(Closed) Anyone else hate the word fiance?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Me too! It has always sounded snotty to me.  I like “future intended”, or just “boyfriend”, or his name, depending on the situation.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Me too. I wish we had a native English word to use instead. Fiance really does sound pretentious.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

It doesn’t bother me.  But I like the word “husband” a lot better, lol.  Can’t wait!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love the word. Then again, I had to use “boyfriend” for 7 years and I HATED using boyfriend. I hated sharing the same term for the man I knew I was spending my life with with 12 year olds who go out for 2 hours and get the same title.

Fiancee to me says “I am committed to this and we’re almost there.” Boyfriend says “who knows if this is serious or if this is just a fling?”

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hate it too because when I say fiance at times it can seem like I’m trying direct the conversation to wedding and honestly I am not the kind of bride that is always trying to interject “wedding” into the conversation.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Mee!!! I never use it.  Spanish is my first language and they dont use it.  You go from being gf to wife.  There is a word for “betrothed” but its sort of archaic.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t like it. Sounds too frou frou for me. I just say my FI’s name most of the time. I also can’t help but think of the same Seinfeld episode every time I say it.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say boyfriend instead of fiance. I heard somewhere that saying fiance turns the conversation to the wedding, which I’ve found to be true.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Never been a fan of that word either and I LOVE that Seinfeld episode! I also don’t like the word boyfriend because he is soo much more than that.

I usually call FI either by his first name or I use the word ‘partner’.  He calls me wife and has for a few years…lol

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@redheadem:  Yes, and I find the fact that the conversation turning to the wedding is very annoying (WHEN IS IT, WHERE IS IT??) because we haven’t set a date or picked a venue. My FIANCE (eww) is still trying to sort out whether or not he wants to elope like I do, have a small wedding with just family, or have a larger one. I hate having to go through this conversation every time.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

me!  I’m not sure if it is because it’s a french word or the tone of the word or what.  At first I used boyfriend unless I felt the need to publicise our relationship to someone.  Now I use it a little more naturally, but I still don’t like the word!  

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrsSonthebeach:  YES! I always stumble over it. Maybe because its so new and feels weird still.  But i feel like a snob. You cant say fiancee without it soundling like your trying to rub it in.

@Tangled:  I love Seinfeld.  There is an episode that relates to every day of life lol

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

I don’t think I could introduce him IRL as my “fiance”. I feel ridiculous even saying boyfriend at this point in my life. Now, “husband”….that’s hot. Soon… Wink

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