Post # 1
We got married a few weeks ago, and ever since the day after I have anxiety over the my regrets and the issues of the evening. Overall it was a great day, and I know I am over analyizing, but all this stuff is still really bothering me.
I was so stressed with work the weeks leading to my wedding that a lot of stuff was left to the last minute, and I got NO SLEEP for the the two nights before.
The day of everyone ran late, and since we were having our pictures before the wedding we got very few taken.
I loved my dress, but it was not altered properly, and ended up making me look heavier than I am.
With all the stress we got nervous about being infront of everyone that we changed our long heartfelt vows to a one liner, and our ceremony lasted 6 minutes.
I had planned to give a speech to thank our parents and guests, but I completely forgot.
I think the photographers left before they got a picture of the cake.
We never had the DJ announce the candy bar, so half the guests missed it. and I’m sure there is no picture of it either.
Since I had not eaten all day, or drank in a month, I got drunk way too fast. Which I think is my biggest regreat because a lot of this could have been avoided if I had been more in control. I also feel like I missed a lot of everything, just because I wanted to be everywhere at once.
Did anyone else have wedding regrets?
Post # 3
I have some. Like you said, overall it was a fantastic day and I’m so happy with how a lot of it went. There were a few things I would do differently, but I think no matter what went wrong and what you would change, the goal of the day was to marry your best friend. If that happened, then you accomplished it! All of the rest is just the “fluff” that goes along with it. Try to focus on what went right instead of what went wrong. That’s helped me!
Post # 4
I completely understand how you feel. I had anxiety for months after my wedding despite all my guests repeating to me that they had a blast: my dress was too big on the top, hair & makeup wasn’t done the way I wanted but we were running late so I just had to deal. I arrived 30 minutes late to the chapel, the centerpiece vases were chipping, & a couple of people had their cars towed because of snow clearing (wooh january!!).
I felt like crap about my day & about myself. These negative feelings only subsided when I received my photos and saw it from someone else’s perspective. Weddings are so emotionally exausting; all the ups & downs really warp your perception of the whole thing.
Post # 5
I’m still having them. They day was amazing, and honestly I had a great time. There were just a few little things that I realized in the days following all the partying stopped that started to eat away at me.
*My dress was laced wrong… it fit perfectly and stayed up all night with no tugging. However, I saw a pro pic in our teasers and realized we missed some loops. No one noticed… not even me till I saw the pic. (below)
*I planned to request a song “Glad you Came” and dedicate it to all our guests since it was a Destination Wedding. I got so swept up in the partying, drinking, dancing, and laughing that I forgot.
*We preparred a waltz to the song “A Thousand Years” in addition to our first dance… but the groom and I missed the song since we were outside.
*My family requested a bunch of group dance songs… more than I wanted but eh…
These are all really small things… but I lay awake at night sometimes just going over and over them. I don’t know why… it really was a perfect day. For some reason I just keep obsessing over things that didn’t matter.