(Closed) Anyone else having a Self-Marriage?

posted 5 years ago in 30 Something
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Busy bee

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Post # 137
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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MeandYou:  My family would laugh at me because this sounds unreal, and I doubt I’d have any support. I guess I find it ridiculous to ask for gifts just because you’ve proclaimed that you want to be single for life/commited to yourself. Wouldn’t you just act on it? Best of luck to the OP though, and good for her if people in her life are actually buying it lol

Post # 138
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Sugar bee

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MeandYou:  THIS! Makes no bloody sense to me either and I’m not a Brit.

Post # 139
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Blushing bee

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Post # 140
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Busy bee

Why do you need a ceremony to promise things to yourself…

EDIT: Just read through the comments. Im glad you thought things through and I wish you all the best. Its really important to learn to love yourself before you find anyone else and thats a great step you’re going towards. 

Post # 141
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Buzzing bee

Personal opinions aside, it doesn’t sound like you WANT to be single forever, so I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 142
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Bumble Beekeeper

All I wanna know is why this thread is stickied….

Post # 143
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Buzzing bee

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immoralbeloved:  not at all what I said whatsoever. as far as shallow goes, perhaps you should actually read the comment I made with some depth rather than skimming it and leaping to conclusions. 

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Post # 144
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Buzzing bee

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mrswhitecat:  thank you. It’s nice to know that at least someone here actually reads a comment before getting all defensive over it. 

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Post # 145
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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mojitomint44:  Wishing you all the best!! I’m thrilled that you are taking some tremendous steps towards self-care. You absolutely deserve it! Anyone who comes to this page, before you jump on OP, please see her updates on pages 7 and 10. She has really thought through this and is taking some good steps forward (personal trainer, therapy, etc.). 

Post # 146
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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mojitomint44:  ive never had anyone go through it but ive heard of someone doing it. Just like a union between two people, a union with oneself is beautiful. 

Hope everyone is there to celebrate you 🙂 

MAZEL TOV!!! 

(Sorry that others frown upon it; but like many other types of unions (interracial, religion, LGBTQ, polygamy, etc), it is one that is not understood but it does not make it any less special). 

Best to you!!!

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Helper bee

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SmilingMrsD:  The majority are frowning on this because she was going to ask for gifts. That would be ridiculous. LOL

Post # 148
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Bumble bee
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snowflake2016:  well, i dont see the big deal. We take/give gifts for a lot of other reasons; dont see why not for this.

Post # 149
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Sugar bee

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mojitomint44:  Mo. Babe. You’re looking at this all wrong, boo. You’re ONLY 35 or so!! Consider this..I’ve been on dates/dinner or whatever with over 100 men between now and 1980. I married TWO of them. Everybody you meet isn’t THE ONE. As a matter of fact, MOST of them will NOT be THE ONE. You will “break up” with every single person you ever date except for the one or two you keep in a whole lifetime of dates. I can understand being of a certain age and seeing friends around you getting engaged, married and having childen and wanting that for yourself and wondering why it hasn’t happened but you also have to consider many of those unions are also falling to pieces at alarmig rates as well. Relax and enjoy pleasant moments for what they are – a good show, a good dinner, etc… Perhaps one of those will turn into 2 or 3 or 4. Take it one step at a time. There’s a lid for every pot! You’ll find yours.

Post # 150
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Helper bee

With how old we are living thesedays… OP you’re not even half way through life 🙂

Many people do get divorced and find someone even at 50YO. There’s plenty of time. Take care of yourself, be healthy, positive and let it come to you.

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