Post # 1
Hi all, let me start by saying that I love my Fiance very, very much… but his sleeping habits are waaay different than mine. I can’t fault him though because he suffers from bouts of insomnia and generally stays awake way later than I do. When he can’t sleep, he likes to read on his kindle until he finally gets drowsy but the light bothers me. I mentioned this to him so he sweetly offered to sleep on the couch on late nights, but that just feels wrong to me… I’m not going to kick him out of his room! He’s since turned down the screen brightness and I’ve been starting to get used to eye shades, which help a little bit. He’s lucky I love him 😉
Does anyone else have problems sharing the bed?
Post # 2
Oh, and let me add that usually it’s not a problem! Generally, I’m able to sleep fine.
Just looking for other experiences and if anyone has any advice 🙂
Post # 3
I usually sleep like a rock so I can sleep through mosst of DH’s shenanigans. But he sleepwalks and talks in his sleep and that can get really annoying. The other night he was rooting around in the bed on his hands and knees and told me we were going on an adventure. Last night he woke me up convinced we needed to leave to go somewhere at 2 am. Those antics definitely drives me bananas. Also, he’s a 6’3” 275 lb former football player, so his sleep activities are just insane.
You’re sweet to wear eye shades for him! I would have told him to read downstairs and come to bed when he was done lol. But we are the reverse of you, and I like to stay up late reading!
Post # 4
Well at least he’s just reading his kindle and not watching tv in the room lol. When I used to share a room with my sister, she would also have insomnia sometimes and would stay up late watching movies. Noise and light bothers me greatly at night, so it was horrible when I had to wake up early in the morning the next day. I think it’s so sweet that he offered to sleep on the couch, but I would never let my SO do that either.
I use a bipap to sleep at night, and I used to be terrified that I wouldn’t be able to let SO sleep at night with my machine. We don’t live together, but we’ve gone on vacations where I take my machine overnight, and I was so surprised he slept like a rock as soon as he put his head on the pillow. So I guess it worked out perfectly, he’s definetly a heavy sleeper.
So I don’t have any advice, but I can just kind of relate to both of you because I’ve been in your situation where I can’t sleep because of someone else in the room, and also of me possibly being the one that can’t let the other person sleep. Oh but something that helped a little being able to sleep through the light and noise was really tyring myself out before bed. I would workout at home with weights about 1-2hrs before bed.
Post # 5
I’m on the other side. I am a major insomniac. I hate it. I spend half my life being shattered. I’ll be tired all day, get into bed, and suddenly I’m wide awake. Thankfully my boyfriend sleeps like a rock. He gets straight in bed and falls asleep. It’s only when I have such a bad night that I’m tossing and turning that it keeps him up. We go to bed around 11ish, but if I’m still wide awake an hour later then I’ll start reading or get up and go downstairs to do something just until I feel tired again. I wish I could stay in bed, but it’s so hard, unhealthy and miserable lying there for hours next to someone as they sleep. You do sound like you aren’t as heavy a sleeper as my boyfriend though, so eye shades are a good idea. I hope your other half gets better at sleeping!
Post # 6
I heard about one couple who didn’t sleep together until they were married. He sleeps “upside down” so his feet would be at the head of the bed, near her head and her feet near his head… she didn’t know what to do… so be glad yours doesn’t sleep in weird positions!
Post # 7
I could have written this! It’s a struggle for us too. I love going to bed early while he is a complete night owl! He will stay up till 4am reading or working from the bed. I’m a light sleeper so him typing keeps me up as well as the light from the computer. He bought a headlight so he can read documents in bed which is hilarious! And I have tried several sleep mask but I’m afraid it’s too tight on my face and will cause wrinkles. He is also a night eater except he’s not conscious of it. It’s so weird he doesn’t even remember doing it. So far I have woken up to roast beef on my face (I’m a strict vegan), a pool of melted Popsicles that he was covered in and completely sticky, he also finished the top layer of our wedding cake the day we were married. Half the cake was on the floor next to the bed. That happens 2-3 times a week… We’ll never have nice sheets! Sorry no advice, but I can sure commiserate 🙂
Post # 8
We sleep in the same room but I sleep on our couch and he sleeps on the bed. I have health problems and I need my sleep whereas DH thrashes about and pushes me out and its too disturbing. We find our cuddle time throughout the day but man, I fucking love all the sleep I now get
Post # 9
We have the same problem but reversed, I’m the one staying up reading. I turn the brightness all the way down and pull the covers over my head to block the light.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
It sounds like you’ve reached a good compromise. I think Fiance and I are past the difficulties for the most part… My side of the bed is against the wall, and I usually have to get up before he does in the morning, so climbing over him annoys me. But we can’t situate our bed any other way in his tiny bedroom but we will be able to have space on both sides in our new house, thank God! lol
He also suffers from bouts of insomnia but he’ll get up and go into the living room to watch tv or get work done. Lately I haven’t even noticed him getting out of bed (his movement used to wake me up). So I think we’re getting along well lol
Post # 11
We have DEFINITELY had sleep issues!! …and most of them are my fault…LOL
Started off – we had a Queen size bed and we are both big people…not fat, just not small – he is 6’2, I am 5’7…in addition, we had a 100 pound dog that liked to sleep with us (my dog coming into the relationship) …on top of that, I like to watch tv to fall asleep, we both get REALLY warm at night, I get up to pee in the middle of the night (pretty much always), and if he has even one drink, he snores…oh, and we both like to sleep with a bunch of pillows…
I gotta hand it to him – he NEVER complained about the dog in the bed…not once (I don’t know if I would have been so gracious if the roles were reversed…I would like to think I would have been, but not sure)…the dog would literally somehow manage to take up 2/3 of the bed and he and I would both be hanging off 1/6th of the bed on each side…the dog was old, and he recognized he would not be around for ever and didn’t want to make him change the bad habit I enabled for so many years (sadly, the dog has since passed away 🙁 )
So – we upgraded to a King size bed a year ago with an Icomfort mattress that has been WONDERFUL for our relationship…LOL…we now have PLENTY of space on the bed – there was even plenty of room with the dog…we don’t get as warm anymore…if I get up to go to the bathroom, he doesn’t feel the whole bed move…also, me watching tv at night doesn’t bother him as much (he said it’s because the bed is so comfortable, the second his head hits the pillow, he is out)
Post # 12
I have a similar problem… But it usually has to do with him playing on his phone and/or turning over and breathing heavily *directly* into my face haha! If I’m cranky, I’ll just give him a little shove.
I also tried eye shades but they made me feel too constrained and somehow always managed to get tangled in my hair. One thing that has helped is our Snoozeenie (silly name), which is a foam pillow that you can put between you and your FI–it sounds a lot more hostile than it actually is! I even used it when I had a wicked cold a few weeks ago and didn’t want to spread germs. I’d recommend checking it out, I ordered one off the website http://www.snoozeenie.com
Hope that helps!!
Post # 13
I’d prefer to sleep alone most of the time. He goes to sleep straightaway and usually snores. I take a lot longer to sleep and then his snoring keeps me awake. I end up surfing wedding bee with the brightness on my phone down at minimum!
Post # 14
Bahaha that’s hilarious!
I also shared a room with my sister–fortunately no tv, but she would talk in her sleep! And I like the idea of working out later… will definitely give it a try!
Ah, sorry to hear about your sleep struggles 🙁 I’d say I’m a moderate sleeper, so it depends on the night whether or not he wakes me up
Oh man, you’re right 🙂 haha I’ve never heard of that before
I’m glad I’m not alone! And I hadn’t thought about the eye mask causing wrinkles… think I’m gonna look for another solution!
Glad you guys were able to figure it out and sleep well!
That’s really considerate 🙂
You guys have definitely seemed to figure it out!
Aw sorry to hear about your dog 🙁 I think it might be a good idea to upgrade to a king!
Oooooh the Snoozeenie looks awesome!!! I think I’m definitely gonna order one–thanks for the recommendation!
Post # 15
Oh, I’ve definitely been known to scroll thru Wedding Bee when trying to go to sleep 🙂