(Closed) Anyone else having alcohol free reception?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Were not having alcohol at our reception and my brother didnt have any at his wedding.  My dads side of the family is really against alcohol, and it would just upset them. Alcohol is not that important to me and I dont need it to have fun. Plus if guests REALLY want to drink they can always go to the bar outside of our ballroom and buy one. People did this at my brothers wedding, and some of our friends are already talking about doing that.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

ashimmin2 – if people stepped out, like in July’s wedding above, would that bother you?  Some people just enjoy cocktails at weddings, or wine at dinner, or champagne to toast with.  Though if your families and guests don’t feel this way, I don’t see a problem.  But if you have people that think radically differently, I’m afraid people will miss it a lot.  No way would that fly with my circle of friends..

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I don’t really drink and Fiance does – we decided to have alcohol because we wanted our guests to be comfortable. I also know some couples who both don’t drink, but are providing alcohol for guests.  Is there a good reason you’re not doing it? If it’s just financial/because your family doesn’t drink, I think most caterers won’t charge you for non-drinking guests. 

I think if you are having a shorter, afternoon reception without dancing, no alcohol could work. But for a traditional evening dinner and dancing type of wedding, I’m not sure if guests would really get into it without drinking.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… I’m not sure people would stay if we had a dry wedding. My parents friends drink, both of our friends drink… and I don’t like drunk people.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I went to my cousin’s wedding over the summer (they are VERY religious) and they had no alcohol or dancing or even music at their reception. But I will tell you that it was a very nice wedding and reception. The ceremony and reception were both held in the church. It was one of the most sentimental weddings I have ever been too and I’ll probably never forget it. I think it depends on where your having your reception at. Like the others, if there is a bar outside of your hall (I’m having my reception in a hotel Ballroom, and there is a bar right outside the door), then I think maybe you should just have beer and wine, wine and champagne, just wine, etc. Even if nobody drinks it, the option is still there and at least you won’t have to worry about people walking out of your reception to buy their own alcohol. Just a suggestion though. Like I said before, the church wedding and reception was the most sentimental and the most memorable out of all the weddings I’ve been too. Best of Luck.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@girlwitharing alot of people that are really religious get very upset when alcohol is provided at a wedding. My cousin had alcohol at her wedding and my dads side of the family got so upset at the reception they left early. Sometimes its easier not to step on peoples toes. Providing alcohol is not a necessity. Like I said if its absolutely necessary to have fun, they can buy drinks.

Im not saying this is the case of the OP but just explaining how sometimes its a very touchy subject.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hate to say it, but i think alcohol is needed! A lot of people feel more comfortable and relaxed after a drink. Not saying you have to provide a full bar, but maybe some wine or champagne to toast with or something?

I know that a dry wedding would NOT fly with my family (or his!) or our friends! And if we got invited to a dry wedding, we would probably be like “really?” and I know we wouldn’t stay as long as we would if there were drinks.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you have to know your audience… and it sounds like your family at least won’t miss the alcohol.  I personally, would be pretty surprised showing up at a wedding and finding no booze, if I wasn’t informed of that in advance.  Actually — funny story — my sister went to a wedding a few weeks ago and took almost an hour to get there via public transportation, rather than driving to the wedding b/c her and her friend were planning on drinking copiously at the wedding.  Imagine her surprise when it turned out to be a dry wedding!  So — the lesson is that different people have different expectations.  Just make sure that you anticipate the expectations of your guests so that you at least keep most people happy 🙂

Post # 11
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Newbee

I think the thing people need to realize is not all crowds are the same. Some of you girls that are saying alcohol is necessary are thinking about your families. Some famiiies are big drinkers, while others are not. Its a little sad that people think alcohol is what makes a wedding. I think no alcohol or dancing would be a little boring, but if everything else is there, alcohol is not that important. Ive been to weddings before with out drinks and had a great time. Also, I kind of hate people who get trashed at weddings, its just not appropriate.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re not having alcohol, its simply not a priority for us. I don’t think either side of our families or our friends will mind, but that has to do with the crowd that we’re close to. Also, we’re doing a brunch reception, where I’d think fewer people would drink anyway. We are planning on doing a coffee and juice bar, so there will still be tasty beverages that fit the brunch setting a little better 🙂

Post # 15
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Honey bee

I’ve never been to a wedding that served alcohol, and even the folks who have no problem saying what’s on their mind (though they have enough class not to say anything to the couple) had no issues with it either. My family would never expect alcohol at a wedding as the majority don’t drink to begin with, but none are opposed to having it on the premises. Also, one of my best friends who is a pastor whose religion doesn’t allow her or any other member to drink alcohol, she has been very gracious in not being judgemental toward us since she will be performing the ceremony. While there are many ministers who will refuse to perform a ceremony if any alcohol is consumed at the reception, that has never once been an issue with her. FH’s family does drink but they have said they would not miss it if wasn’t there, and they aren’t just saying that to please anyone. The only reason we are serving it is because it is one of FH’s few specific requests during the planning. Otherwise, we would absolutely have a non-alcoholic wedding, and everyone we know knows how to (and does) enjoy themselves easily without it.

If you don’t want alcohol there, don’t let anyone anywhere (even online) pressure you into serving it. No one anywhere has the right to say what they feel is required for your wedding to go off without a hitch, especially since you know your crowd best and they don’t. While alcohol may be required in their minds, that is not the case for everyone. Just like the folks who know they don’t need or want alcohol to enjoy themselves are not fooling themselves either, contrary to what others think or say otherwise based on their own preferences. When it becomes a problem is when people feel they absolutely cannot enjoy themselves for 5 minutes without a drink. In that case, they have personal issues to deal with on their own time.

A reception is as festive or boring as you make it out to be, and alcohol has nothing to do with that, despite popular belief.

 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

I still agree with everyone!! 🙂 Interesting post!

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