(Closed) Anyone else have bridal party bailers?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

At my first wedding my stepsister bailed as a bridesmaid.  A WEEK before… after invites had already been sent to a shower she was supposed to host (it was a semi destination and many guests were there for a whole week).  It was AWFUL and totally drama filled.  Thankfully, my best friend stepped up (I’m thankful I had dresses that came from a store in town off the rack!) and took her place, as I wanted to do originally but kept it just family.

My Maid/Matron of Honor was my cousin who I don’t even like that much, but I was young and it seemed simpler to do it that way.

This time around… no Maid/Matron of Honor, I was suppsoed to have 3 bridesmaids, but one still can’t confirm if she can make the trip (the same one that saved me first time around!)  which is a bummer because she was also supposed to make my wedding cake.

One is a cousin that i love, but she’s a few hours away so not much help in day to day stuff….

And one friend who is turning out to be a major disappointment.  Told me a million times she had her dress, but didn’t… never RSVPd to my shower though she told me she wasn’t coming.  Can’t be bothered to send her RSVP card to the wedding back… and is generally just not being helpful. 

I’m glad for you you had a friend to step up! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sorry this happened to you! I had the same thing happen to me about 3 months before my wedding. Her reason was basically that she didn’t want to take one weekend out of her life to come support one of her “best friends.” It’s a long story, but basically me and the girl are no longer friends. It worked out for the best though and I’m sure this is a blessing in disguise for you too.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Future Sister-In-Law just bailed 3 weeks ago as my bridesmaid. What it came down to is that she was jealous of all the attention my Fiance and I are getting with our wedding coming up (her mother-my FMIL- told us this) She’s getting married 3 weeks after us ( we had our date first) and despite booking most of the same vendors as us, we are getting a lot of buzz since we are having really fun add-ons like fireworks and extras that she can’t afford. It seems like she got really competitive with us lately and anytime anyone talked about our wedding, she would leave the room. My Fiance and I are not competitive people- we just wanted to have the wedding of our dreams. If she wanted all the lime-light just on her, and to avoid comparisons, she should’ve picked another date. I will not be replacing her in the wedding and she’s not talking to us now at all so we don’t know if she’s even coming to the wedding. Omg, why do weddings bring out the worst in some people- it should be a wonderful, happy time!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@maybride2011: It always sucks when someone bails like that! I’m glad that you found someone else!

This also happened to me. One of my bridesmaids told me that the bridesmaid dresses I’d selected were too expensive… I selected Alfred Angelo bridesmaid dresses for 2 reasons: 1) They were adorable 2) They worked within everyone’s budget ..hmm! Thank goodness I was able to find someone else to fill her spot!

 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That happened to me too…one of my best friends from college bailed on me because she couldn’t “afford” the dress (it’s David’s Bridal….and she has a good job) and that she wouldn’t have “time” to come and get the dress.  Not sure if she’ll even show up for the wedding.  I wanted her to be in the wedding because I really cared about her.  Oh well, if she doesn’t come, it’s probably for the best anyway.  Weddings really show you who your true friends are.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

It hasn’t happened to me yet but it’s happened to a friend of mine.

S asked H to be a bridesmaid right away… and was probably going to make her Maid/Matron of Honor. About 2 months into planning, H told S that she had doubts about being a bridesmaid, that she would really enjoy just watching the wedding unfold. Another month or two passes and H tells her that she feels really pressured by the bridesmaid role and feels like she can’t stand up there with S because she doesn’t approve of S’s fiance! Mind you, S has been with her fiance for over 9 years at this point. Then finally H asks to opt out of the wedding party.

H still came to the wedding but they haven’t talked since (over a year ago).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

a friend of mine just has 2 groomsmen bail a month out from their wedding. Before that the best man wasn’t sure if he was going to be able to get time off but with 2 of them bailing he decided that he would try much harder to make sure he could get time off.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i had my best friend bail out on the wedding and our friendship without a word, back in october (wedding is in august), my cousin has to bail because she has been on bedrest since she got pregnant, 1 groomsman may bail cause he’s a govt contractor and may be overseas, and another groomsman is being treated for cancer.

just to be clear, i don’t blame any of the latter 3 ppl, but i am still angry about my best friend.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

A groomsman just bailed with less than 3 weeks to go before the wedding!!!!  Luckily I found a replacement, but that’s not the point.  How rude can you be???  He wrote a FB message with about 2 sentences saying something vague about work and health.  Not even a phone call.  Amazing.

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