(Closed) Anyone else having a “big” wedding for their 2nd marriage?

posted 8 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Worker bee

ours isn’t going to be huge either…around 140 or so…which is still bigger than i would prefer ๐Ÿ˜‰  but we are definitely splurging for the trimmings too!

 

we are doing it for the same reason you are…i had a traditional wedding before, but he has never been married and really wanted to have a wedding with all his family and friends.  and I certainly won’t complain about getting a second chance to re-do things i wished i had done differently the first time around! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

Well, I guess the cat is out of the bag now, so my answer would be I am too! This is Mr. SD’s first time around and he’s super excited. It’s in his hometown and 95% of the guestlist is local, so we expect close to 200 people.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We’re having 110 people. Second wedding for me and first for Fiance. My first wedding was teeny tiny (5 people) in Vegas so it is like a first wedding for both of our families.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We’re having 110 people. Second wedding for me and first for Fiance. My first wedding was teeny tiny (5 people) in Vegas so it is like a first wedding for both of our families.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I suppose it depends how you define it.  The actual wedding this time around was only a dozen people.  That was because we are a same-sex couple, and at the time pretty much needed to go to Massachusetts to be married.  However, we did have a reception for 60 people back home.  It was my second wedding, but my wife’s first.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My 2nd wedding is going to be better than my first. I really feel like this is my “real” wedding and the first was just.. well… “eh”. (My first I got married at 18, right out of high school.)

We’re doing a smaller destination wedding, and then a big reception when we get back home.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s my first wedding and his second.  He had all the trimmings and everything the first time but since it’s my first, he wanted me to have my dream day.  ๐Ÿ™‚

I think everyone deserves to have what they would like on such a special day.  I mean maybe if it’s your 8th wedding or something you should keep it simple, but the 2nd, I say go for it!  Anyone who gives you a hard time about it (and I know some people will… they gave it to my fiance) should just get a sweet smile and an “I hope you will find the happiness I have found.”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is my first marriage but my FI’s second.  His first wedding was just in a court house.  We are doing a big white wedding, it is the first time for both of us.

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is my second marriage but first wedding. This is the second marriage and second wedding for my Fiance, but he got no input the first time around. So this time, we’re having a completely unique wedding that’s all about us and our lives and families, and big ass party afterward for about 150 guests. Can’t wait!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

ME ME ME ME

This is my second but FI’s first.  We’re having the big traditional wedding.  250 guests, white dress, veil ect ect ect.

I really don’t count the first one.  We planned it in a week, I bought my dress the day of and the marriage lasted only a little longer than the planning.  I was young (20) and oh so nieve.

Thus far the only one to give me any grief about the white dress and veil is my grandma.  But that’s what grandmas are for.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I sort of am.  Its my second and FI’s first so I don’t want him to be cheated in any way.  I had a traditional wedding the first time around, parents were involved and paid for it.  This time they are not at all involved and are just coming as guests.  Which I struggle with sometimes because I guess I wish my mom would have input on details other than “oh…”  Anyway, we planned on keeping it low-key but it gets bigger and bigger as we keep planning.  We were going to have only 40 for dinner, now we’re at 60 and talking about bumping it up to 80.  We’re inviting about 150 total for the reception.  I’m wearing ivory and won’t have a veil and we’re not doing the garter and bouquet toss.  So there will be *some* things I’m not doing again.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@superteacher: I am definately having a large second wedding. We are expecting 250. Our guestlist is over 300 right now. We are going to do a little cutting soon. My first wedding was really small. His family and closest friends. I didn’t have a single guest. Afterwards my church through me a small shower. So, my FI wanted the whole big wedding. It will be his first wedding, so here we are planning this event. The only thing I wasn’t sure of is with these second weddings it seems inappropriate to have the showers. What do you think about that?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@i2foundu

I agree about the shower thing, it seems….wrong or guilty, but in my case my Fiance family doesn’t have any daughters and this is HIS first wedding and they feel that they want to throw me a shower.  And also, it’s been 10 years between my first wedding and this one, I think the time in between makes a difference.  Turns out, if my Future Mother-In-Law wasn’t throwing me one big one, someone on my side was going to throw me one too, just to show me that they are happy and excited for me whether it’s my first or second wedding.  I’d say, if people want to throw you one, just enjoy it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s my first wedding, but my FH’s second, and this one is “bigger” than his first. It’s not much bigger in terms of guest-count (she had a hugeeeeeeee family, and both families lived nearby so hardly anyone had to travel), but it’s bigger in the “trimmings”, and overall (I don’t mean this too bitchily lol) it will be much nicer than his first wedding, and certainly more of a “big” wedding feel.

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