especially in the summer you can just sit in a pretty piazza for hours, having food and drinks and chatting.

    My group of friends is also very diverse, married couples, priests, students, older,younger…

    I just think that ruling out nights out will not help, it will just isolate you. Try finding different ways of socialising!


    Post # 70
    637 posts
    Busy bee

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    @BrandNewBride:  yup! Just got back from Vegas and had to BEG Fiance to go dancing, even though he had a freakin expense account on a business trip! And I’m a fan jus quiet bars with good craft beer where I can chat and hear myself think. So, a mixture of that. I’m turning 24 btw.

    Post # 71
    637 posts
    Busy bee

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    @gelaine22:  agreed about sports bars. So generic and gross. There are nicer bars in Brooklyn that are a bit cooler and not as expensive as manhattan.

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