Post # 1
So I’ve been a maid of honor twice…. once to my only sister, and once to my best friend of nearly 10 years.
When I got engaged, I was like, “Well, shit.”
In the end, I couldn’t bring myself to pick, and instead opted for two MOHs and zero bridesmaids. I made them little proposal boxes, and it worked out great. I told my sister (the tame one) that she could organize a shower, and my friend (the wild one) that she could do the bachelorette party. Both seem very pleased with their assignments!
I never wanted a huge bridal party anyway, and with my other very close friend being in the military (she will be on an assignment in Korea at that time), I thought this was the best way to go.
I was just curious if anyone else here has been in this situation, or maybe a similar predicament? Share your stories!! 😊
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2020 - Anchor Village
leesahmarie : I have two older sisters who are my very best friends and I could never choose one over the other so they are both my Matrons of Honor! I am however having bridesmaids as well! No family drama… we all get along really well so I am excited for them to stand beside me😊 Glad things are working out for you!
Post # 3
My Fiance is having two best men! He has two brothers, and didn’t want to choose so picked them both as his Best Man. Similar to you, one is more wild and one is more “safe”, so the oldest is planning the bachelor party, and the younger is in charge of the speech at the wedding. Worked out well for all parties!
Post # 4
Not exactly what you are asking, but I was a co-MOH in my BFFs wedding and it was great. We shared a lot of the responsibilities and had fun with it. The 3 of us have been friends for almost 30 years, so it was an easy decision for the bride.
Post # 5
I will have two! The three of us are close and I’m sure will work well together if they want to plan anything. I think having 2 takes the pressure of sometimes.
Post # 6
But also, I have been an Maid/Matron of Honor 4 times and I didn’t feel obligated to have them all be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I have a sister and my (now ex) h had a brother, so we kept it small with just the two of them.
Post # 7
I’m one of four bridesmaids (for an upcoming wedding) with no MOH; the groom has three groomsmen and one best man. It all feels natural and perfect for the couple!
Post # 8
I’m having 2! One is local in town and the other is out of state so it has worked out well!
Post # 9
When my sister got married, she had me and my other sister be the co-MOH’s, and she didn’t have any bridesmaids besides us. It worked out well. The three of us get along very well so there was no drama or anything. My sister and I organized the bachelorette for her together (she didn’t want a shower). At the rehearsal we just kind of naturally agreed to the order we’d walk in, no issues there. It was a lovely experience.
Post # 10
leesahmarie : my two best friends were my co-MOHs. They actually wanted to do it together! Which made it easier on me that I didn’t have to pick haha. Since they are also best friends they just collaborated on everything together and did a really sweet and funny joint speech. It worked out well too since I had one extra girl on my side so the best man escorted them both and then everyone else paired off.
Post # 11
I did! I wanted my best friend and sister to both me MOHs. Luckily, my friend was married and my sister wasn’t, so I designated my friend “matron of honor” and my sister “maid of honor.” This also helped dictate who stood next to me, held the bouquet, etc. to avoid hurt feelings.
Post # 12
leesahmarie : Haven’t has my wedding yet but I was a maid of honor to one of my close friend’s wedding and her cousin was a matron of honor (married with a kid). I was more involved with her wedding planning because the matron of honor lived out of state. I went with the bride to try on and buy her dress, appointments with photographer and videographer and cake tasting. She also let me pick the bridal party dresses and luckily, it was a safe cut that everyone was happy with. Both of us gave speeches/toasts during the reception. It worked out fine.
Post # 13
Both times I have been Maid/Matron of Honor, I have shared the title with someone else. It has never bothered me and I loved sharing duties 🙂
Post # 14
My friend is having two Maid/Matron of Honor, I am one of them. I am planning the shower and the other is planning the bachelorette party, which is fine because I never really wanted to plan a bachelorette party! It’s nice to be able to split it up. I have never met the other Maid/Matron of Honor. The wedding is in October, so I don’t know who will hold the bouquet and all that, I’m assuming we will both give speeches (which I would gladly give up to her as well haha)
Post # 15
This is a bit different, but I just didn’t have one at all. I have three sisters, so I couldn’t pick between them. The three of them planned my (co-ed) bachelorette and book shower together, though my oldest sister did the most because she’s a Stay-At-Home Mom with lots of event planning experience. We didn’t have any issues at all!