Post # 1
FH and I are not ones to like standing up in front of a crowd with all eyes on us.
That being said, the more i think about it, the more nervous I’m getting…and the wedding is still 8 months away!!
And I love watching wedding videos but at the same time its making me soo nervous!
(im hoping that once the big day comes and i walk down that aisle, all i will see is him and all my fears will melt away..am i living in a dream world?! )
Any tips on how to get over this??
Post # 3
As of tomorrow, we have 21 days. I would like to just be married already. I would like, right now, to call off the whole thing and just go get married! I ideally wanted a (very) small wedding – like 25 people. And now it’s like 80 and BLEH!
Sooo, basically I’m NO help!
Post # 4
I’ll probably have better advice for you post-wedding, but all I can tell you is that through the planning there will be different aspects that will cause you more stress than others. The best thing I can tell you is to write a list of things you want to stay focused on and keep reverting to that list as a sanity tool.
As for all eyes on you… I used to do some public speaking and would feel SO sick to my stomach before getting in front of the crowd. But, the reality is – when you are up in front of a crowd, there are so many people (yes, all watching you) but you can’t focus on any of them…. so, I don’t think it will be as bad as you think. Plus, remember that these are all people who are there with a single focus – to support YOU.
Post # 5
@Ms_Charisma: i would have settled for a cout house marriage but my FH didnt want that…because at first i didnt want that.
but then after the thought of the entire wedding i decided i didnt care..but now that im planning its fun and i probably would have regretted not doin a big thing in the future.
but wow 21 days!! u must be excited?!?
Post # 6
@oracle: im covered on that aspect..i have a wedding planner that FH made fun of me for ( i ran out and bought it as soon as i knew i needed to plan) but it is soo helpful!
i have check lists and pictures and diagrams…if anything, i am very organized!
but i hope your right…i usually feel nauseated too when im in front of a crowd.
Post # 7
Hopefully they will go away for you. YOu are still a ways away so try not to get yourself worked up right now. I am usually a very anxious person and sometimes take anti-anxiety medication. I brought some with me to my wedding but didnt even think about taking one because of how calm I was. I only had 2 glasses of champagne all day before the wedding and it was more a celebratory thing than a nerves thing. I was just excited to be getting married. You will feel so much love and support from all directions that [hopefully] the nerves wont be that bad! The ONLY time all day I felt a little nervous was right as I started walking down the aisle and it was all eyes on me. I just smiled (I couldnt help it) and looked straight ahead at my husband. I wanted to focus on him and remember his face. I could still see people looking at me but all I remember in that moment is seeing his smile. The nerves melted away instantly! I wasnt nervous at all throughout the whole ceremony because I just tried to be present in the moment and enjoy the whole thing.
Maybe reading this will help you – http://www.consciousweddings.com/relaxSpace/CW_weddingMeditation.html
Post # 8
@clarebee: “I wanted to focus on him and remember his face. I could still see people looking at me but all I remember in that moment is seeing his smile. The nerves melted away instantly!”
aw that helps me alot..thats what i am hoping for.
now, and suggestions on how to deal with tears? i am a BIG cryer. even when i dont want to cry it just comes out. and i know ill be creating a flood on wedding day!! eek!