Post # 121
I’m happy that you reconsidered this idea because you probably would have received some very negative attention from your guests which would make you feel worse.
You may want to consider therapy for your self esteem and entitlement issues. I only mention difficulties with entitlement because you seem to think that others are obligated to give you items and attention.
Post # 122
If you had to save for a year to do it, at the expense of your own potential future needs? I’d pretty much say the same thing. Not going into debt is a pretty low bar.
Post # 123
was only speaking the truth about the discrimination against obese individuals in the dating world. How did you come to the conclusion that she meant overweight people cannot find love? I don’t understand….
Post # 124
She’s already updated a change in mind anyway… page 7 I believe. So it’s probably not worth arguing over.
Post # 125
Can’t wait to hear details of the honeymoon!
Post # 126
This reminds me of when Dennis Rodman married himself.
Post # 127
omg, I want to wear a tutu and eat a cake, lol.
Post # 128
I’ll never for the life of me understand why people register when they have kids. A wedding I get, you’re hosting a big party, but kids? Nope. Why should I buy nappies for your baby? (And I say this as a heavily pregnant mother).
So, I find it damned hypocritical that so many PPs have no problem forcing their acquaintances to buy bottle sterilizers but balk at this single woman for registering.
If anything, a single woman living on one in needs the community support more than anyone.
Post # 129
This thread started as laughable, then turned really sad…
Post # 130
I find the idea of a self marriage difficult to grasp. There are so any ways you could choose to show your commitment to self. However, even if I didn’t understand, and you were a good family or friend, I would support your decision. What you are doing in no way is harmful to anyone else and we all have the choice to participate or not. IMO, if I were you, I would use the money that you will be using for your wedding to enrich myself…. travel by myself, take some classes to learn something new, do new things to meet new people… once you are happy with who you are by yourself as a single women, then you would have truly made a commitment to self.
Post # 131
I know, but in case OP has second thoughts I wanted to add the financial consideration. It goes to my bias that 20k for a one day party is a questionable use of resources for the majority of people in their 20s or 30s.
Post # 132
I’m still trying to understand self-marriage but I’m seeing more and more people doing this nowadays. You seem excited and happy for taking this step in your life and that’s all that matters. I think some posts were uncalled for and rude and I’m assuming that is due to the fact that many of us don’t understand or see the reasoning behind it. But if this what you want to do and you want to share your committment with family and friends…then go for it! But I do have to ask…if you found someone that you want to be with…will you be willing to give them a chance? But if you don’t want to be in a relationship and focus on yourself…there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that either.
Post # 133
My best friend and I went out to lunch and had a long conversation. She didn’t know about any of this, having been out of town for awhile. I told her, and she said something that I didn’t expect.
This is important to you. So, why not get dressed up, get your hair done, a mani/pedi, go on your day off alone to somewhere that means a lot to you and make those promises to be loyal and committed to your well being and happiness silently. Don’t make it a wedding because it’s not. Don’t tell people or post pictures on Facebook or register for Chrissakes. You’ve been through a lot, and if this is something that you feel the need to do this to move on and take a fresh step, then do it. It’s your life, you live only once. I’ll support your decision, whatever it is.
Post # 134
To be honest as another mid-thirties single who is not dating or entertaining anyone, the way you commit to loving yourself is to just do it. You do the things that make you happy, live your life the way you want, and pursue your goals. Everything will fall into place, including meeting someone. Don’t spend all that money on a “ceremony”, instead take yourself on a great vacation.
Post # 135
If I was to put together all the homeware items I’ve received as gifts into a pile and then divide that into wedding gifts and non-relationship-status-related gifts, the latter pile would be much larger. I started receiving homeware items as gifts when I was a teenager for birthdays, Christmas and other life milestones (like my high school and uni graduations).
I’m all for celebrating the milestones in a person’s life, but I would definitely be pretty damn confused if I received an invition to an event celebrating a person’s commitment to themselves. I thought that that was pretty much the most profound commitment anyone could make, by default.