Post # 1
So since I’m Getting Married in NY for family but live in Texas (wanted to make sure all teh grannies could go!), Fiance and I decided that we’re going to throw a party 3 months after the wedding in Texas for our local friends. We figure it would make more sense to save our local friends money on flights and hotel, and us on not having to spend more or a bigger venue and catering fees.
The plan for the “After Party” as we’re calling it is rent a park Pavillion for 100 dollars, get BBQ catered, play our ceremony video on our friends projector, and have everyone BYOB. No need for paying a band since most of our friends are musical. We’ll just have designated plave for people to Jam with someone keeping an eye on the instruments (honestly, at parties these guys rarely put them down anyway. I figure we can invite all of our friends and have them BYOB. All in all I think we can keep in under 2k for 60-100 guests.
Some of my friends are calling it a “second wedding” though which I don’t like. It sounds like I’m being greedy wanting two celebrations. But it makes more sense logistically. All of our family will get to drive in and stay with relatives, including most of the members of our bridal party. And my mom wants the wedding to be a BIT fancier than I probably would have done without her input. Besides, how to you talk to more than 100 people in a night? I want to spend TIME with my guests. We’re still going to invite a few of our local friends, but only the closest ones.
Even if I could invited everyone from Texas, loads of people wouldn’t be able to go because of cost and would probably have to give up vacation time.. Plus, my fiance does the training for his company, and every single trainee I’ve met (there are like 40-60 of them) wants to attend. There is no way I could invite ALL of them. But rent a space in a local park for 100 people, get grub together and have people bring their own booze? Hell yes.
But what do you even call that kind of party? I want a good way to refer to it so people stop calling it a second wedding. It’s not like we’re going to exchange our vows.
Post # 2
Call it the after party 🙂 you can even send invites with a blurb about being able to celebrate in a chilled out fun way that’s more a party but the wedding video will be on show and maybe there’ll be some cake or a photographer?
It sounds fantastic and laid back 🙂 it also sounds like people will be able to mingle easier than at some weddings. So i guess if people call it a second wedding you could say yeah but with a BBQ instead of a sit down meal and casual outfits and no band or whatever it is to show the person what feel you’re going for. It really does sound very romantic, fun and special 🙂
Post # 3
I want to do the exact same thing! I’m getting married out of the country, so I plan on having an after party as well. I’m happy to share ideas as I come up with them!
Post # 4
Happily Ever After Party 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
kaowl : Perfect
rao4400 : Sounds like our casual wedding minus the BYOB part. Awesome plan 😄
Post # 6
I absolutely adore the idea of calling it a Happily Ever After Party
Post # 7
When we were in the process of picking a destination for our wedding, we talked about doing the same thing. I am from WV and we met there in college, my fiancé is from MI, his parents now live in TN, and we now live in NYC. We talked about having a party just like this in WV for my family and our college friends since most cannot come all the way to Hawaii for the wedding. It ultimately was turned into what were calling an engagement party, but the same idea. In a park under a shelter, parents are doing BBQ, and we’re getting a keg or two. I think it’s a great idea!
Post # 8
I like the “Happily Ever After Party” idea! Just make sure your guests know gifts are not expected since they are not being invited to the wedding. My guess is your friends will still give small gifts, but it is best to leave it to their discretion.
Especially since it is a casual BYOB party! Sounds fun and very relaxing.
Post # 9
kaowl : Omg that is so cute! Totally using that!
southernbride16 : Yeah I’ll have to make sure they know that. I’ll just put it on the facebook or eventbrite page and keep the digital presence away from the wedding website too. I am worried about people thinking this is a “Oh we don’t want gifts but everyone is going to bring one anyway so you’ll be shamed” kind of deal. That happened to me once at a birthday and I was really embarrassed.
heavenlyflower : Haha that probably would have been my wedding if it weren’t for my mom. But alas I’m the “Only Daughter” and my mom is saint. Your wedding sounds divine :).
Post # 10
jillianjigz : Nice! My main ideas right now are getting a project and making sure we have a great wedding video. Thankfully my mom found a photographer who has a reasonable video add on, and all I need is raw well shot footage and either myself, my fiance or one of my friends can edit it for us.
The other idea I was thinking was potenitally getting my wedding dress altered into a short dress. But I have to wait until I actually pick my dress to see if that would even work. I might even get my hair done, we’ll see. But I don’t know, it’s all so pie in the sky right now.
Post # 11
walkerwilkins : That’s awesome! definitely seems like the same idea. Haha I wish my Dad lived in Texas, he makes the best BBQ. No way am I working a smoker in a pretty dress though lol. Every time I make his recipes I usually have a “after cooking” outfit lol.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Regarding gifts, it really depends on if they were invited to the original NY wedding and just opted not to come, or you cut all the Texas people out alltogether. If they were invited and couldn’t come, I’d assume most people would bring a gift. If not, then probably not.
I attended something similar to this where the couple took everyone local canoeing and called it a post-wedding “float” and then we went out for ice cream afterwards 🙂