Anyone else have this experience when ring shopping?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
  • poll: Is this experience typical?
    Yes : (6 votes)
    18 %
    No : (28 votes)
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  • Post # 16
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I went in to but a xmas present years ago, the guy tried to get me to buy my own engagement ring wtf

    Post # 17
    Member
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    No they should respect your budget look else where if they give you a bad vibe trust your gut feeling. 

    Post # 19
    Member
    768 posts
    Busy bee

    He sounds like a douche. Not normal at all.

    i would’ve just left to be honest. 

    Probably would’ve punched him at the upgrade comment if I’d hung around that long.

    Post # 20
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    224 posts
    Helper bee

    Yeah this is pretty much the experience I had in every jewelry store. Shopping when you’re still deciding what you want is miserable because they all try to make you feel like you’re being cheap if you don’t want the biggest and most expensive thing. That’s the sales tactic and it works, you felt uncomfortable. They’re hoping your discomfort will make you agree to spend above your budget. And it obviously works on enough people because they’re still doing it.

    For me it accomplished the opposite of their goal, completely turned me off B&M stores so I ended up buying everything online and just having it set by a local jeweler. (I would have bought the completed ring online but just happened to end up buying the diamond and setting separately). I saved a ton of money and the pushy B&M stores got none of it. Oh well, their loss my gain.

    Post # 21
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    363 posts
    Helper bee

    daisymaewaiting :  I didnt have this problem with pushy sales people. Most professional shops wont be that way, shops doing well dont want salesman to act tacky. 

    Post # 22
    Member
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I did, but I walked out and ended up getting my ring from Brilliant Earth instead. No pushy salesmen, no annoying sales pitches, and total budget respect. James Allen was the same way when I talked to them but I liked the settings from BE better. 

    Post # 23
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    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018 - Mount Princeton hot springs

    The first place I went to (Chicago diamond district) was exactly this experience. I like simple solitaires as well and they were showing me the most elaborate stuff! At first I thought they didn’t understand so I kept trying to explain what I wanted. THEN they tried to convince me that a diamond MUST be in the DEF range and vvs1 and showing me all these diamonds with lots of inclusions and terrible cuts! It was a laughable experience. I’m not sure what city you’re in but brilliant earth has a couple of locations and we met with them in Chicago and DC and out of all the places we tried those appointments were the most helpful! 

    Post # 24
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    1142 posts
    Bumble bee

    I understand that the guy wants to get a sale, but I would be doing three things:  Informing him that he’s being very unhelpful, speaking with/working with the manager directly, and moving on to a different shop if there is no remediation. 

    Post # 25
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    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We went to a small but reputable jewelery store in Boston for our wedding bands and the owner told me that what I was looking for was “boring” and that “100% of women” end up getting wedding bands with diamonds. I got the plain, milligrain gold band I wanted elsewhere but I bet she’s still there telling everyone “100% of women… 100%!!!”

    Post # 26
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    2081 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’m sorry you had that experience. It sounds infuriating. We went to a brialliant earth showroom in DC and had a great experience. They could care less if you buy a super expensive or more modest ring. My Fiance originally designed a custom setting with a local jewlrer but they tried to pass off poor quality diamonds as “ideal cut” when it came time to choose the stone. He had done his research and although he was willing to pay a premium for a custom designed setting, he was not willing to be taken for a ride and lied to when it came to the center stone. Brilliant Earth fit our needs much better.

    Post # 27
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    65 posts
    Worker bee

    I visited one store to get my finger sized, I also had an unruly 4 year old with me. The sales person asked me what type of ring I wanted, and started showing me ones to try one (I said I wanted a YG soliatire, and he had my trying on WG with lots of pave). When I said I dont want WG, he said getting anything else is a waste because itll make a white diamond look anything but (insert eyeroll). I told him our budget is $1k, he was showing me $3k rings paired with $3k wedding bands. Then, even though he was wearing an ear piece like all the other sales associates which Im sure they communicate on, he started whispering that if I brought my fiance in with me later that day he could get me a really great deal on the WG ring I tried on, and that he couldnt “write down” the great deal I could get, but he did write down the actual selling price which included a $500 resizing fee (insert an eyeroll so hard I can see my own ass). It was a terrible experience, and get this…I AM a car sales lady with ten years in the biz LOL! He thought he “saw me coming” but I am a sales woman and I dont fall for stupid tactics. 

    Post # 28
    Member
    65 posts
    Worker bee

    Teekay6718 :  My bad experience was at my local Diamond District store too! It was AWFUL! 

    Post # 29
    Member
    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I bought my rings at a mall… I am a difficult customer I would say.  When the sales person would show me something I would say I dont like that style, or I think that looks boring, or that looks tacky… lol they soon realized I was annoying lol but in the end they catered to my needs and did nooootttt ever show me anything beyond my wants or needs because they knew I would shoot it down… I also was very explicit with our budget so everytime they went above it I refused to try on the ring they would show me. I said nothing above xyz… In the end I can say i truly was a nightmare lol I bought something and two months later exchanged it for something else… and in between those two months i went back a few times to stare at other rings to make sure I actually wanted to keep or exchange my set. My son’s crying, screaming at one point, me breastfeeding the other baby lol etc. And i STILL think that your experiemce is Not ok and nothing I have ever experienced. 

    Post # 30
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    4910 posts
    Honey bee

    Local guy told me he didn’t know what the alloy was in the white gold (I’m allergic to nickel) and when I asked about tge Kimberley process he looked at me like I was stupid. Then he said 50%off on any setting. So weird and I was a referral. He wanted to know if we would buy within the first 15 minutes. No, I’m not. 

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