Post # 1
sigh. There are very, very, very few things about my Fiance that annoy me, but one of them is that he is a picky eater. In my mind, all he likes is “kid food.” (pizza, macaroni, ham sandwiches, pasta, etc.)
contrasted to me, the one who does the cooking (usually,) I LOVE experimenting with new foods, and trying different ethnic food and trying new things. Sometimes…it’s just so hard to find things to cook that don’t have ingredients he doesn’t like in them!
Here’s a partial list of what he doesn’t like (the things I can remember at the moment)
-hummus (one of my favorite things!)
-ground beef (he says it doesn’t taste like beef… umm…true, I guess…in a scary way…)
-pretty much anything else that is remotely “strong” tasting, like blue cheese or olives
And even when I think I’ve got a good meal, there is always SOMETHING that he pushes to the side of his plate, usually just cuz it’s “weird” (like artichoke hearts.)
Maybe he is like a little kid, in that I just need to introduce things to him several times before he will eat them!
Post # 3
@red_rose: I have one of those guys in my home too, but luckily for me, I’ve convinced him that trying things isn’t always a bad idea, and sometimes he’s pleasantly surprised. The best you can do is keep plugging away at him, and just remind him that you’re cooking things differently each time, so while he may not have enjoyed that pea in a casserole, he may like it in a soup?
Just keep a mental list of the progress you make with him, like certain styles of cooking or spices you may have used that he’s gravitating towards, and you’ll be able to develop a list of things he’ll eat. Also, maybe you can trick him by sliding some “good for you” food into thiings he does like– maybe some mashed cauliflower into his mashed potatoes? Things like that.
I know it gets frustrating. Stick with it. 🙂
Post # 4
@StuporDuck:thanks! He usually is pretty good about “trying things,” and I appreciate the effort, I just need to remember that he really and truely doesn’t like as many things as I do! And appreciate his effort. And keep trying to find ways to “disguise” things. 🙂
Actually, we have a theory: his sense of smell is really strong (he’s always smelling things that other people can’t, like talking about how there is a different smell for every single person’s house!) and I’ve heard that smell and taste are directly related, so maybe that’s why he is a picky eater…
Post # 5
@red_rose: Well if that’s true, maybe it would be helpful for you to play around with a more bland diet for him and gradually introduce the new things into it. I agree that hearts of palm are a little more pungent than a lot of things. Or artichoke hearts can be a bit of a shock for someone testing out their pallets.
Maybe try some rice-heavy or pasta type dishes? Work up to things that might be overpowering?
When all else fails, hand him a nose plug. 🙂 😉
Post # 6
I’ve always been a picky eater, but I’ve definitely improved a lot since I was a kid. I love cooking and making new dishes, but for me it’s essential that something looks appealing. If something doesn’t look appealing, chances are that I won’t like it.
I also don’t like ground beef. It’s not so much the taste as the consistency… it just seems gross to me.
I don’t like melted cheese (although I love pizza… weird I know), most types of seafood and mushrooms.
I’m sure your SO can improve as well. Maybe try to find new ways to prepare ingredients that he doesn’t like? Maybe try to get him used to spicy food as well, that might improve his dislike for “strong tasting” food.
Post # 7
Agreed. Maybe look at recipes with him, and ask him which he’d prefer to try first? Having him involved in the process is a start too! 🙂 I’m sure you do that already, but it could be a nice bonding experience if nothing else. And cook the meal together. Maybe he’d be more apt to like something he put in some labor preparing along with you?
I like doing it that way, personally. If I relied on my picky eater to cook for the both of us, I’d be eating the same 2 things for the rest of my life. 🙂 I know you said you did most of the cooking though, but I know it can be frustrating when it feels like you’re limited.
Post # 8
Oh man I feel for you…that would really frustrate me because I love to cook as well and those are just so many limitations.
Is he willing to taste new things?
Maybe to make it easier for yourself- what if you made chicken but on your plate you added olive tapenade sauce and he could just have it plain- or steak with blue cheese sauce and he could just omit the sauce…as a way to cook for both of you without having to limit things yourself…?
Post # 9
When we first started dating, his only foods: fries/tater tots, cheese-only quesadilla, tomato soup, refried beans, cheese or pepperoni pizza, and potato chips. That is literally all he would eat.
We’ve slowly worked on adding meat (his mom enforced a vegetarian diet). He will now eat chicken tenders, hamburgers, hot dogs, and sirloin steaks. We’ve also added rice, caesar salad, baked apples, and chicken noodle soup.
Still won’t eat: nachos, barbeque, macaroni, any other vegetable, most fruits, olives, beans, any type of sandwich.
Sometimes I force: spaghetti, ramen, bread products
Post # 10
Every person’s house DOES have its own smell. Even if you can’t notice it directly, think of when you slept over at a friend’s house and returned home…your pillow no longer smells like YOUR house, it smells like theirs.
But not liking bacon? What’s up with that? lol. My hubby is a somewhat picky eater, (seafood makes him sick, so I don’t blame him for not eating that!), but I don’t think he’s QUITE as bad as your Fiance.
I saw an episode of “Freaky Eaters” the other night, and the lady could ONLY eat french fries. Every meal, every day, for 26 years. They did genetic testing on her, and her results were incredibly abnormal regarding taste. I guess some people are just programmed to be pickier.
Post # 11
Been there! I’m very lucky, he’s converted to eating everything and enjoying every second of it! Now he uses more garlic than I do! : ) He’s becoming a great cook and food critic 😀
Post # 12
@Miss Apricot: I’ve never heard of that show! I’m curious – what network is it on?
Post # 13
My Fiance is extremely picky when it comes to food. I would get really frustrated when I would cook something and he would eat like 1/4 of it. Okay, okay, I’m not a good cook but still! So now we have a great arrangement that seems to have solved this problem. He does ALL the cooking. Lord knows I will eat just about anything so this really work for us! 😉
Post # 14
I am so glad that both of our parents were the “you can’t not like something you haven’t tried!” camp. Hubs is still a more picky eater than me, but I am pretty adventurous (and lucky for me my bff forever is too, so we can eat weird stuff together). And it also works that the foods I’m allergic to (sweet potatoes, mushroom, coconut) he doesn’t like, so that makes things easier.
I know a few picky eaters, and honestly it drives me nuts!!! I can’t understand having such a limited palette…
Post # 15
I think I’ve got you beat in this department. Fiance eats the following foods and only those foods: chicken breast (plain, no seasoning or sauce whatsoever), rice (again plain), protein shakes, peanut butter on whole grain toast. Very occasionally he eats baby carrots dipped in ranch or apples with peanut butter or a turkey burger with no bun, just plain meat dipped in ketchup. This is seriously all he eats. I love all types of food and its so frustrating. People wonder why I don’t cook much, what would I make ? It’s not fun to make a big meal for yourself.
Post # 16
He’s not picky, but because of health reasons he recently switched to a grain- and sugar-free diet. I am vegetarian (have been for about 10 years). It is NOT EASY to find recipes that are no-sugar, no-grains, and no-meat!! So I feel your pain.