(Closed) Anyone else hate having their picture taken?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
2427 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Just pretend the camera isn’t there and you will be fine. 

Post # 3
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Me! I’m really looking forward to the big day. I love my dress and accessories, I booked a professional MUA and I was recommended a great photographe so I shouldn’t worry about having my pictures taken but I do. I feel self-concious most of the time anyway but my friends from work who have used the same photographer have reassured me that I won’t feel like she’s even there. I think once we’re in our wedding gown and enjoy the wedding it’ll be the last thing we’ll worry about as the day is meant to fly by. I hope we all get amazing photos and that we won’t feel anxious about it. Good luck πŸ™‚ x

Post # 5
14 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

I once heard that people photograph you how they see you. This would explain why I can take great pictures of my SO. But if this is true, then apparently everyone else thinks we’re ugly, professional photographers included.

So, for me, that is definitely going to be the most stressful part of the wedding. SO and myself are both terribly unphotogenic. I think part of the problem is that we’re both deathly pale. Our skin reflects flash photography, which widens our faces and flattens our bone structure. I can go heavy on the contouring, but it seems to disappear in flash photography even when I look like Maleficint in real life.

I guess I’m not so much worried about the act of having my pictures taken; I’m worried that I will see the results and cringe.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 2 months ago by  shadowysewist.
Post # 6
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’ve had my wedding trial photos available for 3 days and still haven’t looked at them…

I think I look ok looking in a mirror but then take a photo of me the next second and I don’t like the way I look. I’m hoping to look at my photos critically and learn my better angles and smiles but am scared that I won’t like any of them and that that’s how others really see me.

Plus the photographer told me I blinked in most of them. argh.

Post # 7
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m super self-conscious, and we went with a photographer who was subtle and basically just snuck around taking most pictures without us knowing he was even there! Definitely the way to go πŸ™‚


Rose214:  Doesn’t sound like a very good photographer if (s)he can’t get a picture of you with your eyes open!! πŸ™ they should be able to do that for you and keep snapping until they get one with your eyes open. Have you signed the contract with them for the wedding yet?

Post # 8
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I despise it. I always look bad in pictures. I went through this phase about 7-8 years ago where I looked good in every picture. . I don’t know what happened? I was, however, pleasantly surprised at how well I did in my wedding pictures. Don’t get too stressed about it. 

Post # 9
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Kellym84:  ya there were a few actually, they just sent all so I could have a good look at the good and bad, and I know I blink a lot in photos so its really not them, they said “dont worry we will find a way :)”

Post # 11
38 posts

I honestly thought I was the only one in the world dreading wedding pictures because I also hate having my pictures taken! But, I somehow think I look better on professional cameras, and as long as the pictures aren’t too close-up, I think I’ll be fine (Maybe you too?). You told the photographer your good angles, she knows what makes you uncomfortable, so trust that she’ll do her job well. 

I think if we forget that pictures are being taken and just have a great time, the pictures will turn out beautiful. A person IS his or her harshest critic. Our fiancés did choose to marry us, they will see us only as beautiful on that day πŸ™‚ 

Post # 13
6666 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I hated it for years when I was heavier & my skin was oily.  I also tend to wash out in pictures.  A good MUA really helps with that, aging took care of the oilyness & the extra weight is gine, so I am much less self concsious but still highly critical of myself.

Post # 14
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015


Are you getting a trial makeup? A good makeup artist can help to create better angles in your face for photos with countouring makeup. That is the only reason I paid for having my makeup done. I wasn’t crazy about the eye makeup (I’ll make more specific requests the day of), but I when I did see my photos I was quite pleased with my skin tone in the photos. The makeup photographed beautifully. I hope your’s goes well too!

Maybe a photo pre-wedding photo sessions would help you as well. I know now that my no smile “smiling with my eyes” attempt didn’t work out too well πŸ™‚ so won’t waste any more photos with that attempted look. And while there was only one photo that I really liked where we both looked good, I’m not so worried the day of because I know what to work on (some teeth whitener for one!)

Can you get a friend to do a mock photo shoot just so you two get more comfortable in front of the camera? Because my FI hurt his foot we had to do our photo shoot sitting down, and I felt a tad awkward and didn’t know how to lean into him and look natural, but I know we take better standing up shots because that’s what we’re used to. We naturally get into a pose and I know how to angle into him and turn my head. Sitting down was totally foreign to me. Could be just some practise needed to get at least look and feel more comfortable!


  • This reply was modified 3 years, 2 months ago by  Rose214.
Post # 15
2641 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Miss.Kitten:  I felt like this exactly.  But blame the magic of just getting married, because I was so happy at the time that smiling wasn’t difficult.  In fact my photographer told us not to smile for some shots and I had a really hard time doing that.

We also made it clear that getting 7000 photos was not a priority to us and that we wanted to keep photos quick to enjoy the reception.  The photographer looked at me like I had two heads and a tail so I guess that’s an uncommon request, and I can’t say he really accomodated because we took a ton of photos after the ceremony, but now even 9 months later I still love going back to look at them.

Also what really helped me was that a few months prior to the wedding I had boudoir photos taken to give to DH as a wedding present.  I’d never felt like I looked good in photos but that shoot was a total ego boost so it made me feel a lot more comfortable in front of the camera.  Good luck!!

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