Anyone else hate wedding planning?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

oh no… sorry to hear that you are stressing out about planning your wedding! Were you not able to hire a wedding planner? I am getting married in a few months and I didn’t hire a wedding planner because I really love planning events. I like organising everything and am enjoying planning my wedding. It does get stressful especially when an unexpected thing happens. 

Post # 3
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Wannabee

All those needs for acquiring stuff like stage rentals hawaii is part of the process. It might be boring but when you look back at it. You’ll realize how fun it was.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Me. I hated wedding planning. I cried nearly every single day. But looking back now, I realized how grateful I am to be surrounded by supportive friends and Darling Husband. Those silly nitpicking and stress would be over soon and you would realize how silly you were for stressing over such trivial details because you probably wouldn’t even notice it on the big day 🙂 Because really, the wedding day really is going to be a perfect day whether or not things go smoothly: because you and your Fiance are going to look super gorgeous and seeing everyone you love, you’re just gonna smile and everything’s going to be okay!

Best of luck and just vent away as much as you want!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

yea, i hated the idea of planning and was on team elopement, but my husband wanted the party…so we did a very minimalist celebration.

in the end i had to book a photographer, hair lady, makeup lady, restaurant for the reception, order/send invitations, and go dress shopping. it was the most i was willing to do for a party i wasn’t particularly interested in. my husband really enjoyed it and that is what matters. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I hate wedding planning and I’ve spent very little time stressing. I did most of my diy things early on because I honestly just needed to get things crossed off my list so that I could stop caring about it. I’m just waiting for RSVPs to come back so I can make place cards, and then I’m done until set up. I refuse to get burned out over a single day when I have too much going on at work/my final two courses for my master’s. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Yep! The stage you’re in now was the worst for us too–every task we crossed off was like a damn hydra, leaving three in its place. Completed lists spawned new lists, there were literal lists of lists, and everything felt SO CLOSE yet so far.

I think I survived the last two weeks before the wedding two ways: one, delegating and asking for help. If any of your friends have been offering to help and you’ve been brushing them off, now is the time to let them take stuff off your plate. Two, making one last list of the actual crucial non-negotiable stuff and noting how short it was compared to the “non-negotiable” list. I’m not saying the other stuff isn’t important, but seeing the much, much shorter list of truly actually key things we were responsible for (I’m talking things like getting the marriage license, getting both of us to the venue, and getting the rings to the venue) definitely calmed me way down. Especially when I realized we could adapt even if most of the crucial non-negotiables somehow failed, and that as long as we both showed up we would make it happen.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Yes!  25 days to go and OVER IT.  I went on a week vacation the first of august and I told my family NO WEDDING TALK.  I needed  mental break for the week.  Granted, my plannig has been a breeze and no real complaints, but it’s so much work (and money!) for one day.  And not even the whole day, just several hours when you think about it!  I keep saying the day after will be the best day of my life, I’ll be married and this damn wedding will be OVER!  Hang in there girl, you’re so close!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I have hated every minute of it– you are not alone!!! So much of my time now is spent wedding planning and it’s driving me insane. I think for me, the most stressful thing has been that everyone involved in this wedding (fiance included, surprisingly) has imbued every detail with so much meaning that I can’t make a decision about table numbers or earrings without somone ending up mortally offended. I feel like I’d be ok with all of the details if they just weren’t so emotional and didn’t take so long to hash out! Keep your chin up and keep counting down the days– hopefully all of the heartache will have been worth it for both of us!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I’ve hated certain parts of planning but with 19 days to go I realize dealing with people bothers me more than planning. Excited to be married, not feeling all that excited about the actual wedding. Ready to get it over with and enjoy our honeymoon.

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