- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Before becoming engaged, I never thought about wedding stuff in general, and therefore, I never really thought about the dad-walking-me-down-the-aisle thing until my dad actually brought it up. In my mind, I would walk down the aisle alone, which, if I lived in a non-compromising world, I think would be better and less weird.
The walking-down-the-aisle thing is pretty important to my dad, so I am letting him have it. I am his only daughter, and I don’t want to take this away from him.
But, then after attending another wedding, I realized another part of the tradition. The “who gives this woman to be married” and response tradition. I have problems with that for several reasons, being
1) My parents have been divorced since I was young, so my dad did not “raise” me, per se. How could he give me away?
2) On that note, how can anyone give me away? I am an adult. And I am not property. And my dad isn’t giving me to my FH. My FH and I are entering into an equal partnership (well, technically we are already in that parternship, but this is the ceremony that goes along with it).
I told my dad that I didn’t want any such lines in there, but he said, “No, it has to be in there. It is the one thing I’ve been waiting my whole life to say and to speak in front of a large group of people.” My dad has a stutter, which has improved a lot, but it has been a struggle for him all through his life. So, now I feel like I can’t take that away from him, either.
Do any of you plan to still have your dad walk you down the aisle, but use an alternative to “Who give this bride…?”