Post # 1
DH and I were so sick that we didn’t even get to attend our own reception at all. I didn’t get to see anything set up, and we had to shorten the ceremony significantly to get through it. We only took about 10 minutes of photos together and none with our families.
I am so disappointed and so sick of retelling the story over and over again. I am so tired of hearing people suggest that we have another reception (clearly they don’t understand how much it costs), make jokes about ‘maybe that was a sign’ or ‘in sickness and in health’, or tell me I’ll laugh about it one day. I’m glad the reception was enjoyed without us, but I don’t really want to hear anything else about it because it just depresses me. It was a small wedding, so most people haven’t heard the story yet and tomorrow I have to go to a work event where I know everyone will ask. I’m absolutely dreading it. Everyone is being very kind about it, I just don’t feel like reliving it again and again, yet there isn’t a polite way (especially in a professional situation) to avoid the discussion.
I am trying my best to handle it gracefully and obviously I’m just laughing when I tell the story and saying that at least we got married and that is the important part, etc, etc. But I am really crushed. You don’t get a second chance to do all of those things and I spent about $25k and six months putting it all together. I barely even remember the ceremony because I was just trying to get through it without passing out, and DH was even more sick than me.
Worst of all, I am finding myself extremely jealous of all the girls who actually get to go to their wedding receptions, and I am dreading a wedding we have already RSVPd to in June because I know it will take all my energy to just pretend to not be sad.
Not sure what I’m looking for here, just want to vent I guess.
Post # 3
That sounds awful! I am so sorry you had to go through that. I would be very upset if that happened to us on our wedding day. Especailly because you spent months and tons of money…. not to mention the anticipation. All I guess I can say is I hope you can see the good side that you are married to your best friend and get to spend the rest of your life with him. Maybe you can have vow renewal for one of your anniversaries. That will never make up for it but it might be fun. Hang in there!
Post # 4
@houstonwhodat: I’m so sorry to hear that it turned out so badly. As for telling others, I would just smile and politely say, “It was wonderful”. You really don’t have to relive the story for co-workers. I know they might ask more detailed questions, but maybe just focus on your future as a married couple instead of reliving the past. Comments like “We are so excited to start our life together” or “It feels great to be his wife” will keep your focus on hone positive future.
Are you guys going on a honeymoon? That might also be something to look forward to instead of focusing on the negative. Maybe you can even bring your wedding dress and suit and take pictures in them during your honeymoon!!
i know nothing can bring back your ability to attend your reception, so concentrate on making new memories as a married couple!!
Post # 5
@houstonwhodat: oh no! i’m so sorry to hear how your big day turned out. I would say don’t retell it anymore- at least to coworkers. I would say something like “It was a really special day.” and leave it at that.
Post # 6
@houstonwhodat: That is really horrible. I wish they could have moved your date :- I would just keep answers brief: “oh, it was fine, thanks for asking. Back into the regular grind now.” People can tell when you don’t want to talk about something and unless they have zero social graces, they will should leave it alone. You don’t need to relive it over and over – you have no obligation to tell anyone the story.
Post # 7
That totally sucks. Totally. I can understand why you don’t want to relive it with every person. I would let people know that you don’t want to talk about it and I think they’ll understand. Sorry.
Post # 8
@houstonwhodat: I’m so sorry that happened to you! My DJ told us a similar story about a bride who got violently ill at the beginning of the wedding, and spent the whole time in the bathroom. I hope you have an awesome honeymoon planned and can spend some time enjoying that. For what it’s worth, congratulations on getting married! 🙂
Post # 10
@houstonwhodat: Oh my god! I’m so so sorry. That is devestating I’m sure 🙁
Post # 11
Oh no! I’m sorry that happened.
I got really really sick in Mexico too, about 3 days into our vacation. I couldn’t move from the bed (unless I was throwing up) until the end of our vacation and was so disappointed.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry that happened to you two. Maybe you could do a low-cost laid-back Mexican food/drink home reception?
Post # 13
Thanks for the support guys. To answer questions we were sick with some kind of stomach virus. Not food poisioning because it hit us at different times. And we did have a honeymoon planned right after the wedding. We went to a different place in Mexico and it was nice, we had a great time.
I guess it’s just the fact that I work in a job where I am constantly in meetings or phone calls with the same people. It toes the line between customers and friendships, so I don’t want to be rude nor do I want to lie to people. Everyone is being nice and asking to see pictures etc. I think it’s rude to just put them off, and saying that I don’t want to talk about it sounds like I’m sad I’m married or something.
I’ve started coming up with some canned responses, I just wish I didn’t have to struggle so much to stay positive. We really did have some wonderful times with our guests before the wedding day and I’ve been trying to focus there.
Post # 14
@houstonwhodat: Awww I’m so sorry to hear your got sick before your wedding. This was always my biggest fear and it is an even bigger fear when you are out of the country (my wedding was in Cuba so I was terrififed of getting sick before the wedding)If I were you I would just let people know it went fine and they dont need to hear all the deatails of the wedding and what happened.
Post # 15
@houstonwhodat: Oh my dear. I am SOOOOOO sorry that this happened to you! I can only imagine the grief you must be feeling as a result of this, because I know how much and how long I grieved over the disappointment of not being able to greet almost anyone at my own wedding. I’m sure I felt only a very small portion of your pain.
I understand why it must frustrate you to no end when people simply suggest that you have another reception. Not only is it financially impossible for you to host another $25K event but also it’s unlikely that that you could ever have that exact same group of people in the same place at the same time again. I know that is what upset me the most when our wedding-day timeline imploded, and I had no opportunity to feel as if I ever had the chance to share my day with my family and friends.
Although, honestly, your story is one of the most heartbreaking I have seen posted on WB, I am going to provide a link to a thread that may help to provide at least a miniscule amount of comfort to you:
**Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos
Post # 16
@houstonwhodat: we got the same thing. It was awful. I’m pretty sure we caught it at the airport rather than food poisoning. You poor thing.