(Closed) Anyone else have someone in their life who is just a crappy gift-giver?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My ex-bf and his mother.  Their idea of good gift giving is to give LOTS of gifts.  They didn’t have tons of money though so they went shopping at dollarstores and literally bought random stuff.  So instead of buying one really nice gift for like $25, I got 25 dollar store items that I really didn’t have much use for.  After opening them all I remember looking down and thinking: where am I going to put all this “stuff”?

Ironically I think his mother was equally dissapointed with the one gift (a large swarovski crystal snowflake ornament) that I gave her. 

Different strokes I guess.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My mom has never really been a good gift-giver, and my husband isn’t really very good, either. They will both ask for specific things I want and buy those exact things. Which is great, because I asked for them and needed them. But I love surprise gifts, ones that are thoughtful and that they came up with themselves. They surprise me once every few years, so I’ll take it.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@aliavenue:  This photo just made my day, LOL!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband isn’t the best gift giver, which sucks because thoughtful (not expensive, necessarily) gifts are totally my love language. I really love searching around to find the right, totally creative and personal gift for people. To me, it says like, “I pay attention to the things you like!”

Darling Husband gets nervous, though, that I won’t like whatever he picked out… and worst of all, he tends to not get me anything until it’s too late. For my last birthday, he swore up and down that he’d have something for me on my actual birthday – aaaand he didn’t. 

I’m getting used to it and I know that it’s not indicative of his love for me… but still a total bummer! 

Post # 21
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@PoppyH:  Oh lordy… I have several of them. 

My cousins & aunts on my dad’s side give really weird gifts. This is mostly because we’re a big family and everyone’s on a budget yet they still insist on everyone buying individual gifts for everyone else. I can’t tell you the number of cheap, fuzzy socks I’ve gotten over the years!

My mom was pretty bad. Like @Mischka‘s mention… One year when I was a young teen, my mom burned out the moter on her handmixer one Thanksgiving and that Christmas I got…. a handmixer. You better believe I took that shit with me when I moved out!

But my godfather is the BEST bad gift giver ever. It’s, like, epic. He & my godmother divorced a few years ago so now he buys me gifts on his own. Each Christmas I have an equal amount of glee and dread at the thought of opening his gift. Highlights:

  • a faux Faberge egg. It was gold, on a pedestal. It played music, spun around & opened up. Inside was a tiny frame in the shape of a wreath. The frame is so small even if the picture was just of someone’s face I’m not sure it’d be big enough to identify the person. He got it because he considers me “classy”. 
  • a fake kitten. It looked & felt like a real, sleeping kitten. There was a moter inside that made its stomach rise & fall like it was breathing. Seriously freaked me the hell out. 

But last year was the best. I unwrapped the box and it was an ‘as seen on tv’ Pet Petter. Like, a robot arm that pets your pet for you. I was flabergasted. It was the most hilarious thing I’d ever seen. I laughed until I cried. (Thankfully, he sends his gifts with my cousins, so I never open them in front of him.) I seriously almost peed my pants. But it turned out it was a prank… inside was yarn (I’m a knitter). Either he knows he’s a bad gift giver and has a great sense of humor about it or he’s REALLY not aware of it and thought this was a one-off joke. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

For my first birthday after we became a couple, Boyfriend or Best Friend sent me a gift package (since we couldn’t be together physically) that included…an XXL tshirt. For reference, I’m pretty average sized.

I laughed hysterically and asked about it later. He said that he wanted to make sure my boobs had enough room. I’m a D cup. My girls don’t even come close to needing an XXL!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

First of all, let me start of by saying, as the original poster did, if you take the time and effort to get me a gift I’m grateful, even if it isn’t a great gift, but this one takes the cake.

Last year for Christmas my future father in law asked what I would like and I told him quite honestly, “There’s nothing I need, I would really appreciate it if you spent the money on A (my fiance’s son).  The thing I love most about Christmas is seeing the faces of the kids when they open their gifts.”  This is very true, there’s something about those innocent little faces opening up their gifts that I just love.  Anyway, Christmas came and went and neither my fiance or I received anything from his dad and step-mom.  Neither of us though anything of it as we aren’t particularly close with them so if there was no gifts from them it wouldn’t really matter.  His dad asked us if we would mind bringing A by one day shortly after Christmas as he had a gift for him.  No problem, off we went.  Please keep in mind that my fiance was at his dad’s house for a few hours Christmas day and saw them all open their presents and saw his brother and step-brother get theirs… no gifts left under the tree.

Anyway, A got a fabulous train set to play with the few times a year he’s at this set of grandparents house.  My fiance got a watch (we later found out that the watch was a free gift with purchase for the watch winder his dad got and was a knock off Roots brand).  Then came my turn.  I opened a Michael Buble Christmas box of 6 crappy chocolates.  I didn’t care cause my fiance had a gift he liked (till he found out the truth) and A had a gift he loved and 2 out of 3 ain’t bad.  Then on the way home my fiance turned to me and said “Please don’t play that CD when I’m home.  I really don’t like Michael Buble.”  I was like “What CD?  It was a box of chocolates that sang Winter Wonderland when I opened it.”  My fiance’s face fell.  He was like “I wasn’t going to say anything, but I saw my step-mom open that gift on Christmas Day, except when she opened it there was a CD with it.” 

Not only did they re-gift me, they didn’t even re-gift the whole gift!  They kept half of it lol. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My mom isn’t the best. At this point I only tell her I want gift cards.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

My inlaws can be pretty hit-or-miss… they know I like paleontology, zoology, etc, and every year I get a book about dinosaurs/African mammals that appears to be written for ~5th graders… lol! They do all of their Xmas shopping at Costco in one trip, and buy a LOT of stuff, but most of it is kind of like… “why…?” Like snap-lid food containers, vacuum-sucking storage bags, weird as-seen-on-TV stuff. Hehe.

I feel bad saying it, but it’s what came to mind!

My family on the other hand isn’t creative, they are much more blunt. They send an email/text after Thanksgiving asking “what do you and [husband] want for christmas?” followed up by frequent “send me your christmas list!!” messages! Hah! But at least we get exactly what we’ve been eyeing. 🙂

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

@TKG83:  Oh my goodness! I actually snorted when I got to the end of your story. I’m sorry, I know thats terrible, but I was reading and thinking ‘where is this going’… and definitley didn’t see that coming! 

Unfortunately I am probably the worst gift giver I know… I get really set on thinking of something really sentimental and special for each person, but can’t always figure out the right thing, so end up picking out some unneeded or generic item as a last resort. My FI’s last birthday I had planned on getting him a blender (unexciting I know) because thats what he asked for, but it turns out he was only asking for it because he thought I wanted it… so I gave him a framed quarter. It was his 25th birthday, and I found a quarter for his birth year, but I can say with certainty that it was the cheapest gift I’ve ever given! 

Post # 27
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417 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Redroc_13:  Its pretty amusing.  I was trying to figure out a way to make a long story short, but in order to get the full effect you had to get the whole story.  I still laugh about it.  Some people just kill me lol.

Post # 28
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Honey bee

My Darling Husband is an amazing gift giver. As in a kindle, kitchen aid stand mixer, nice jewelry, Jeff Dunham tickets, etc. I used to be the crappy gift giver…as in toasters, milk shake makers, haribo gummy bears (it’s a long story for that one). I have gotten much better in the past few years though 🙂

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@PoppyH:  My dad always gets H baseball caps as a trip souvenir even though he doesn’t wear them lol.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@PoppyH:  My parents are terrible gift givers. They usually just buy one another things they need,  like new shirts, socks, underwear, vacuums, tools, etc.

 

When I was living at home, my dad always went out and bought random “filler” gifts, which always made me feel like shit for not really liking them. They would be completely age-inappropriate, such as a “rock polishing jewelry kit”  for young kids when I was in high school. He would then get visibly upset if he realized you didn’t actually like it, so I became good at feigning enthusiasm.

 

My mom would often buy me clothes that she liked, typically sweaters with sparkly yarn that were definitely not my style. I try to tell her every year that I don’t need more clothes.

 

If they don’t resort to these gifts, they flat out ask what I want, which is always awkward.

 

DH’s brother is not a good gift giver, either. He usually just pitches in money for group gifts to his parents, and gives everyone else a gift card.

 

I like to think I am a good gift giver, because I try to personalize gifts, I rarely give a gift card unless it’s something like a movie pass for 2, a starbucks card to someone who I know will really appreciate being told to spend money on frivolous coffee, or a gift card to someone’s favorite store if I really cant’ figure out what to get them. I am quite crafty and have artistic talents, so I have often made and gifted ceramic mugs, vases, or cookie jars, knitted hats/scarves, drawings/paintings, and delicious baked goods.

Post # 31
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Helper bee

I have an aunt who has always given me crappy gifts.  The worst was this hideous hot water bottle with a lamb cover that she gave me when I was in college.  I guess her intentions were good because she thought that I could use it if I got cold, but that thing was ugly!

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