Post # 1
i have been having problems with one woman who was a co Maid/Matron of Honor, however lastnight was the final straw. after a long IM conversation where i ended up quite upset i decided she needed to go. she has been trouble since the begining. i wont go into detail about that cuz i its in aother one of my posts. the majority of the convo lastnight had to do with money issues. so i decided to tell her she doesnt have to worry about the financhel burden of being a Maid/Matron of Honor anymore.
i get an email from her this morning telling me i take my relationship for granted and that i dont know how good i have it. um i know that is why i am marrying him, although the reasons she thinks are not the reasons i decieded to marry him. then she goes on to tell me that she was going to throw me a kick butt bacholerette party and stuff but its my choice.
i know this is something i needed to do to keep my sanity, i have the support of the rest of my bridal party and my future hubby, but i still feel crappy, that someone who should have been there for me could say such hurtful things.
Post # 3
Clearly she has some internal stuff going on and you REALLY don’t need that kind of negative energy when you are trying to plan a happy day.
I had a sort of similar situation, where my lifelong best friend seemed to have negative feelings about my wedding planning (not to mention her own)… We had a few prickly conversations but thankfully for me she backed out before I had to offer the idea for her. It wasn’t that I didn’t want her in my bridal party (I still would love it if she would change her mind), but I felt like it would ruin our friendship if she felt like she “had” to be in it. I am the type of person who LOVES things like weddings and party planning, and she is… well… not. So I understand when she backed out, but it is a bummer that the one person I comfortably call my “best friend” will not be in my wedding.
So anyhow, your wedding is about you and your Fiance having a great day and starting a wonderful life. It is NOT about other peoples’ opinion of your relationship. And if this ruins your friendship, I guess “so be it” because she doesn’t seem to value it anyway.
I’m sorry you have to deal with it and I hope it turns out for the best 🙁
Post # 4
Oh, awkward! I wonder why she thought that was a good idea to say? If you feel like she needs to be removed, definitely do it soon before she starts planning things. Good luck and I’m sorry you have to deal with all this drama :(.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2011 - Blossom Heath
I understand your frustration because unfortunately I had to do this with my oldest sister. It sucks because when you choose your bridal party you think you have chosen the women that are usually there for you when you really need them but it’s like they say weddings and funerals bring out the very worst in people.
I say do what you have to do to keep your sanity the last thing you need is extra stress leading up to your wedding.