(Closed) Anyone else have tons of people who didn’t RSVP?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes! So annoying! We also had self-addressed, stamped RSVP cards and an online place. The day after RSVP’s were due, I had my fiance call everyone and ask them if they were coming (they were all people from his side). I would start calling people if I were you.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

my rsvp date was last friday and out of the 89 invites we sent out, we still needed 26! i was so frustrated, seriously how hard is it to write your name, check off your entree and throw it in the mailbox (mine were also addressed and stamped already).  We called anyone that didn’t rsvp by tuesday.  I have to give a final head count by this friday so we had no choice, i’d rather call and seem slightly annoying than waste hundreds of dollars or not have enough dinners. ugh people!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am feeling your pain, and haven’t even sent out invites. Future Mother-In-Law told me it’s rude to ask people to RSVP. I’m having a plated meal. How am I supposed to know what to order? Some people are so out of touch!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My sister had TONS of people that didn’t RSVP that showed up and the venue was SO packed. They even brought people who weren’t invited. It was almost too full. Luckily we don’t have sit down dinners down here too often (hardly ever and we didn’t), the venue didn’t charge us and there was a nice outdoor area for people to go.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

it happened with a ton of people for me,. i just sent them follow up emails.  but i was not worried about someone showing up with no RSVP – i kinda figured if they booked a plane ticket and hotel to Jamaica – they would let me know!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had 50% of our guests not RSVP. I was kind of upset by it because I put stamps on all of the ones that were in the US. I think putting stamps on RSVPs is a waste of money. The ones that we thought might come, we called to confirm. If they didn’t return our call, then we just marked them as not coming, and they didn’t. We didn’t have anyone show up that we didn’t get some type of confirmation from.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

My deadline was today (well 30 min ago).  I’m still waiting on 83 people.  I’m hoping that number gets reduced dramatically before the weekend.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We had a bunch of people that didn’t RSVP, and we had to call them.  For me, the annoying thing was calling close family and members of our bridal party.  We knew they were coming (obviously), but the RSVP included a dinner selection, so we still had to call everyone to find out what they wanted to eat.  And you’d think of all people, our family and bridal party would be on top of that.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am having the same problem!, I have been calling and emailing, making excuses like block room issues or rehearsal dinner seating. But the thing that really really really gets me is that most of the non rsvpers are couples who got married in the past year or two. I keep thinking ..these people just went through this. Why do this to me?!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am having the same problem!, I have been calling and emailing, making excuses like block room issues or rehearsal dinner seating. But the thing that really really really gets me is that most of the non rsvpers are couples who got married in the past year or two. I keep thinking ..these people just went through this. Why do this to me?!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

My invitations have not gone out yet.. but I’m dreading this as well. If people don’t RSVP, I am going to have my mom and BMs call everyone (or e-mail whatever) to see what their decision is. I don’t want any surprises. It’s a lot of work, but beter IMO because you will know either way if they’re coming.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We only had about 30% of our guests actually mail back the RSVP or respond at all to the invite. The remaining 70% we had to call, email, text, facespace, etc. And out of those people we had to shake down, probably half never responded. I have no idea why people are so bad with wedding invites, but at least this was the absolute worst part of wedding planning.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why do people leave it to the last minute or not bother to respond at all, I’m finding it really hard to understand. I had a few late RSVPs and one couple haven’t RSVPd at all and I’ve even called her and left a message and sent two text messages.

@moderndaisy: I agree it is the worst part.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m in the same boat.  I provided self addressed stamped RSVPs and also had an online option.  The RSVPs are due this weekend and we still have about 50 people who have yet to contact us.  The sad part is, it’s mostly people from my side of the family!  It’s not only annoying but also really embarrassing since my fiance knows that the majority of the rude and inconsiderate guests are coming from my side of the family.

I’ll wait until the weekend is over and then I’ll have to go and hunt them down.  Like I don’t have anything else better to do with my time.  In the words of Stephanie Tanner, “How rude!”

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