Post # 1
I’m Indian-Canadian and Fiance is Chinese-Canadian. We will have about 400-450 guests at our reception. We are trying to figure out the food situation. Most Indian weddings in my area have a buffet dinner, while most Chinese receptions have either “Continental” food (i.e. chicken, steak) or a traditional Chinese 10-course meal. We don’t want to go with either of these options.
Some of FI’s older family members (grandma, great-grandma) genuinely can’t handle the spices in Indian food, otherwise we would go with Indian food for everyone.
So far, we have come up with 2 options:
1. Serve Indian food to my guests (family style service – so a choice of 5 main dishes, such as butter chicken, curries, etc. are brought to the table in huge quantities along with individul portions of side dishes), and “Continental” food (?? is that even what it’s called??) to FI’s guests.
2. Serve Indian food (family style, as above) to all guests and have a “special” Chinese meal for a few older members of FI’s immediate family who can’t handle the spices in Indian food.
I prefer the second option. At our engagement party, we had a buffet dinner with both Indian and Chinese food, and I noticed that 90% of our friends and family loaded up on Indian food. I figure if we serve everyone the same meal except for 5 or 6 people, we will avoid anyone feeling like they would have rather had the other option. We’d love to have our guests choose either Indian or Chicken/Steak, but due to the nature of family style service it would be very complicated to accomodate.
What do you bees think? Have any of you successfully blended two very different types of cuisines into one reception? Thanks for reading!!!
Post # 3
What about stations? Maybe a Chinese station, a vegetarian Indian station, and a non-veg Indian station? Salad/fruit could be a station, as well as dessert. Make sure the elderly go first, and everyone else can go through the options by table.
Post # 4
How many guests are you having? The larger your wedding is, the more chance that there will be other guests who can’t handle indian food due to stomach issues or just personal taste. I think the first option is best so everyone can choose what they’d prefer. Why does it have to be indian food for your guests, and chicken/steak for your FI’s guests, though? Can’t you do family style on all tables with both options so everyone can eat what they want. I also like the PP idea of stations.
Post # 5
Were doing stations to handle different tastes and cultures!
Post # 6
If you’re going to have two options I think you should just allow there to be two options and let people pick.
I would feel weird if I knew that because I was your friend I was being forced to eat Indian food while someone at my table who was friends with your Fiance was being forced to eat another kind of food.
Post # 7
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Food stations sound like fun and an easier option, but we want to have a sit down dinner, which is why we’ve come up with these options.
@Krises: We unfortunately can’t give individual people a choice about what kind of food they want because of the service style. With family style service, we pay per table of 8 or 10 instead of per person since food is served to the table as a whole (vs. an individual plated dinner). If we give people a choice, we will have to pay double for the guests who choose Continental.
@kala_way: People who are seated at the same table would not be getting different food – basically the whole table has to be either Indian food or Continental. Family style service doesn’t allow you to have both options at one table.
I talked it over with Fiance, and right now we are leaning towards Indian food for a majority of our 450 guests, except for a few elderly members of his family who will get a different main. With such large numbers I don’t think anyone will notice if a few older people are getting different for one part of the meal.
Thanks for the input bees! I’d still like to hear from more of you 🙂