Post # 1
I guess hate is a strong word. But I was never one to be hurt if I wasn’t invites. Maybe because no one close to me has gotten married since I was like 8. But until I started planning my own wedding did I realize how much people actually loved weddings.
I have been harassed by more family members on both sides than I can count. I never realized people are upset if they aren’t invited. This is something I never knew happened because I never was one to want to go to a wedding.
I love my wedding, but I don’t think I will ever want to go to a wedding as bad as a lot of the people I have been dealing with.
Anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
hmm…not sure you’re going to get much sympathy here, as this is a wedding website, and most of us are on it because we are obsessed, in some way or another, with weddings! 🙂
But yes, you will probably upset and offend other people in your family who think that they know how to plan your wedding (sigh my own mother) but feel free to come here to vent!
I hope you have a lovely wedding and things get better! Your big day is so close-just remember to enjoy it!
Post # 4
I don’t hate weddings, but I do think a lot of people make them into a bigger deal than they need be- especially with regard to what they are spending. I don’t get spending 10k on a wedding dress and 4k on a photographer. Also, I don’t assume that people are as into my wedding as I am. I have been a bridesmaid for a bridezilla in my day – I really don’t get that. I’m super psyched about my wedding and the fun stuff (photobooth, candy buffet, etc.) but I would be that excited about any party. I don’t have “wedding fever”. I am, however, excited to marry my mister
Post # 5
yeah, I dont get the huge craziness over weddings either. Like the crazy women who think that they get a whole year or month or week, instead of a day. And putting loads of money into one day, makes no sense to me. I am glad that we are one of the few people in our group who are even in a relationship, let alone married, because we don’t have invites to say no to 🙂
Post # 6
me! we have a huge circle of friends in our community and we’re constantly going to weddings. i am rather sick of going!
Post # 7
It is all what you make of it. Sounds like you’re going to be a stress-free, happy bride and that is great!!!
Post # 8
I think weddings areas stress-free as you decide they are going to be. You set the tone.
Post # 9
@lexusalizabeth: Hey date twin!
Yeah, I’ve come to accept that I will offend folks, even when I don’t mean to. But to be honest, you have to draw the line somewhere, and if they really love you, or have a level head, they’ll get over it eventually. Personally, I just don’t care. I mean, if my brother decided to elope, I wouldn’t get all pissy about it.
Post # 10
TOTALLY!!!! I am SO there!!! I loved my own but truthfully until the day I just couldn’t wait for it to be over, and now that my day is over and was SO much more fun then I had thought it would be I now wish I had spent more time enjoying the process. I still am always uncomfortable at other peoples weddings. no idea why.
Post # 11
Hmm..nope..I LOVE weddings!! 🙂 My own and my friends & family’s and those I don’t know too. The only one I HATED was when I was bridesmaid to a completely crazy girl who made me serve drinks all night on trays and wear an apron lol!!
Post # 12
I love going to weddings! I attend about 15 a year. I love the entire vibe, the food, the dancing, getting dressed up..
Post # 13
@mrs-v-to-be: hahaha, that sounds like fun! (not)
Post # 14
It’s nice to go to a wedding every now and then. The more you care about the people who get married, the better. But I can see where you are coming from. Weddings all seem to be the same, more or less:
Ceremony – Cocktail hour where you mingle and try to get some of those appetizers – finding your table – grand entrance, speeches, toasts – chicken or beef, usually served luke warm or cold if you are not in the bridal party – first dance, all other obligatory dances – getting drunk and doing the cha cha slide – waiting for the first people to go home, so you can leave too
It’s all different when it is your own wedding, of course. But knowing that nobody would care about our wedding as much as DH and I did, I kept my expectations low and really tried to make our wedding fun for our guests.
Post # 15
I love weddings! They are fun and offer opportunity to meet new people and get in touch with old ones. However its annoying if someone gets upset if he/she has not been invited for an wedding. That doesn’t make any sense!
Post # 16
I was the kind of girl who went to a wedding and sat there thinking how unecessary all that was, but as Fiance and I started talking about marriage I slowly became obsessed with weddings.