Post # 32
I had previously told SO explicitly what I wanted for Christmas/birthdays/V-Day/etc and gave an array of options. The one time I decided to let him do it on his own?
Bottle of booze, handed to me in the liquor store brown paper bag. No card, not even a nice bag. Oh, honey.
Post # 33
Gift giving is probably one of my favorite things. I plan pretty much year round for what I’m going to give to people for Christmas. I’m not going to say I’ve never given a bad gift myself, but I at least try to put some kind of thought into what the person I’m giving a gift to needs and wants.
My older sister is kind of a crappy gift giver. One year for my birthday we were at the mall. She hadn’t bought anything for me yet, so she just randomly picked out this hat for me while I was standing right there and gave it to me. I’ve never in my life worn a hat, especially not like this, so it was kind of odd to me LOL.
She also suggested that for Christmas this year we both exchange giftcards worth the same amount of money. I don’t really like doing giftcards unless it’s a small amount that comes attached to the gift. It doesn’t make sense to me. “Here’s $50, thanks for the $50!” I should just keep my money, and she can keep hers. Then we can both spend our money on ourselves LOL.
Post # 34
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
My Mother-In-Law buys something just for the sake of getting it, especially if it’s a “good deal.” For our anniversary (which neither of us were expecting gifts) she gave us a bowling ball bag with the Raiders logo on it. My husband is a huge Raiders fan, but neither of us bowl & she told us that doing a couples activity will bring us closer together since we both work so much. I was like woooow, thank you for thinking of us & offering relationship advice since you’re a pro, having been married & divorced 3 times! We have a fantastic marriage thankyouverymuch ;]. She has no filter, but means well, I think haha.
ETA: She non-chalantly told us she got it at an estate sale & that bowling balls were supposed come with it, but she didn’t want to pay extra for that!
Post # 35
I’m so glad I read this, I was having a horrible day but reading your story made me chuckle. I’m sorry about that, uh let see . . . i don’t have many people in my life that give me gifts well besides my fi and his mother. For example for x-mas fml tends to give me jars of jelly i don’t even like jelly, olive oils, paprika, sea salts, note pads, oh and one x-mas she gave me this very cheapy little ceramic fish, and said i know how much you like fish so i got you this. Okay . . . Yea i like live fish. What the heck, Future Mother-In-Law say that I’m hard to shop for, but I’m honeslty the easiest. I’m a girly girl at heart, clothes, jewlery, makeup, nail polish, anything. I really don’t get her gifts. But hey at least I have my honey who is an awesome gift giver, well with a little help that is he he 😀
Post # 36
My grandmother is the WORST gift giver. I always get the weirdest things from her. My mother is not much better.
Post # 37
My Mother-In-Law. The year she actually decided to participate in gift-giving she gave us a set of christmas plates that looked like they had been dusty on a dollar store shelf for a long time. Then, on the way to our little christmas gathering, she called and asked my husband if I liked pickles. He told her yes, and so I got one of those GIANT jars of gerkins. WTH? I believe she gave my husband a basket of Ramen and some weird japanese jelly candies.
In the meantime, we got her a custom “mothers ring” with my husband and his sisters birthstone.
That was the last year we gave her a gift.
Also, my sister in law….she MAKES her gifts because my brother is too cheap to give her any spending money to buy gifts (thier relationship is so psychologically F’d…but I digress).
Last year, she made everyone a wooden plaque, hand painted with different “likes”. My mom got a purple one that said “Ravens.” My dad got one that said “Pops Garage”. The thing is, it looked like a pre-schoolers craft project. It was just painfully embarassing. I would have been much happier with a card and a candy cane. The crafts were so terrible, not even the “thought” counted.
Post # 38
My dh’s aunt is a terrible gift giver. At least with me, not sure how she is with her kids or il’s.
Post # 38
I have a storage closet, in my laundry room, with a charity box. It’s a cardboard box that I fill and give to our local charity thrift shop, a couple of times a year. Throughout our 36 year marriage we’ve put many gifts in that box. We’d rather get nothing, then some of the doozies we’ve received. I’m not going to name names, but some people we know think their opinions are better than ours, and would never, ever ask what we would like or need.
Post # 39
I love him more than anything but Fi is a terrible gift giver lol 😉
Our birthdays are very close together and are just after Christmas so for the last few years we just combined everything and had some great winter vacations as our ‘gifts’ to each other!
Post # 40
I know this is an old thread but I thought it was fun to read!
My sister is a terrible gift giver and what’s worse is she gets super excited about it. Like every Christmas “Open mine first I know you’ll love it! I saw it and thought of you!” . Every single year I get some bath set. You know the heavily purfumed ones with lotion and shower gel in them? Well, I hate those things. I’m crazy allergic to the heavy purfume and the smell always gives me a headache. I can’t touch them without begin itchy. The amount of snowpea-peach-plum-passion bath crap I’ve secretly thrown away is impressive. Oh well it’s the thought that counts.
But, my sweet mother-in-law takes the cake. I mentioned once in some passing conversation that I like giraffes and now I am the proud owner of a set of ceramic giraffe print dessert plates, a giraffe toaster, a framed giraffe poster, giraffe ears (just incase I feel like dressing up like one), and a book about giraffes.
I can fake enthusiasm like a pro now.
Post # 41
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
PoppyH: Awww I think your husband sounds so cute. He obviously thought that you did such a great job with the first wine that he wanted to show it off by giving it away and wanted you to keep going. My Darling Husband is bit clueless when it comes to gifts. He just wouldn’t know where to start with stuff women like. When it’s Xmas and birthday time I just give him a list and he picks stuff off it. He usually throws in some whacky suprises too, which are always fun.
It sounds like your ILs have no idea what you like, are not getting any help from your Darling Husband and just taking a random stab at something. I’d have your Darling Husband hint that a gift card might be less of a waste of money for you. Or earn tons of DIL brownie points and go Xmas shopping with Mother-In-Law and then admire something you would like pretty obviously. Hint hint.
Post # 42
PoppyH: the first christmas i was with my Darling Husband his Future Sister-In-Law gave him a gift card, candy canes and christmas pencils. This came from a 26 year old. My husband doesnt eat candy and wtf PENCILS? She hasn’t improved much since then. She’s a little self absorbed so to go out of her way for a gift is unnatural.
Post # 43
OMG and i forgot about my Darling Husband. I love him. He is a shitty gift giver. I broke the microwave a few years ago so my christmas present was a new one. What. The. Eff.
Post # 44
AnotherMrsBrown: OMG…I am literally CRYING laughing at the giraffes!!!
Post # 45
LOL- thanks for the laugh.
My Fiance is a terrible gift giver. The last gift he gave me was a stuffed owl that played peek-a-boo with you and said ‘i love you’ in a squeaky childs voice when you pressed the button on its wing… uhhh… yes. Why did he get me a childs toy? I have NO IDEA. lol.
He really is trying though, and last x-mas he got me an engagement ring, which was pretty great!