Post # 1
I read so many posts about what a bride’s bridesmaids/MOH are NOT doing to contribute to their day and my heart goes out to each of them. Just to be clear, I’m in the ‘Bridesmaids should NOT be expected to make centrepieces/throw a shower/go dress shopping/make pew bows’ camp.
This is why my bridal team never ceases to amaze me with how ‘above and beyond’ they go with each and every aspect of the wedding. My Maid/Matron of Honor calls me twice a week asking how things are going and if there’s anything she can do to help. My bridesmaids asked to participate in dress shopping and drove all over to help me find the dress. They’ve thrown me a beautiful shower and helped me plan and orchaestrate a Jack and Jill.
In short, they are incredible! So, help me out, Bees- tell me some stories about the amazing ways your bridal team has gone above and beyond what is expected of them!
Post # 3
I don’t have bridesmaids, I’ve got 2 bridesmen and they are being super supportive which is all I really wanted from them. I highly doubt that they are going to purposely cause any drama, there might be a little bit with travel arrangements, but that’s only because one is currently living in Europe. My guys are awesome.
Post # 4
Love this post, really needed to hear some nice stuff here tonight xox
Post # 5
My bridesmaids were amazing!! My Maid/Matron of Honor did my entire song list for me (she loves music) and both girls helped me with flowers, baked goods, decorations, etc. Everything was completely drama free and perfect.
Post # 6
Mine have been awesome. Like you, minimal expectations. But they’ve done/are doing things like traveling internationally to be at the wedding, telling me they’ll wear whatever I want (I chose: whatever they want), planning bachelorette and kitchen tea (Australian/NZ thing), asking me how it’s going, altering my wedding dress, listening to me bitch, helping me pick shoes, helping me decide on a photographer, helping me with music for the reception, offering to organize food for while we’re getting ready on the day, and generally just being awesome.
Post # 7
@Eckle: Bridesmen?! Even better! A super supportive bridal team is all a gal can ask for. It sounds like you’ve got a great arrangement!
@undercoverjoan: Me too. I’m not generally an over-the-top optimist, but all this trash-talk about bridesmaids has been getting me down!
@housebee: Your team sounds like mine! I’m glad you had such supportive friends!
Post # 8
@Dancing-in-September: Something you said made me think- do you think it is because we have such minimal expectations that everything they are doing is just blowing us away?
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
my Maid/Matron of Honor is truely amazing – she came dress shopping with me as my mum lives in another country. she drove me here, there and everywhere to try a ‘maybe’ dress on, then rushed me back to try ‘the’ dress on again to make a comparison. she never once commented on the undesicive mess i can be!! we hook up at least once a week to catch up on wedding gossip and plans. she is amazing. she is also organising my hen night and a weekend away the week before the wedding. the away trip is a complete mysery to me… other than i need a passport!!
Post # 10
I love my bridesmaids because they haven’t bugged me at all! I’m the kind of person who likes to do it myself so I know it’s done right. My FSIL’s bridesmaids drove her crazy telling her what she needs to get done, what look good/bad, etc. so I am soo happy mine are just planning a shower/bachelorette party and showing up because that’s really all I want/need!
Post # 11
My bridesmaids have been amazing. I have also had minimal expectations but been blown away with the support by them (not that i didn’t expect support) and how much they have done to make me feel so special.
They drove 4 hours with me with their partners in toe and we spent the weekend dress shopping while the groomsmen did manly things, it was also my and hubby to be’s anniversary so we all went out to a fancy dinner afterwoods.
They threw me a hens weekend in the city which is 3 hours away where we went on a dinner cruise, did shopping, hit the clubs and relaxed.
Have helped with favors, invites, food tasting, shoes and much more
And just this weekend threw me a bridal party in town with a 1920’s gatsby theme for my mum and mil and everyone else who couldnt attend the hens.
I’m definately not surprised by how much they have done really, they are apart of my life for a reason.
Post # 12
@tennjm2663: my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids are the absolute best.
My Maid/Matron of Honor offered to take off work on friday before the wedding to help me with everything. I told her it wasn’t neccessary but so glad she offered to help.
Post # 13
My girls are awesome, but that’s why they’re my BFF’s, and help because that’s what friends do, not because they’re MOH’s. Which is why they’re my MOH’S. I suppose if you don’t have that type of friendship before getting engaged and planning a wedding, why would people expect that to change?
Post # 14
@tennjm2663 – I was just wondering the same thing! I think it’s that plus, I choose my friends based on similar values in common, rather than interests. So my friends are ALL generous, kind and thoughtful. That sounded a little stuck up but oh well. I AM kind, dammit!
Post # 15
My girls are awesome too. It may help that we are all in our 30’s and so past much of the drama of your early years 🙂
Post # 16
YES! My Chief (MOH) is so unbelieveably excited. She even said she’ll clean my house whilst I’m at work the day before we decorate the venue so it’s spotless! What a legend.
Another Bridesmaid or Best Man has organised my Hen Do and she’s done sooooo well! I’m so excited!!