Anyone else have multiple showers?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m having 2 showers but one is being planned by my family and one by my boss (strictly coworker shower). Your plan sounds perfectly fine to me!

Post # 3
708 posts
Busy bee

If your hometown is too far, then I would go for it. 

Im having a bridal shower in CA with all my family/friends and my Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law are throwing me a little shower in Ohio (my FI’s home town). He also has an aunt and an uncle with mobility issues. That aside, I think expecting people to fly out for a shower is a bit unreasonable which is why we decided on two. 

Post # 4
3716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I was given 3 showers. One thrown by aunts on my husband’s side, one thrown by aunts on my side, and a small shower thrown by coworkers. 

Post # 5
545 posts
Busy bee

I did. I had one in my hometown that my mom hosted, and then my Mother-In-Law hosted one for us in Texas where they live so that everyone down there could attend as well. I don’t see anything wrong with it at all 

Post # 6
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m having 2 showers.  My parents live out of state and my moms sweet friends insisted on throwing me one.  I will also have one thrown my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid.

Post # 7
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I am having two showers as well. My mom is hosting one this weekend for family and friends that live nearby.

My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she is hosting one the week of the wedding. She lives in Australia and won’t be flying in until a week before the wedding, so my bachelorette party and bridal shower will be happening in the last few days before I get married. That shower will be in southern California (where we’re getting married) and will mostly be attended by my college friends.

Post # 8
4603 posts
Honey bee

Lots of people have multiple showers.  So long as you have two people who are offering to throw you a shower and your guest lists don’t overlap, it’s fine.  Many showers are smaller affairs and often in people’s homes so they are limited in the number of guests by how many people can comfortably be hosted or simply due to budget or location.  Having two showers with 10 or 15 guests instead of one shower with 20-30 guests is perfectly acceptable.

As for what you do, that’s pretty much nothing other than maybe gather contact information for a guest list if they ask for it.  You really don’t have any role in the planning process and that is all up to the hosts of the event to take care of.

Post # 9
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I had two showers simply because Darling Husband and I’s family lives 10hours away from each other.

His family wanted one on their side that everyone could attend and the same for my family.

Post # 10
2525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If 2 people are offering to throw the shower, sure. But it sounds like you’re requesting two showers…no one should be required to throw you a shower. 

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