Post # 1
I’m getting married 9/9/17, so just twelve more days left, but man am I ready to be done planning this thing. My Fiance is super involved (he’s doing a solid half of the work) so I have no complaints on that front, and I do love the wedding we’re planning and am so excited for the day and to spend my life with this man. But I just feel like a total robot who does nothing but plan this big frivolous party, yet everything I finish, I realize there are two more tasks to do. Our venue has never done a wedding before so there was a boatload of logistics related to that, and every single part of our wedding is super customized and it’s felt like a full-time job for months now. (We’re both professors on summer vacation and we really have been doing this 40+ hours a week for what feels like forever.) We fell very behind in planning so there’s still a decent chunk of totally non-negotiable stuff that needs to be done and we’re so close to the date that there’s no time to take a day off. Two weeks ago we took a four-day vacation with no wedding talk allowed, but as soon as we got back home, boom, the stupid wedding stress started again. I’m not looking for advice here, I just need to suck it up and finish the last loose ends on the list. But I had no idea how freaking exhausting and awful this process would be and had to vent. Anyone else really disliking the planning process?
Post # 2
oh no… sorry to hear that you are stressing out about planning your wedding! Were you not able to hire a wedding planner? I am getting married in a few months and I didn’t hire a wedding planner because I really love planning events. I like organising everything and am enjoying planning my wedding. It does get stressful especially when an unexpected thing happens.
Post # 3
All those needs for acquiring stuff like stage rentals hawaii is part of the process. It might be boring but when you look back at it. You’ll realize how fun it was.
Post # 4
Me. I hated wedding planning. I cried nearly every single day. But looking back now, I realized how grateful I am to be surrounded by supportive friends and DH. Those silly nitpicking and stress would be over soon and you would realize how silly you were for stressing over such trivial details because you probably wouldn’t even notice it on the big day 🙂 Because really, the wedding day really is going to be a perfect day whether or not things go smoothly: because you and your Fiance are going to look super gorgeous and seeing everyone you love, you’re just gonna smile and everything’s going to be okay!
Best of luck and just vent away as much as you want!
Post # 5
yea, i hated the idea of planning and was on team elopement, but my husband wanted the party…so we did a very minimalist celebration.
in the end i had to book a photographer, hair lady, makeup lady, restaurant for the reception, order/send invitations, and go dress shopping. it was the most i was willing to do for a party i wasn’t particularly interested in. my husband really enjoyed it and that is what matters.
Post # 6
I hate wedding planning and I’ve spent very little time stressing. I did most of my diy things early on because I honestly just needed to get things crossed off my list so that I could stop caring about it. I’m just waiting for RSVPs to come back so I can make place cards, and then I’m done until set up. I refuse to get burned out over a single day when I have too much going on at work/my final two courses for my master’s. 🤷🏻♀️
Post # 7
Yep! The stage you’re in now was the worst for us too–every task we crossed off was like a damn hydra, leaving three in its place. Completed lists spawned new lists, there were literal lists of lists, and everything felt SO CLOSE yet so far.
I think I survived the last two weeks before the wedding two ways: one, delegating and asking for help. If any of your friends have been offering to help and you’ve been brushing them off, now is the time to let them take stuff off your plate. Two, making one last list of the actual crucial non-negotiable stuff and noting how short it was compared to the “non-negotiable” list. I’m not saying the other stuff isn’t important, but seeing the much, much shorter list of truly actually key things we were responsible for (I’m talking things like getting the marriage license, getting both of us to the venue, and getting the rings to the venue) definitely calmed me way down. Especially when I realized we could adapt even if most of the crucial non-negotiables somehow failed, and that as long as we both showed up we would make it happen.
Post # 8
Yes! 25 days to go and OVER IT. I went on a week vacation the first of august and I told my family NO WEDDING TALK. I needed mental break for the week. Granted, my plannig has been a breeze and no real complaints, but it’s so much work (and money!) for one day. And not even the whole day, just several hours when you think about it! I keep saying the day after will be the best day of my life, I’ll be married and this damn wedding will be OVER! Hang in there girl, you’re so close!
Post # 9
I have hated every minute of it– you are not alone!!! So much of my time now is spent wedding planning and it’s driving me insane. I think for me, the most stressful thing has been that everyone involved in this wedding (fiance included, surprisingly) has imbued every detail with so much meaning that I can’t make a decision about table numbers or earrings without somone ending up mortally offended. I feel like I’d be ok with all of the details if they just weren’t so emotional and didn’t take so long to hash out! Keep your chin up and keep counting down the days– hopefully all of the heartache will have been worth it for both of us!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I’ve hated certain parts of planning but with 19 days to go I realize dealing with people bothers me more than planning. Excited to be married, not feeling all that excited about the actual wedding. Ready to get it over with and enjoy our honeymoon.
Post # 11
The annoying thing is that we DO have a partial-service planner, but while she’s going to be useful as a day-of coordinator, she’s actually made our planning harder! Her tastes are suuuuuuuuper basic, and I can’t stand most modern wedding trends, so I’ll tell her, like, “No trendy furniture! No rustic, no vineyard, no farm tables, no chiavari. We want a Miami ’80s vibe!” then she’ll send over a hundred pictures of everything we said we hated and I have to spend a freaking hour on the phone with her politely explaining that I got email and nope nope nope. For some reason every phone call with her takes an hour because she reexplains everything half a dozen times. She seemed so great when I was choosing planners, but I’ve learned that if you’re a control freak or trying to do a bunch of things that haven’t been done before and that basically need to be created custom, it seems like a planner just isn’t that useful unless you have like $10,000 to spend on a crazy celebrity wedding planner.