Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard
I hear so many divorce horror stories, but I had the opposite. Don’t get me wrong, it was still heartbreaking, however my ex-husband and I have been able to remain friends. Granted, we don’t talk a lot – maybe every month and-a-half or so – but, he keeps in contact with my family, we are Facebook friends, and when I go back to my hometown I usually meet up with him to at least say hi. If something “big” happens, I let him know (e.g. When my dog died, when my sis had her baby, etc.). Also, when we were at court getting the divorce, we sat next to each other and even held hands when the judge was reading us our divorce “verdict”! LOL
Does anyone else have stories of their friendly divorces? Or am I the only one? LOL
Post # 2
It’s really nice to hear that you and your ex found such a healthy and drama-free way to transition your marriage into a friendship! You’re obviously both very good people with a lot of mutual respect and maturity.
I think it’s far less common to hear good stories from couples that split up earlier in life and without attachments that keep them involved (such as children). Mostly those type of splits seem to be quite unpleasant and it’s not uncommon that if people do keep in touch, it ends up preventing one or both from properly moving on. Loving people is hard sometimes.
I know of several couples that have split after a lengthy time together (20+ years married) who have managed to establish or maintain a friendship, most of which involve grown-up children. It might be worth mentioning that none of these divorces involved affairs (as far as I know!) but rather a change or loss of the romantic spark.
I’m afraid I don’t have any personal experience to contribute to this thread, but thought it was a really interesting topic and wanted to give it a wee bump. Would love to hear from other bees with different stories too!
Post # 3
i know a couple who had a friendly divorce. it wasn’t friendly from the beginning- they spent time away from each other for a while, but were eventually able to become friends again. when the husband became ill with cancer, the wife and her new boyfriend (who is a doctor) helped him out a lot and he eventually moved back home and the wife took care of him until he passed.
i know another couple who has similar story. i don’t think they remained friends afterwards, but when the man got sick with cancer, the wife took him in and took care of him until he died.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I would have loved to have kept things civil at least but ex-h turned into a raging psycho. He tried a few times after things had blown over to be friendly but after the nightmare he put me through I had to let him know we would never be friends, it’s unfortunate but for the best.
Post # 5
My ex and I had a very civil divorce. Yes it was hard to make the decision and all that happened afterwords, but he helped me move out and we split our assest without arguement or issue. We still own a property together (nearly 10 years later) so we talk every once in a while about that. We are constantly wishing each other the best and actually mean it. I think it’s because, even if we didn’t work out doesn’t mean we don’t care and want each other to be happy…I guess that’s weird
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard
we just recognized we were heading in different directions and cared for one another enough that we wanted the other to be happy. We knew by staying together one of us would have to sacrifice and not be truly happy. he never wanted to leave the city we lived in, I tried for 9 yrs to be happy there – we bought a house, I was a teacher – but it just wasn’t me. The town was too small and stifled my creativity. He wasn’t willing to move and knew I would never be happy there-I felt like a caged bird. He cared for me enough to let me go.
that is such a sad and sweet story