(Closed) Anyone else having a “smaller wedding”? I may be overreacting….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

my wedding is about the same size as yours and i think it’s getting pretty big! I always thought i would have less than 100 people.

I think 120-130 is a good size, it will be a fun party, but I will still have time to talk to everyone.  I have been to a wedding that was about 400 ppl, in my opinion, waaayy to big for me! (but no offense to those having 400 ppl πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@aruba: sigh some folks don’t think before they speak, i am having a smaller wedding which in this part of the country is unheard of. i mean i am seriously inviting like 60-70 folks. here a small wedding is 200 people!!!!! let’s just say i have had some strange looks etc and i always say i want an extremely nice wedding for the folks that i love and hey we’re in a recession, i cannot invite everyone.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

don’t worry about people who say things like that… you have obviously matured past the “keeping up with the jones’s” mentality!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

That’s a weird comment. I think 120 is big! And really, I think smaller weddings are at an advantage because less of your budget is eaten up by catering costs. I would just ignore it; the size is right for you and that’s all that matters.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Big and small are relative.  I wouldn’t worry about her perspective on things.  Some people use their wedding as a means to show-off, I hate that.  I’m not saying that’s what your best friend is doing, she may be very unaware of how she’s coming off.  But I’ve never really thought the bigger wedding was nicer simply because it was bigger.  That’s just silly πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Our wedding will have a max of 65 people…so even smaller than yours. I can understand where you are coming from, and I don’t think you are being over sensitive.

Think of it this way – she probably won’t be able to see everyone at her wedding and have intimate time with them to thank them for coming – you will.

No, bigger does not make it better – personally I think it makes it more stressful.

She probably didn’t mean it to be mean, try to let it roll off your shoulders and focus on your own fabulously intimate wedding πŸ˜‰

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Eh, just let it roll off your back.  I’m pretty sure 120 ppl is about “average” sized for a wedding.  We’ll be have about 60 guests max at ours.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I think 120 is big too!! But the point is… who cares!!! Your friend is being silly…. don’t let it get to you… You know your wedding will probly be waaaay better anyways πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t think she was trying to be mean. She just stated a fact. And I also don’t think she was trying to show off. We are only having 50 guests. It really doesn’t matter how many guests other brides are having or did have. I don’t think you should think anything of it because it was just a conversation comment. She probably wishes she didn’t have to have so many guests.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

That is NOT small!!! I’m having a wedding of around 100 people!!! I know a girl who is having like 300 people at her wedding, I can’t believe it! She just sounds like one of those girls who like to show off, and I’m sure she didn’t mean any harm by it. The amount of people you’re inviting is a perfect amount!!!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2000

Vent all you want, hon!

You’re absolutely right that bigger is in no way better.

Incidentally, my hubs and I only had our family members at our wedding, and then we had a huge reception a month later, because that was right for us.  I fully believe every couple has to decide what’s right for them.

Let her comments roll off you because you know better.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

That’s too bad that she has you feeling down – you shouldn’t though! Like a lot of the previous posters have said, 120 is actually big compared to lots of other weddings. There’s no magic number of guests that determines how great a wedding will be – as long as you have people there who geuinely care about you and support you, that’s what makes the party!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

that’s not small at all, and even if it is considered smaller, so what? there are some pros to having a smaller guest list. you can afford to have some extras because there are less people to feed, and you can make it more personal. i’m doing a lot of diy for my 110 person wedding, i’d NEVER want to spend the time crafting all of this stuff if i had to do double all of this work!

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