(Closed) Anyone else have trouble with the word "fiance"?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8998 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

“My Fiance! My Fiance! I’ve lost my Fiance, the poor baby!” and Elaine says “Maybe the dingo ate your baby”. 

That always went through our head, too. We took to calling ourselves “Not boyfriend/girlfriend.” I hate the word Fiance. It’s so pretentious and snotty.

Post # 4
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

No. It’s just another language, which is not “weird” to me.

Post # 5
7200 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Love that Seinfeld episode.  DH and I are always saying “the Dingo ate your baby”.

Post # 6
6361 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes. I donlt know why, but it sounds pretentious when it comes out of my mouth (maybe the frenchness of the word?). I don’t think I will have the same problem with “husband.” I’ve reverted back to calling him my “boyfriend” in the meanwhile.

Even on the bee, although I call him my FI here, I’m literally hearing in my head, “Eff Eye.” lol! I have written “fiance” here sometimes though. It doesn’t seem so pretentious on the bee. Maybe because I assume pretty much everyone here is in the same boat.

Post # 7
10509 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Not to me, but there have been other threads about this, so you’re not alone!

Post # 8
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The funniest Seinfeld episode, and I think of it every time I hear the word Fiancé. I personally don’t use it, I can’t wait to start calling him husband. When I’m speaking about him to people who don’t know him if I refer to his name they won’t know who I’m talking about, so I just call him boyfriend for the time being. 

Post # 9
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@funkybutton:  I feel the same way! I feel weird when I say, “My fiancé…” Sometimes with people I have just met I just want to say, “My boyfriend…” but I feel weird with that too since I do have a ring on my finger. 

Post # 10
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@funkybutton:  nope not me but I never watched seinfield either. I was say I only got to call my DH Fiance for 3 weeks, but I like hubby better so its ok

Post # 11
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yup. Totally weird. But it’s also always been weird for me to say ‘boyfriend’, and I can’t even imagine saying ‘husband’…YIKES!

Post # 12
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i havent seen the episode but i always hated seinfield.

i dont understand it being seeing as pretentious/snotty…to be it was the word to use after engagement. full stop.

its totally weird to call each other husband/wife if you arent married in my opinion. and bf/gf is just a bit high school-y and not reflecting the new commitment

Post # 13
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999
Post # 14
8489 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I literally have to force myself to say it. It just doesnt come naturally to me.

Post # 15
2273 posts
Buzzing bee

@joya_aspera:  THIS

Now in my head I think eff eye since joining this board.


FI and I call each other our “finance” as a joke, since the word looks similar and our phones usually autocorrect it to that. 

Post # 16
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I dont like it much either. Sometimes I joke around and call him my “husband-elect” or just “my guy”


some people also use “partner”

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