- The Future Mrs.Freckles
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
First post, and it’s a lil negative and lonnnnnng! Lol here goes.
When I was 14 my mum married my stepdad and from there, for me, it was hell. I’m still trying to understand it, but essentially he’s f***ed up cruel, and she just joined in. It got to the point where I was told at 16 by a social worker that if I didn’t leave, he (the social worker) would have to remove me.
So I lived by myself, until I repaired my relationship with them (at this point my bro was living with his dad, my mum was brokenhearted, and I’m to this day blamed for…I really can’t say?!). My FH and I go to their house for BBQs, etc.
Neightboors, family friends, and my FH are appalled at how my stepdad treats me. It’s just cruel…ignoring me, laughing at everything I say, belittling me with no warning…and I truly do deserve an apology for the past (it was psychologically twisted. I wasn’t allowed out of my room and my food was limited…subjected to aggressive verbal abuse each day.)
I strive to keep my relationship with my mum, who is ‘untouchable’ due to her being such a victim over losing my brother (they dont speak). THEN…
He acted like he’d pay for the whole wedding…I was uneasy. Then, he hears we’re planning our barn wedding in the GTA, 15 min. away. He says he cant support a wedding there as it will be 2x as expensive. It’s FAR cheaper. He’s pissed because we didn’t plan to have his help and I don’t know, thinks it should be in some community center basement…I am not hard to please. I’ve done so much research to make this classy but CHEAP lol.
I do not want to be embarassed at my wedding because he decides that day to be rude to me. I don’t want to explain why he acts like a grumpy child.
Does anyone else have crap stepparents?? FH has one hell of a stepmom, too.