(Closed) Anyone else having a “big” wedding for their 2nd marriage?

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 47
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - establishment theatre

both our second and yep were doing big and beautiful! both of our first wedding were bigish but were done on a super tight budget and so now what we dreamed of..this time were getting our dream wedding with all the fixings πŸ™‚

Post # 48
3 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

Didn’t have a wedding for the first marriage, so we are doing it up this time. I was only married 6 months last time (haha) and this is the Fiance’s first marriage! πŸ™‚

Post # 49
2585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

I had a big wedding the first time. It was OK and the groom ended up being a cheating looser. SOOOO my second wedding…eerr my REAL wedding was Bigger and Better than the first….and not to mention the groom is a MUCH better man and husband. It was his first wedding so I had to make sure he was not missing out on anything…it would not be fair to him. I also did not get a honeymoon the first time around. My hubby and I got to spend a week in the Bahamas last year! Laughing 

Better Wedding + Better man + Better Honeymoon =  Many Very Happy New Memories

Post # 50
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am doing it right this time. It’s my second marriage but FI’s first. His family is super excited and soooo helpful, and their enthusiasm means the world to me. So we’ve decided to have a big blowout with about 250 guests. 

Post # 51
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

i am going down the aisle for the second and last time.  My first wedding i was  preganant and now i am alittle older and thinner and i have the man of my dreams.  I am have a tradional wedding but smaller number of people!  I can’t wait for 2014.

Post # 52
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Our wedding will be around 70 people. This is the second wedding for me but first for Fiance. I wanted him to  have a special day. We talked about eloping in the begining but then he decided he wanted something with family and close friends.  His parents are excited we decided to have a wedding. We are keeping it more on the casual side. No garter/bouquet toss and probably no traditional dances.

Post # 53
4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My first wedding resemebled going to the DMV to renew your license (very office like, no special clothing, went back to work).


However, for my second I eloped again (H’s first marriage) but we went with the white dress, suit, bouquet, fancy dinner, fancy lodging, photographer.  Just like a wedding but with 2 guests.


Post # 54
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yea.. we’re having the big wedding. I wanted Vegas and Elvis, and he wants the real wedding. It’s both our second marriages, I had a cheap wedding the 1st time around. Now that I look back, I realized how much stuff I missed out on. He had a courthouse marriage.

I feel bad about having another wedding, because several of my friends are like ‘why??’. But you know what? The closer it gets, the more excited I am to see his face as I walk down the aisle.

Side note.. I am marrying the man I was engaged to when I was 21. We split up because we both were not ready. He found me on facebook in 2009, just as I was getting ready to leave my now ex husband. Been together since, and have no regrets.

Post # 55
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

my secnd, his first.  first wedding was with the Justice of the Peace and no one there. so yep we are doing it up big this time.

Post # 56
1874 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was 18 and in Utah getting married when I had my first wedding so we just had a courthouse ceremony with my mom and aunt and 2 of his friends that were already in the same area present (yes they drove 1500 miles for my wedding). I didn’t even wear a white dress, just a white pant suit. We decided whenever we came to TX we were going to have the huge reception to make up for it… yeah that didn’t happen. We didn’t make it to our 2 year anniversary (I left him 10 days before). So yes, this time around I’m doing it the way I want to do it. It’s my FI’s first wedding and I think he’s really nervous about being the center of attention the closer it gets to the big day (he’d rather get married at the courthouse and have dinner with close family at a restaurant) but I can’t wait to be the center of attention! We are having approx 100 guests.

Post # 57
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Bridgewater Place

I’m kind of in the same situation as OP. We are having a “big” wedding – about 100 guests but all the wedding trimmings to go with. This is my first marriage but it is my fiance’s second. The first time around he had a very small just immediate family and like 3 close friends wedding at the church his then-wife went too.

I tried to elope…he wants an actual wedding with family and friends and pomp and circumstance. Can’t say that I’m not enjoying the idea either πŸ™‚

Post # 58
8 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yep! 2nd wedding for me; 1st for him. We are having 200+ guest, very large budget (in my opinion). 

Post # 59
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Had a big first wedding  (120 + guests) with loads of my ex’s family winding up drunk and stepping on my train. It was the unhappiest day in my life. I had like two friends there and neither of them were very close to me. The marriage lasted three months with lots of drama and mild amounts of abuse thrown in for decoration. I left with the clothes on my back and snuck back in a week later to steal my curtains (I don’t know why, maybe because I’d indebted myself to decorate the new house). I still think it is class that I snuck in to thief my curtains back though πŸ™‚ haha!

Getting married in December with all the trimmings, only this time I am making my own decisions and inviting who I want to. 90 people, beautiful venue, and the whole affair is on a need-to-know basis because I won’t wind up with loads of people there who I never wanted, come hell or high water.


My second, his first. He is more excited than I am πŸ™‚

Post # 60
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

yes, we are!  Only about 70 people max, but I never got a wedding the first time around, just a JOTP :/


I’m excited, but I must admit, part of me wishes I had taken Fiance advice and we had gone to vegas lol life is stressful enough with kids, jobs…a house to take care of, planning a wedding and meeting the detail oriented need I have is a bit much some days πŸ˜‰

Post # 61
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Well….here it goes…this is his 4th wedding and my 2nd πŸ™‚ we are not doing anything, it’ll just be the two of us in the courthouse with my best friend and his brother as witnesses, and later next year we are having a church wedding, again just me and him with God and no guests, weird huh? but I already had all the trimmings in my first wedding, and with his 3 weddings he’s had enough too, so this time we want it to be just about us two and God’s blessing, that’s all we need and we can’t wait.

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