(Closed) Anyone else hate surprises?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I hate suprises as well. They never seem to have the reaction in me that people want.

But then I like giving surprises so… I can’t complain too much. Just distract yourself with something else 🙂

Post # 5
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Hate hate hate them.  Like if it’s an event I would much rather know where I’m going; what if we’re outdoors and I didn’t dress warm enough, or if it’s fancy and I dressed too casual, or if I didn’t know it was coming and I’m just not in the mood to go somewhere.  If it’s just a “big surprise” I would at least want to know like is it an item, or a trip, or what?  I don’t need to spoil the whole thing, but I need to know the basics.  Should I be clearing my weekend or a spot on the coffee table? 

Really I just like to be prepared for things.

Post # 6
2755 posts
Sugar bee

I want to love surprises, I really do. But like you, I lean toward Type A and when I know there’s a surprise afoot I do everything in my power to figure it out. I also tend to dig stuff out/ruin surprises without even realizing it – I crushed my ex-FI a few times because I completely destroyed secret plans he had for stuff. Ha.

Post # 8
2198 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Same here! I detest surprises of any kind. I’m impatient and curious and I like to be prepared (aka, control freak). My family and friends all know how I feel and they (mostly) respect my wishes. 

 @Kit_Kath:  I completely agree!

Post # 9
13290 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hate surprises, and I think thats why I’m so nervous about my rehearsal dinner — Fiance had to twist his mother’s arm to even tell us what the meal would be!

Post # 10
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am totally type A also… No one can ever get a surprise past me… I always find out. Hopefully wedding planning will take your mind off it and you will LOVE it whatever it is!

Post # 11
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I HATE surprises as well. It awful to say but I always say that I probably won’t like it if  I don’t already know what it is. I’m just very picky about things and schedules so I like to be in the know.

I Mother-In-Law is famous for just “springing” things on me and calling it a surprise. It’s her way of saying, “I know that you won’t enjoy/like this so I’m doing/giving it anyway and calling it a surprise so you feel obligated to like it”


Post # 12
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@RoyalLime:  Same here!!! It’s sad really. 

Post # 13
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hate them, too. Never have enjoyed them. I think it’s mean for someone to know this about you & tell you there is a surprise. 

Post # 14
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Aww… I LOVE surprises! I would be SO excited… But my Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law are fairly trustworthy, so that could be different for you!

Post # 15
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I like small surprises, but wouldn’t like something like a surprise party.  It would just make me anxious.

Post # 16
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Mimoza:  Eh, I have learned to embrace it. Plus all my friends come to me for organizing/planning/ surprises so it’s nice to know my “flaw” is accepted 🙂

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