Post # 1
So Im going to try my best not to rant, because I feel like thats all that ever happens in the bridesmaid section anymore (although I am not judging.. Ive done it before and sometimes it just feels good to get it off your chest)
Has anyone else lost friendships during the wedding planning process or the wedding itself?
Long story short I had some bridesmaid issues/ unnecessary drama. So I very kindly told them that if they did not want to be a part of the wedding (they wouldn’t even attempt to go dress shopping or try one on) that they were still invited as guests but I preffered if they did not stand up with me ( In kinder words I promise!)
So my one bridesmaid sends me this text. Shes been my best friend since freshman year of HS. “I dont know what you want me to do about this wedding. Its going to be a sh*t show and were all already taking bets on when the marriage will end. Im sorry I cant f*cking come dress shopping on your and everyone elses time. I don’t know if you want me to f*cking breast feed you or what, but stop making this all about you. Dont count me as coming to the wedding at all. Enjoy your failed marriage”
(sorry I ranted a little, Im just pissed)
I feel like crap because Ive lost her and two other really good friends that were supposed to be Bridesmaid or Best Man. weddings bring out the best and worst in people and im hoping maybe this is normal and she’ll cool down after the wedding? I hate losing these people out of my life, but Ive asked my other Bridesmaid or Best Man and family and everyone has agreed that I am in NO way being a bridezilla or demaning at all. Has anyone else experienced this? Any similar stories or advice would be appreciate bees!
Post # 3
I think this is an unusual situation. Unless you chose people who are not really friends of yours then something must be going on. A falling out and then loss of 3 friends is very significant. Maybe you need to evaluate who you consider a friend.
Post # 4
That text is ridiculous. Even if she’s upset about the bm thing it seems really mean and vindictive. I’m sorry but good riddance if that is how she really feels about your marriage, she shouldn’t be standing with you anyway.
Post # 5
0.o what happened to get it to this point? No, I didn’t lose any friends or bms, although there was some drama with the shower.
Post # 6
@navywifenmoore: while she was out of line for that text, have you considered you might be the problem? I mean losing one friend, ok, but 3? Perhaps the stress is getting to you and you havent noticed.
Maybe take some time to reassess things. If you were friends with these girls try to remember why, and then get back to that place (assuming it was healthy)
Post # 7
Two sides to every story. How did this relationship explode like this? You haven’t just lost one but you’ve lost three. Soo more info I reckon. You don’t get to this with best friends over dress shopping. Or they just weren’t friends in the first place.
Post # 8
This doesn’t seem right. There is no reason for someone to send a text that mean. However, losing 3 friends usually says there’s something wrong with you, not them.
Post # 9
She is jealous. Flat out. I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man react like that, drunk texting me and she flat out admitted later she feels like getting left behind, that’s why she said it.
Post # 10
Yep need more info. Spill it, bride!!
Eta, that text is still uncalled for either way. I’m ashamed FOR her.
Post # 11
@navywifenmoore: oooh that girl hates you. I don’t know what went down, but there is definitely more to this story for her to go off on you like that. Damn. Either way, it was pretty mean of her to send you that text but makes me wonder how good that friendship was to begin with
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Cannot judge without more information… what prompted this? 3 friends lost is suspicious.
Post # 13
I can’t imagine that she would just send you that text without anything else. One of my BMs was feeling left out of the process (she also lives on the other side of the country), and texted me, asking if I really wanted her in the wedding. We had a calm heart to heart and everything was okay.
Post # 14
Yeah, someone who would talk to you like that? You don’t need people like that in your life.
Post # 15
Some people think the world revolves around them, and that life should have no consequences.
My ex-BFF since ’96 only had bad things to say about my (now) Darling Husband for years, especially after we separated back in ’10. She put down our relationship constantly, and wasn’t supportive in the slightest when we got back together. There were times when she’d say that we were destined to break up again, and that he’d only ever break my heart… yet, when we got re-engaged, she expected to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because of a silly, little ‘pact’ we made back in high school.
Needless to say, she wasn’t chosen as Maid/Matron of Honor or even a bridesmaid, but she was given a STD and an invite. She, however, never RSVPed, and now 4 months after the wedding, STILL hasn’t said, “Congratulations!” Not one word.
She expects me to oooh and ahhh at every little thing her sons does, though… and, if I don’t, she puts up a passive-aggressive status on Facebook about ‘supposed’ friends, and how “it’s good to know who your true friends are!” SMDH.
Post # 16
i am going to have to agree with the bees here. that text was completely out of line. however, there must have been more to this whole story. you didn’t just lose 1 bm, you’ve lost 3.
what’s the common denominator here? you.
they all must have taken your comment harshly and triggered their actions.