(Closed) Anyone else having a 1 year engagement & then eloping?

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Worker bee

@Esperanzy:  We’re eloping next spring. We just bought a house; we want to get settled and renovate things before the big day.

Your plans sound like so much fun! I’d spend the next year finding things to do on the road trip, choosing the restaurant where you will have dinner, and picking a hotel to stay at.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Esperanzy:  

We were engaged for 15 months!  But we have a rollercoaster of a ride.

 

Months 0-4 of engagement: trying to figure where to have this wedding – all family is far away

Months 5-10; planning, paying, researching for a Grand Teton National Park/Jackson Hole wedding

Month 10: My dad was given 4-6 months left to live, wedding in 5 months.  We cancel wedding.

Month 13 of engagement: My dad passed away.

Month 15: we get married in late August; 88 days after dad passed away

 

Before we got my dad’s news (he decided to stop chemo, it was not working any more), I had the hardest time with my family.  My mom saying, “What else is there going to be; that’s a long way to go for a wedding?  Why do I even have to go?”  We’re talking a 3 hour plane ride which I dutiful made 2x a year for 14 years to go see them.  My BIL telling people, “You know that venue isn’t that fancy.”  My other sister asking, “Do you even NEED people there to witness your vows or not?”  To compensate for it not being really fancy, I was throwing a 3 day event!  Welcome pizza party dinner, wedding/reception, and then white water rafting guided by my friends.

 

So a lot happened in that in 15 months!  Our elopement happened because no one was interested in coming to my state for an immediate family wedding 3 months after dad passed.  They did not say it was too soon, but they did say they have no money or vacation days or were scared of flying.

 

Thankfully – and truly thankfully – our Plan B elopement to Canada probably turned out so much more awesome than any other plan with guests that I could have envisioned.  I mean not one lick of stress the entire time.  It was perfection!  My dad always encouraged elopements – he said weddings are a PITA for everyone involved. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

OP, my SO and I are most likely doing the same thing. Our families, though they would throw us a wedding, are not well off, and we don’t want them to do that. We’ve also told them any money they would have contributed to the wedding would be better off being used more practically if they really want to gift us with something. I think elopement is a very romantic idea. We’re going to only sort of elope – marriage at the courthouse during afterhours ( for privacy ) with a few immediate family members, dinner afterwards, and then leaving for a 3 day honeymoon the next day. We also do not want the spotlight. I have always wanted that first wedding dance, but we can do that by ourselves one night. : )

Get excited by planning out your trip, where to eat, what to wear! You don’t have to buy a wedding dress, but you can still find something nice, get your hair done, get a bouquet to carry. Get a small wedding cake to enjoy with some champagne in your hotel room. Take lots of pictures or videotape the ceremony for your family. The most exciting thing is knowing you are marrying the love of your life!

 

Post # 9
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We are having a 15 month engagement then going to Vegas with just a few friends and family.  We can’t afford the big reception so we’re planning that for 2016 (just a party, no ceremony).  We’re trying to work it so we have one day before everyone arrives, and one day after where it’s just Us.  Our big honeymoon will be in 2016.  I’m planning on getting my hair and makeup done, we’re hiring someone to take photos afterwards, and I’m getting a fun dress (still trying to pick one!). 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

One way that we kept up the hype is to have a wedding at a beautiful resort. The city hall where we live looks like a drab courtroom. We both wanted our elopement to be picturesque, so we married at a lake with all of the fall foliage. I wore a simple wedding gown and I had beautiful flowers, along with lovely wedding announcements. We also had vanilla and chocolate cupcakes to signify our interracial union. We also enjoyed the gourmet food at the resort.

What I’m trying to say is that having many large wedding elements made the elopement more exciting for us. Maybe that will help you as well? You are enjoying a road trip with your hubby and having a little honeymoon, so that will help too.

Have a good elopement, my friend. We eloped because we couldn’t afford a wedding and my parents were trying to manipulate us with money. We also didn’t want to wait until we could afford a wedding; we really wanted to be husband and wife.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

To be honest, I’m a bit jealous of your plan.
I’d love to elpoe! I am still crossing my fingers, hoping that my FI will turn to me and say “Let’s elope, you crazy gal!”
Yeah, not going to happen. FI wanted a wedding iwth all his friends and family there, and I want him to be happy. I’m happy with it now, though sometimes it’s overwhelming for me!

Anyway, I’d try to look up local photobooths near where you’re getting married, and try to make the detour to hop into one when you’re done!
Blow a crazy amount – like $40! – on tons of fun photobooth pictures – who cares, it’s your wedding day!! 😀

 

 

Post # 14
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Esperanzy:  

Actually, my wedding was mostly terrible. Some details were fine but we are having a vow renewal because I am haunted by that day.

Post # 16
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Esperanzy:  

I hope so. I think your elopement will be nice too. Just add whatever you want to it if it would make you happier and more excited. You could also have a small wedding if that would help make the experience better for you. When you have a small event, it is easier to make things fancier.

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