Post # 1
Then this is the place for you…
It’s been a while since I’ve last posted, the beginning of the year brought a lot of chaos with work and life in general… You know how it goes…
As of my last update, SO and I were talking about getting my ring but he ended up deciding that he wanted to do it on his own time, not mine. Basically, he said I was taking all the surprise out of it and that he had a specific proposal idea he wanted to see through. Shortly thereafter, he brought up the subject again, and I had made it kind of clear that I had given up hoping that a proposal was coming soon. I guess this was a little kick in the butt because he then expressed that it was a priority for him, and made a comment in front of all his friends that 2012 would be the year we’d get engaged…
Well, here we are, and it’s March already. Crazy how fast time flies! He got a promotion at work, and I’ve been doing exceptionally well at my job, so we’ve had quite a bit more income than usual as of late. Last weekend he told me that he was going to buy my ring, but we’ve been needing a new mattress for the last 2 years or so, and we decided that was definitely something we wanted to get while we could. After another week, we again have found ourselves stockpiling money, so I’m hoping a ring is in the near future.
We HAVE, however, discussed and agreed that when we visit our families in April (we live in Texas but our families are both from New Jersey) I’m going to go dress shopping with my cousins and best friend and probably check out a few wedding venues since we know we want to marry at home but don’t get to make it home very often. It’s funny, it seems like we do things completely ass backwards… haha 😉
So yeah, we’ve definitely had progress, but when it boils down to it I’m still technically waiting.
Anyone else have any updates? Need a place to vent? I know I can’t be the only one going crazy on the inside! 🙂
Post # 3
Holy crap, I’m surprised no one else has written. The waiting boards are usually full.
As for me… eh. The manfriend and I have been saving for a home since November but had to use up the majority to pay off some of his old debts to raise his credit score. He now has it in his mind that instead of a year from now, we won’t be able to afford a house for another two years? (Mostly due to the credit score situation.) I think he has been super stressed about my future full time job prospects as well. I work part time for the government now while I finish up school but they are getting rid of my position soon (probably not the best idea for them, but their choice.) Basically, the next year appears like it will be kind of hard financially.
So, the order that we had planned for the next purchases are: ring, house, wedding, boat (his, of course). With the extension of yet another year, I’m worried that everything else will take just as long. He is super sweet and is saying that if we wait the extra year, we will be able to save up more for the wedding as well. It’s wonderful that he even said that, but I’m unsure as to how sure he is of the whole matter. I really want to be married to him, and have both the emotional and government commitment. I’m finding it hard to understand (emotionally) why we would have to wait 2+ years.
Post # 4
I think this is a good sign:
he then expressed that it was a priority for him, and made a comment in front of all his friends that 2012 would be the year we’d get engaged…
Have you ever heard of the book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” by Steve Harvey? I think that is the correct title. He wrote about the three”P’s.” He said you can tell if a man is really serious by looking at the three “P’s.” One of them was that he wants to “provide” for you, one was that he wants to “protect” you. One of them is that he “professes” his love for you in front of his family and friends. If your B/F made a statement like that in front of his guy friends, I would say your engagement is a done deal.
I know it is tough to keep waiting. Chin up, you’re almost there!
Post # 5
It sounds good to me 🙂 For me, the ring is still in the cupboard, twinkling at me. I *think/hope/pray* he is waiting for our 4 year anniversary in May when we are going to York. I had a meltdown Wed/Thu this week getting stressed about uni etc. I’ve caught up on work, so feel better. Currently we are getting the bathroom done, and I’m making Bakewell tarts 🙂
Post # 6
@Saria213: It sounds like things are going well for you two! I’m sure you won’t be waiting too much longer, especially if you have found that you have extra money around. I wish I had that same problem!
I have nothing to vent about here — I think my wait is almost over! We are leaving for Paris in one week and I think my boyfriend plans to propose there. It’s weird to think that this might be my last week as an officially “single” woman!
Post # 7
@shirasagi: I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!! I will be waiting anxiously for a post-paris update!!
Post # 8
That’s exciting! Excellent signs!
He has indicted that he will propose this year. We have some house renos which will cost a bit so he is still saving. I think maybe in the summer he will do it. He knows I struggle with the waiting. I feel like a kid in gym class sometimes screaming “Pick me! Pick me!”. But he has told me its first on the list so I have put Mr. Bees Plan in line while I wait. I don’t see any signs that he has made a move toward purchasing anything so I anticipate waiting awhile right now. Sigh ha.
Post # 9
I have a timeline ish…. My student loans need to be down 15k before we get engaged. While it sounds like an ouch, its kinda fun. I can really see where and how I spend my money and know where I want it to go instead of buying new shoes… I’m really happy people are getting things together, I really get crazy sometimes and I feel bad for my SO.
Post # 10
I could use a vent!
Last week I mentioned (through letter… I know most don’t think it was a good idea but it seems to have gotten through to him and helped further the waiting process) that I do want to marry him and gave him ideas of rings for me and told him I was already making small plans for a wedding at least a year and a half from now. He was ok with it, happy about it and said the proposal was coming sooner than I thought! YAY! After the talk I noticed a large chunk of his paycheck missing and stumbled across it when cleaning the house. He put the money with the letter (including the details of the ring I want) and hid it… Made me even more excited. Well… Sneaky me… Should not have done it but… We hit a small rough patch and he had the money to take care of it. Good right? Well I got a little suspicious and went back to his hiding spot… The letter is there but the money is gone… I know he couldn’t have bought a ring so grr….
I guess it means it’s just a few extra weeks of waiting but I’m tired of waiting. We did need the money more than the ring but come on now! We’ve got other assets and other ways of getting the money we needed, not from my ring fund 🙁
I guess as long as he’s not calling it off mentally I can wait another few weeks. What a few weeks when we’ve been together 2.5 years? But grr… I was really excited to see he had almost enough for the ring and was hoping he was going to get it next week when he got paid again and would have the full ammount… Now I have to wait at least another month probably…
Waiting isn’t so bad… But it’s not the greatest at times either… Err
Post # 11
SO and I have the ring in our apartment…we’re just finalizing a center stone. He is moving across the country this week for a new job. We have movers coming this week, and they gave us a timeline of sometime between Tuesday and Friday. When they come, my other half leaves. I was hoping a proposal would happen before he left, but a snag with the center stone will move it back to some other time…and it might be months before I see him again! 🙁 I broke down yesterday and admitted to him I was optimistic he’d propose before he left and I was having a hard time dealing with the reality of no proposal and the love of my life is moving so far away!! I’m lucky he’s so receptive and understanding…but that is going to make me miss him even more 🙁